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3.5 year old piercing

133 replies

Ireallydonotknow96 · 05/08/2023 21:34

Not my DC but what would you think if someone you knew had their Dc 3.5 years old ears pierced?

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Dunnoburt · 05/08/2023 23:12

My child (7dd) won't be getting any piercings until she wants them. I don't judge others who have them though.... it doesnt affect my life!

CapEBarra · 05/08/2023 23:11

It’s tacky as hell. It’s ugly as hell on a little one too.

PromSeason · 05/08/2023 23:07

I’d think they were shit parents. Happy to be judgemental on things like this.

rockpoolingtogether · 05/08/2023 23:05

Sunnysal · 05/08/2023 21:41

It's done to new borns here in Spain so perfectly normal. They do it in the ward at the hospital

Woah! And you can't even get you baby's tongue tie snipped here easily

Deadringer · 05/08/2023 23:04

I wouldn't care. But a few years ago I was talking to another mum and her 12 month old baby had his ear pierced, she told me that he wanted it done, so I was a bit 🙄at that.

rockpoolingtogether · 05/08/2023 23:04

White - bit tacky
Asian heritage- part of the culture

Wishfulthinking1977 · 05/08/2023 23:03

My daughters friend has just had her 4 month olds ears pierced. She asked my opinion and I said a decent piercer wouldn't do it and I personally consider it child abuse. My opinion only! Mine I waited until they chose! One has more piercings than orifices the other just ears l.

JMSA · 05/08/2023 23:01

Desdemonadryeyes · 05/08/2023 21:37

Child abuse. But I’m a cantankerous judgy old cow.

At least you're being honest, unlike many on here.

I think it's tacky and unnecessary.

Imanalias · 05/08/2023 23:01

I wouldn't be wildly impressed.
When my 12 year old had their ears pierced, they were asked if they consented. It was explained what would happen and how the piercing would feel, and asked to confirm that they wanted to proceed.

Jifmicroliquid · 05/08/2023 22:59

Tacky, chavvy and vile.
Someone I know had all her children’s ears pierced as babies and as soon as they were healed they wore gold hoops. A child under 1 with big gold hoops hanging off her ear lobes.
If a child can’t consent, it’s child abuse, pure and simple.

Mariposista · 05/08/2023 22:57

Chavvy, unnecessary and an invasion of that child’s bodily autonomy.

Ostryga · 05/08/2023 22:56

Honestly? I’d think it was vile and would judge the parent. Children cannot consent to body modification.

Breezycheesetrees · 05/08/2023 22:49

Yes I'd judge, it's a horrible thing to do to a child.

mrsbitaly · 05/08/2023 22:46

I wouldn't think anything to be honest. But with my own DD I waited until she was absolutely sure she wanted it. She had them done at 8 years old.
I'll follow this method with my second DD as they are our girls and we want them to make that choice themselves.

That doesn't mean I think others are wrong it's a decision they make for their children.

underneaththeash · 05/08/2023 22:45

Seasideanticscanleadtosandybuckets · 05/08/2023 21:39

My dd's were 4 and 5. Bugged me for a year. Told them it would hurt! They turned and cleaned them under supervision. Never had any problems at all. Older dd never wanted hers done til about 11!!

So you say no. You’re a parent.

I had to dig the back out of DD ear last week and she’s 12. Had then last year.

TheNameIsDickDarlington · 05/08/2023 22:45

I would absolutely judge and I'd question my friendship with that person.

Sadly I knew a woman who was praising the woman who peirced her infant daughters ears as "she will peirce anyone" I just though she must be an absolute idiot to think that was a good thing.

Emmamoo89 · 05/08/2023 22:43

I would judge.

PrudenceDictates · 05/08/2023 22:43

Guiltridden12345 · 05/08/2023 22:37

Yeah I’m on the same page.

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Yep, I'm also on the judgey side of the fence.
Taking a toddler to a disreputable place to forcibly make holes in them, so the parents can use them as fashion accessories.
Repulsive and idiotic.

MrsJBaptiste · 05/08/2023 22:42

She can feel people judging her because they are.

And as for the poster whose 4 and 5 years old begged for a year to get them done... well mine could beg all they like but they would never get their own way. FFS, they're 4 and 5 years old.

misssunshine4040 · 05/08/2023 22:41

Ireallydonotknow96 · 05/08/2023 21:34

Not my DC but what would you think if someone you knew had their Dc 3.5 years old ears pierced?

Not my business

Guiltridden12345 · 05/08/2023 22:37

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 05/08/2023 21:50

She can feel people judging her because she chose to poke sharp metal through her young child's earlobes to put decorations into them. It's fucking disgraceful.

I'd judge too.

Yeah I’m on the same page.

thecatinthetwat · 05/08/2023 22:32

If I’m really honest, perhaps a split second sad face from me in response to seeing it. I find it upsetting but obviously none of my business, and wouldn’t ever say anything to a friend or whatever.

LolaSmiles · 05/08/2023 22:30

mistermagpie
I agree with you. I also doubt whether the parents who are ok piercing young children's ears are going to be taking their children to reputable piercers. No reputable places I know pierce that young.

In real life I'd probably say nothing unless directly asked and would privately have my own thoughts.

roarrfeckingroar · 05/08/2023 22:29

I would judge her heavily and question our friendship. I don't have friends who make such awful decisions regarding their small children.

Berlinlover · 05/08/2023 22:27

Chavvy