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Getthisfatsuitoffme · 07/08/2023 21:02

So tired of being fat.

Tired of not being able to wear the beautiful & trendy clothes I want to wear.
Tired of how it makes me look so awful (I don’t carry weight well, when slim I’m quite good looking, with weight on, pretty awful looking)
I want to have more energy and feel a lot better.
I want my 5 year old Dd to be proud of me
I want to be in the best health I can to be around longer for my Dd

I need to lose around 3 stone

In the past I could only lose weight and maintain with cardio and frequent cardio, plus low/no carbs.

I eat healthily, but probably too much, this coupled with no exercise routine anymore or finding time for it means the weight has piled on after years of fertility meds and pregnancy.

If I went on the exercise bike 3-4 times per week and walked my dog every day, would I see weight loss, how long would it take?

I really want a wonderful, slim summer next year

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whirlygirly · 09/08/2023 20:26

Before you beat yourself up because everyone is telling you you're doing it wrong, I would really advise reading up about intermittent fasting. I did not lose any weight in 3 years on a calorie controlled diet. I weighed and measured and did not cheat. I felt flabby, hopeless and frustrated.

Now I understand what I was doing to my insulin levels by eating regular, very small meals, I have made changes which mean I'm back in all my smallest clothes.

I've lost well over 2 stone painlessly and without calorie counting by simply modifying when I eat and trying to go for healthy, real food options. Tim Spector's books are great at explaining the scientific basis for this. He basically rubbishes calorie counting as it's based on an archaic concept and everyone processes food differently.

CClaire · 08/08/2023 14:53

You need to downsize your portions as well OP. Good luck.

CatsSnore · 08/08/2023 14:53

And not all calories are equal. Your body uses more calories to digest protein then carbs. I lose weight eating a diet rich in olive oil, nuts, cheese and meat with non starchy veg. You have to work out which way of eating suits you.

Cakesandbabes · 08/08/2023 14:49

Eggandcresspleasemummy · 08/08/2023 14:18

You need to examine your calorie intake. If your intake is more than you expend no amount of exercise will change things.

Yup.
For example just looking at Jamie Oliver's healthy meals makes me always wonder if he has shares in olive oil industry😂. While it's admittedly ok healthy meals, I remember one when you ended up with like tablespoon and half per person. That's something like 170cal for not that much of an effect.

So again, healthy food doesn't mean weightloss food. But weightloss food doesn't mean unhealthy

CatsSnore · 08/08/2023 14:42

willWillSmithsmith · 08/08/2023 14:26

How do you go on that thread (sorry not very tech). I’m currently on keto so always looking for new recipes and advice etc.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/weight_loss_chat/4822038-louise-parker-method-final-try-calling-the-old-gang?page=2&reply=128241627

There's the link. The LP book lean for life is fab but you could google some LP recipes and see the thread to get started and see if it works for you before committing.

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https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/weight_loss_chat/4822038-louise-parker-method-final-try-calling-the-old-gang?page=2&reply=128241627

hazelnutlatte · 08/08/2023 14:36

Agree with everyone else that diet is key - I am overweight and in the last 2 years have really got into exercise- I have a peloton and do spin classes 4-5 times a week, plus strength training and yoga. I do feel the benefits of exercise as I'm much fitter now and I'm probably a bit less wobbly than I used to be, but I haven't lost any weight! If anything I've put a bit of weight on as a reward myself for all of the exercise!
I know I need to diet but it's bloody hard!

Annachristie · 08/08/2023 14:29

You are right about the carbs. Keep to very low carbs if you can. Don't be scared of fat, it doesn't make you fat. Also try to avoid ultra processed food if possible.

willWillSmithsmith · 08/08/2023 14:26

CatsSnore · 08/08/2023 13:58

It is about diet sorry OP.

Come and join us on the louise parker thread. No calorie counting, low carbs/no sugar, it falls off if you stick to it. Nice recipes and easy to make family meals (just add carbs for them).

How do you go on that thread (sorry not very tech). I’m currently on keto so always looking for new recipes and advice etc.

Eggandcresspleasemummy · 08/08/2023 14:18

Getthisfatsuitoffme · 07/08/2023 21:59

@Bandyarsia But how do you know it’s that? If I eat healthily and often less than others? It doesn’t make sense. Even when I’ve cut right back, without exercise I barely lose weight

You need to examine your calorie intake. If your intake is more than you expend no amount of exercise will change things.

Eggandcresspleasemummy · 08/08/2023 14:16

@IamAlso4eels

1000 calories a day diet was medically supervised - I’m disabled and can’t effectively exercise for weight loss purposes. I was advised that it was considered safe to cut daily calorie intake by between 500-1000 calories from the amount needed to maintain weight, until healthy rate of weight loss of around 2lb a week was achieved. Many people can achieve this on 1250-1500 calories a day, but it varies from person to person. Not sure what you mean by ‘long term’ because obviously if you didn’t increase your calorie intake to maintain weight after reaching your goal you would continue to lose weight.

gannett · 08/08/2023 14:00

Bear in mind that MN is an absolute hub of disordered eating and diet culture, and obsessed with "weight loss" rather than getting healthy.

More exercise will absolutely make you healthier than obsessing over calories. If you put on muscle it might not help you lose weight per se, but it will make you more toned and you will lose fat. But if you have specific goals the exercise needs to be targeted - look up specific workout routines rather than just going on the exercise bike aimlessly. You want a combination of resistance and cardio work ideally.

(I have always eaten and drunk what I want, in as large quantities as I want, while exercising regularly, and have never needed to lose weight.)

CatsSnore · 08/08/2023 13:58

It is about diet sorry OP.

Come and join us on the louise parker thread. No calorie counting, low carbs/no sugar, it falls off if you stick to it. Nice recipes and easy to make family meals (just add carbs for them).

KimberleyClark · 08/08/2023 13:55

I think everyone is different. Some people find that exercising is sufficient to manage their weight.

RealisticGuy · 08/08/2023 13:52

I used to work in this space.

The simple answer to losing weight is being in a calorie deficit. You can exercise, you can eat the right foods etc but the simplest way is to be in a daily calorie deficit. The weight will fall off at a steady rate.

Fraaahnces · 08/08/2023 13:39

Exercise is vital for cardiovascular health and it absolutely helps, but weight loss is scientifically known to be 70-80% diet. I bet when you are exercising you feel better about yourself and eat better as a result.

Gherkingreen · 08/08/2023 13:37

I'm losing a steady 1lb a week (late 40s, perimenopausal) by '16:8 fasting' (aka reducing overall calories). I can't be bothered counting calories so this works for me - by missing breakfast, calorie intake is reduced with ease. I eat healthily anyway, but have cut out sweet/salty snacks and have occasional alcohol at the weekend if I fancy it.
I walk 60mins a day on average with my dog and workout 4 X a week, weights and HIIT at home.
I wanted to shift about half a stone and it's happened without much effort, I can keep this up and tweak if needed.

Maray1967 · 08/08/2023 13:26

I’d say 3 stone is a significant amount rather than a massive amount - at least I’m telling myself that. I’m about 7 weeks in with Slimming World and 12 pounds off. Clothes that were too tight are now fitting. Over 2 stone to go.

You have to train yourself to eat better. I’m a biscuit and cake eater by preference. My sweet treats are now apples and grapes. When I stick to that, and avoid bread, I have a good week.

TickleMyPickle · 08/08/2023 13:11

I’ve lost 4 stone over the last year.
I’m 44 and my youngest is 15.
I’ve felt like I’ve been on a diet for the last 15 years, when I reality I wasn’t keeping to anything consistently.
I told myself that I must have a hormone deficiency or thyroid problem, but once I started making sure I was in a calorie deficit every day, the weight started to drop off, and bizarrely now I don’t even feel like I’m on a diet!
To begin with I logged all my calories on My Fitness Pal but now I just keep a rough total in my head ( ideally no more than 1,600).
I started to move more, minimum of 10,000 steps a day, but aim for 15,000.
Now the weight has gone I’m stronger and fitter than ever and I go to Pilates twice a week and 2 aerobic classes too.
I never feel like I’m missing out or go to bed hungry.
I’ve also fallen into an intermittent fasting routine of only eating between 11am-7pm, and it really works for me.
You can do this, something just needs to click in your mind and once you start and you see the pounds dropping, it gives you the motivation to keep going.

mondaytosunday · 08/08/2023 09:03

Both is ideal - strength training will build muscle which burns more calories and will do more to change your shape, so don't just do cardio.
Track your food in an app - I use My Fitness Pal. Ignore exercise calories (way overestimated), but you will need to weigh your food to get accurate measurements and don't forget the oils you cook things in!
I have a lot to lose (more than five stone), and I eat 1500-1600 cals a day and lose about 1kg a week without adding much exercise. I will as I get slimmer.

tiredmama23 · 08/08/2023 09:02

Just to add - I'm not starving myself either. 1400-1600 is plenty of calories for me and I don't go to bed hungry. it's just an adjustment in habits. Like instead of snacking on 2 bags of crisps or a piece of cake, I snack on Greek yogurt, fruit or nuts etc. I've also cut down from eating pasta 5-6 times a week to once a fortnight if that. It needed a complete overhaul of my habits to make it work, but it started in the kitchen, not in the gym as I'd wrongly thought originally.

tiredmama23 · 08/08/2023 08:59

Another one saying it's diet first and foremost. I was a stone heavier post baby, I was still active, gym/ running 3-4 times a week but not losing. I then really looked into what I was eating, turned out I was consuming close to 2,300 cals some days without realising, which is way over my TDEE of 1900 ish! Made some simple dietary changes at the start of July, cut down carbs massively, upped my protein and started tracking everything. I eat around 1400-1600 cals a day now and I've lost 10lbs over the past 5-6 weeks. Exercise level hasn't changed. It's 100% the answer to weight loss. You need to be in a calorie deficit.

WantingToEducate · 08/08/2023 08:55

Approaching · 07/08/2023 21:06

Weight loss at least 80% about the food you eat. So that’s where you need to concentrate.

Absolutely!

I’m a nurse and although I walk/run around the wards at the speed of light, for 14 hours at a time, yet I still wasn’t losing weight.

For the last month I have been calorie counting and making much healthier choices about what I eat and my portion size.

I have also started to do home work-outs three times a week (thanks to You-Tube) which focuses on getting your heart rate rising alongside being designed for fat burning. Those work-outs three times a day, that last 30 minutes each, are the only exercise I do.

Between the calorie counting and three work-outs a week I have lost 8lbs in just under 5 weeks time.

Janieforever · 08/08/2023 08:48

Op. The truth of the matter is you are eating enough to gain weight and take you to /maintain at 3 stone over weight.

Unless your exercise is athlete level then continuing to eat as you are whilst doing an exercise bike 3 to 4 times a week and some walking will have no real impact on your weight.

it may incentivise you though to eat less/healthier. But for a significant weight loss like this then you will need to adjust your diet.

can I ask why you are so reticent to?

Pollywoddles · 08/08/2023 08:39

Have to agree with most of the posters, it’s mainly due to diet. I’ve just lost 4kg through diet alone, although I love exercise and before I had my baby I was in the gym 5 days a week, now I just don’t have the time between work and parenting. I’ve addressed my diet, looked at my portion sizes, cut out all the rubbish and stuck to a calorie deficit. Most people think they burn far more calories exercising than they actually do.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/08/2023 08:31

Definitely keep up with excercise!