Yes, I understand that but, whenever there are posts on here about lazy useless men, there are often multiple childen, dogs, a large house with a big mortgage. None of those just happen out of nowhere either.
Heard of sunk cost fallacy? It applies to many a marriage.
Many women infantilise men. And I don't know why. Perhaps it meets a mothering/nurturing need in them.
Women do not seek to infantilise men, this is such a MRA train of thought. ‘Nagging at men is mean, they’re grown adults who don’t need to be told’. The same men who cannot see mess beyond a few dishes that need washing or the lawn mowing unless told about it. The same men who never make dentist/doctor/hair appointments for their children, they expect them to just happen and be told about it later. The same men who don’t think anything needs doing before leaving the house except put their shoes on.
Women want men to pull their weight at home without being told. Men are resisting a society that expects them to do this. So women are at fault, for nagging, for expecting, for trying to change what being a ‘man’ in the world is. So many women are leaving and trying to show the next generation that they don’t have to put up with it before it’s 3 kids and a mortgage deep, which of course is wrong as well because poor men and the effects it’s having on them. However this is looked at, the woman is always blamed for men’s ineptitude.