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Wanking

61 replies

Krickley · 13/08/2023 18:35

aibu or is this ok?

im 99% sure my DH had a wank on the sofa last night. I was in bed it was around midnight, my bedroom door was open. I heard what i thought was DH going i to the kitchen with keys but it was his belt jangling and i then heard him rip off lots of kitchen towel, clean himself up and zip trousers back up/do belt up. Yuk never heard him do that before but on the sofa??

he is so secretive with his phone. Idc if its porn but i do worry its more than that. He’s constantly texting and switched phone off if i walk into the room. I cannot get hold of his phone, he wouldn’t let me. Gives me side eye if hes texting to see if im looking. All makes me think something is going on. How can you tell if hes up to no good ?

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TregunaMekoides · 13/08/2023 18:42

TomatoSandwiches · 13/08/2023 18:40

But wanking on the sofa? A communal area?

So? People have sex on sofas and everything.

TomatoSandwiches · 13/08/2023 18:40

But wanking on the sofa? A communal area?

readbooksdrinktea · 13/08/2023 18:40

Wanking fine. Cheating, if he is, not fine.

TregunaMekoides · 13/08/2023 18:39

FutureThroughLensOfThePast · 13/08/2023 18:37

You're asking two different things here.

Your husband having a wank in private - fine.
Your husband possibly being unfaithful - not fine.

Exactly this.

Blankspace4 · 13/08/2023 18:38

Are you having regular sex? A wank is a normal part of human sexual desire, especially if not (and spoken as a woman not having regular sex at the moment!!)

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 13/08/2023 18:38

If he wants to masturbate then why can't he?

Possible cheating is a separate issue.

Chastened · 13/08/2023 18:38

Two different things, like a pp said. What is the significance of the sofa? Are you worried about staining?

StarlightLady · 13/08/2023 18:38

As a woman who regularly enjoys some "me time", I could hardly complain about a partner doing it. The needs are toatally differnet from 1:1 sex.

multisurface · 13/08/2023 18:37

Can't he have a wank?

FutureThroughLensOfThePast · 13/08/2023 18:37

You're asking two different things here.

Your husband having a wank in private - fine.
Your husband possibly being unfaithful - not fine.

BCBird · 13/08/2023 18:37

OP I hope you get to.the bottom.of tbis shifty behaviour