Psychopath

Your comments are actually in that small percentage group which I mentioned as making sense on this thread.

I mean realistically, I don't have the credentials to say for definite. All I can reference is my on past and current experience of someone who has for a long time shown all the traits I would associate with NPD. It's further than someone who's an arsehole or just narcissistic tendencies I feel in this case.

Psychopaths I'm not sure, again I can't say for definite but I don't assume, serial killer, murderer as I think most would.

It's quite shocking actually. I'd say about 5%-10% of posters have a somewhat realistic idea of the topic and the rest is just based on misconceptions and bad stereotypes.
It's ironic that people would lose their shit if any other group of people was tarred with the same brush in such a fashion, but "psychopath" = evil and deserves judgement" seems to be the credo here.
Most people here would be surprised at the actual nonstereotypical psychopaths in their midst. So yes, I find it laughable.

That makes sense. My second highest one was influence. I didn’t get the full run down because I didn’t fancy paying for it, but I’ll probably do some googling.

I did the OCEAN test as well, unsurprisingly it supported the others. High OCE, low AE.

We did a whole formal assessment and training on DISC at work.

It was really helpful, a useful way of framing the communication styles, behavioural traits and skills of the team. Unsurprisingly, all of the leadership team showed at least some Dominance.

@thecatsthecats

I’ve just done the DISC and scored Dominant. I haven’t read into it properly yet, but at first glance it correlates with ENTJ.

Personality disorders are stereotypes. Plenty of wiggle room in there for individuality, to be sure, but all diagnostics rely on typology.

There does seem to be a certain amount of misapprehension and misinformation on this thread: it's an internet forum, what do you expect?

You could always enlighten us with your rigorous insight.

My exh did the reckless driving thing on a motorway. I was pregnant. I subsequently miscarried which may have been what he wanted.

I've just learnt apparently one per cent of the population is a psychopath.
But generally not in the film way (e.g American Psycho) but in an actual mental health way (e.g high impulsivity/low boredom threshold/egocentric/superficially charming/liars).
There's the Hare Checklist which I've got really into.
But what it boils down is that they don't seem to feel emotions.
I can't comprehend this - I get angry and sad and anxious and all the emotions - and am fascinated. One per seems huge.
Does anyone think they know a psychopath? Genuinely? This isn't an AIBU BTW. I'm honestly just really interested.

I could have written this about the person who I suspect is a psychopath.

On top of your list, I'll add:
Always the victim if something goes wrong, or someone else's fault.

Expects you to drop everything to focus ok them. Once I was on my way to a funeral and told them it wasnt a good time to talk and that I had family around. They hung up after telling me to "Just forget about me."

Highly manipulative and uses emotional blackmail to get you to acquiesce to what they want from you.

Zero empathy for others.

If you call them out on how their behaviour hurt you, they will gaslight you first to deny it happened.
When you remind them and pin the exact moment, they will have conveniently forgotten about it or tell you it was ages ago and that you shouldn't still hold a grudge, when it only happened the last time you saw them.
Then they'll tell you actually yoi deserved it or you're only complaining because it was a guilty pleasure for you. He tried to rape me ad when I said no, he drove recklessly to frighten me.

I was so confused with the extremes of his behaviour and was going round in circles, having the same conversation every time, but having read up on aspd, I now realise far too late that I was being gaslit and being fed word salad. He made my life a living hell and I suffered from nightmares years later.

He still had the nerve to write to me years later to declare love and how he is sorry a.f sad to have lost a good friend and the only woman he loved.

Fuck off and die leave me alone.

How do people with high psychopathic traits get into relationships? Is a lot of it based on convenience? All my relationships have been based on love.

Oh my, I can't stop laughing at this thread. The steretypes and stupidity levels are through the roof. Please keep going! I am learning so much

My father has a clinical diagnosis and he is a psychopath, I am not totally sure if he has other conditions as well.

My father didn’t bother pretending to care publicly, he genuinely had no interest in what others thought of him, so he was just as bad wherever we were. I got used to the worried looks and furtive reactions in other adults.

Is your ex dh psychopathic? The favourites thing is very damaging

@Remembermynamealways Again, likely narcissist rather than psychopath or a mix, I don't know.

Mine had a life goal of wanting them that was something made clear from the start. This was fine for me as I wanted children too, however they wanted them as soon as possible rather than getting financially secure. We did after a while of trying, which of course was my fault it didn't happen sooner but it was still fast.

The first, no true bond whatsoever right away and I raised them the whole way. Said they loved them, cared for them but said they don't have a bond. Second, totally different and was inseparable and still is now but it's to the point of obsession.

They are treated differently, one is getting a raw experience of the world full of truth, things should not know yet and has a lot of rules and responsibilities. Very much like me, empathic. Other, treated like a prince and can do no wrong and do whatever wants to and nobody else is allowed to care for them. Lovely and sweet but not so empathetic.

In general they are possessions, extensions of them almost and it's again control. They are social tools more than anything, totally different parenting style in public than at home. At home leave them to own devices, while they do what they want to do.

I found they prefer babies and toddlers and I believe this is because they are controllable without own opinions. The attention is higher at those ages from others too. As they get older more hassle, a voice of their own. However, a crying baby or screaming baby doesn't have the same response as most, it's rage inducing rather than say, worry.

Alongside this they hate other children with a passion, specifically preteen and teenagers except those who have some form of issue like themselves that make them broken or need their pity. The care is false though because it makes them look better by showing 'care' to these and everyone around thinks, oh how good they are. If only they knew.

Mine can be extremely horrible and blunt with one of mine. Not to the lengths you have experienced but I'm not there now so I have no idea and I'm worried about that. It is very much akin to treating them like a slave or animal at times.

My ex husband. Social worker recommended I get sole custody of my children without my asking for it. He seemed normal for a long time, but he was only acting. Turned out to be a very scary person.

Yeah that's fair enough, just seemed an odd choice for a child free person.

It does have a childfree board, so parents are not the only ones mumsnet seeks as an audience.

entertainment, essentially. Same reason that I use other forums. The same reasons that a lot of people use forums. I enjoy discussion, and it’s interesting to read about the experiences of others.