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Practical or pretentious?

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AgnestaVipers · 09/08/2023 19:40

AIBU to secretly hanker after a dressing room?

I don't much like getting dressed or undressed with my partner in the bedroom, so I would love to have a dressing room where I can disrobe in dignity. (I'm clumsy and rushing, and end up tangled in my knickers and lurching across the room).

What about a boot room, for chucking dirty footwear in and hosing down the dog?
A wine cellar?
A home gym?
A wine cellar?

Do you secretly hanker after any of these, or others? Are these things genuinely useful or merely pretentious status symbols?

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Saz12 · 14/08/2023 23:20

Ooh! Staff quarters, with actual staff to put in them.... a butler, at least, as i do hate butling myself...

NotAMug · 10/08/2023 21:41

100% dressing room would be my dream, I have about 3 times too many clothes than space.

Would like a proper music room, we are all musical and have piano, guitars, drum kits etc and would love space for a sound proofed room with all the studio equipment set up.

Definitely a pantry and a home gym. Boot room with space for sports bags etc.

I am not fussed about having a bigger house for any other reason, don't need big rooms particularly just those bits added on.

MasterBeth · 10/08/2023 19:20

Louloulouenna · 09/08/2023 19:44

Couldn’t live without a boot room, ours is one of the biggest rooms we have - love it!

You could. You really could. Most of us do.

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AgnestaVipers · 10/08/2023 19:17

Why not?

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leftoversfortea · 10/08/2023 11:30

Actually, what I really need is an indoor swimming pool. Does that count?

MsRinky · 10/08/2023 11:07

We bought this house partly because of the walk-in pantry and the small utility: just enought space for the washer, a small chest freezer and a Sheila-Maid airer above it. Downstairs is mostly open-plan, so not having the washing machine droning away in the living area was crucial.

I would say a library, but my husband would say that the whole sodding house is already a library.. I have a bit of a book problem. I have a mezzanine office that has my WFH desk, more books, a studio couch and a yoga mat and it is lovely.

AffIt · 10/08/2023 10:24

In addition to my previously-dream rooms, I didn't know I wanted an orangery until I read this thread, but now I want an orangery.

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AgnestaVipers · 10/08/2023 09:04

We also have a key safe where all keys and spares are kept, all clearly labelled with their own hooks.

This is next-level stuff. I must raise my game.

I have also realised that, given we are a family of bookworms, a library should also be on my list.

Thank you all for normalising my dreams. 😊

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Voodoochile · 10/08/2023 09:02

I’ve been nosing around on Rightmove and came across a house where the master bedroom had 2 en suites, on one either side AND a separate dressing room. It was a barn conversion so this was all up a separate set of stairs at the opposite end to the rest of the bedrooms. And it had a massive utility/boot room.

And I couldn’t afford it, even if I sold a kidney.

MrsSkylerWhite · 10/08/2023 09:00

DaisyAndDonaldDuck · Yesterday 19:41
I don't much like getting dressed or undressed with my partner in the bedroom

Well this is odd.”

Why? I don’t particularly enjoy applying deodorant, putting in a panty liner, etc. with my husband in the room.

we both give each other a bit of space in the mornings. You need to retain some mystery even when you’re old like us 😁

purser25 · 10/08/2023 09:00

Well I would like a craft room library utility room walk in wardrobe but no chance

GorillaInBikini · 10/08/2023 08:57

Oh gosh I too would love an orangery!

GorillaInBikini · 10/08/2023 08:56

We have all of these things, well the home gym just houses our Peloton but we both use it almost daily. And the wine cellar has more random oddities in it than wine.

They all came with the house. We live out of the village a bit so it's nice to have creature comforts without having to leave.

I do like the dressing room. When we lived in London we had to keep off season clothes in the loft and do a change around. It's more for the storage space than an aversion to changing in the bedroom.

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AgnestaVipers · 10/08/2023 08:51

@Teenangels , we have a snug, too, but not space for a drinks cabinet. That is a great idea and one I will put on my wish list. 😀

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AgnestaVipers · 10/08/2023 08:44

Fivecluckyhens · 09/08/2023 20:57

I want an orangery

Now you're talking!

@NannyGythaOgg , talk about living the dream!

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McQueensMuse · 10/08/2023 07:03

Oh I would love a boot room. With a dog washing/grooming station in it.

If I won euro millions, I would design and build a house and an entire floor would be just for me and my partner.
It would go like this... Main bedroom with a bathroom either side which lead into dressing rooms then into walk in wardrobes. Heaven.

Clarinet1 · 10/08/2023 06:56

I live in a fairly small one bedroom flat but if I could have another decent-sized room (say 14’ x 10’) it would be library cum music room cum office cum spare room!

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 10/08/2023 05:24

DaisyAndDonaldDuck · 09/08/2023 19:41

I don't much like getting dressed or undressed with my partner in the bedroom

Well this is odd.

Is it? Because I thought "oh yeah, same here" as soon as I read the OP.

It's not the nudity, I don't mind him seeing naked. I just like peace and privacy for the undignified bits of strapping myself into a bra, scooping around inside arranging my boobs properly, pulling on tights or socks, trying on various outfits till I find one I'm happy with.

I'd bloody love a walk-in wardrobe/dressing room OP. And a boot room - having somewhere to hose off the muddy dog (and frequently muddy me) after a winter's walk would be brilliant. And a utility room. And my own bathroom that I don't have to share with anyone...

Ah well, a girl can dream!

hattie43 · 10/08/2023 05:19

Definitely a boot room with a dog shower .

DaisyAndDonaldDuck · 10/08/2023 05:04

Moneynewpence · 10/08/2023 00:26

No it isn't. Not all of us are exhibitionists and some of us have very small bedrooms

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Getting dressed and undressed in front of your partner is not being an exhibitionist Confused

For you to see it in that way is very odd. If you’re not comfortable doing that then you’re probably with the wrong person because that attitude isn’t healthy.

Moneynewpence · 10/08/2023 00:26

DaisyAndDonaldDuck · 09/08/2023 19:41

I don't much like getting dressed or undressed with my partner in the bedroom

Well this is odd.

No it isn't. Not all of us are exhibitionists and some of us have very small bedrooms

dramoy · 10/08/2023 00:14

everyone I know with a home gym barely uses it.

walk in wardrobes are great for storage but I never got dresses if in there.

Can you have a boot room if you don't wear boots or walk much?

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/08/2023 23:55

Is a boot room the same as a mud room? Small room just inside an outside door where you take off all your muddy and wet outer clothes?

We have a screened porch that serves that purpose.

I agree on the dressing room. I have an office/guest room/dressing room and it’s great. Nothing kills the mood of a special evening out than seeing your partner wrestle with shape wear!

Thepollonator · 09/08/2023 23:47

I have a craft room and it's my absolute sanctuary, my happy place, it's actually quite a big bedroom so it fits all of my paper craft stuff in as well as two knitting machines!
My husband has the sun room as his music room so we both have a nice place to chill.
I always feel a bit of a show off when I mention the rooms we have but we have waited a long long time to get it.

justanothercat · 09/08/2023 22:45

AgnestaVipers · 09/08/2023 19:40

AIBU to secretly hanker after a dressing room?

I don't much like getting dressed or undressed with my partner in the bedroom, so I would love to have a dressing room where I can disrobe in dignity. (I'm clumsy and rushing, and end up tangled in my knickers and lurching across the room).

What about a boot room, for chucking dirty footwear in and hosing down the dog?
A wine cellar?
A home gym?
A wine cellar?

Do you secretly hanker after any of these, or others? Are these things genuinely useful or merely pretentious status symbols?

I get you! Just to get dressed in peace!