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Enough Food

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LaGiaconda · 05/08/2023 18:01

Have been out at work today.

The job involves a lot of being on my feet, lifting, carrying, walking round the building. Suspect I put in several miles in an average day.

I had a not huge breakfast at 7.30 am, I had a sandwich and some fruit for lunch but arrive home tired and hungry.

Partner, who had been at home all day, announced proudly, 'It's going to be a vegetarian supper tonight.

They had got out some rice noodles and had chopped up a bit of veg - peppers, carrots, cabbage.

There was no source of protein - eg chicken, prawns, bean curd.

I said, 'It's not going to be enough.' (No dessert on offer)

They got really huffy and sulky 'I don't know what's got into you etc.'

Would you find that enough?

OP posts:
Watchkeys · 05/08/2023 19:04

EpidermalLayer · 05/08/2023 18:58

If the genders were reversed the man would be torn to shreds for saying the same thing... cries of LTB, 'stop cooking for him', etc.

There's quite a lot of posts suggesting that OP was rude and ill mannered here.

Comedycook · 05/08/2023 19:00

Reverse?

caringcarer · 05/08/2023 19:00

Ifulikepinacoladas · 05/08/2023 18:23

Sounds like a miserable meal to come back to after a long day. I don't blame you for your response. Hopefully there was other food you could fill up on?

I don't like those things so I wouldn't have eaten it. I'd probably have said "can you be a sweety and make me a cheese omelette please"? I'd smile and he'd have happily made me an omelette.

Whadda · 05/08/2023 18:58

EpidermalLayer · 05/08/2023 18:58

If the genders were reversed the man would be torn to shreds for saying the same thing... cries of LTB, 'stop cooking for him', etc.

💯

EpidermalLayer · 05/08/2023 18:58

If the genders were reversed the man would be torn to shreds for saying the same thing... cries of LTB, 'stop cooking for him', etc.

bellac11 · 05/08/2023 18:58

Sounds like strategic incompetence to me.

If his 'job' that day was agreed that he was going to cook dinner then it really does need to be something properly substantial and nutritous. Presumably he knows what OP does for a living?

Hummingbird89 · 05/08/2023 18:55

stir fried noodles and veg is a regular go to meal for me. Stick a fried egg on top if you need protein. How was he to know what you’d had for breakfast or lunch? You were rude and ungrateful. Just coz it was his day off doesn’t mean he’s obliged to cook you dinner:

phoenixrosehere · 05/08/2023 18:54

dreamingbohemian · 05/08/2023 18:34

You don't need protein at every meal. Nothing wrong with veggie noodles as long as the portion size was right. I would have eaten it and then had something after if still hungry.

Otherwise as PP said, 'mind if I cracked an egg over it' is much nicer than snapping 'not enough'

Agree.

I’d happily eat that and as pps said, if you have some type of nuts, peanut butter, satay sauce, scramble a quick egg to add for protein or just have a snack or dessert of some kind afterwards if it is not enough instead of telling the person who cooked that it isn’t.

It is really a “you” problem if you didn’t eat enough for the day and if you knew you weren’t making dinner, you could have called/texted and asked what dinner was going to be and asked them if they minded, adding some type of protein to your portion.

Itisyourturntowashthebath · 05/08/2023 18:52

My DH is good at preparing fairly inadequate meals. I'd have said thanks, put a handful of nuts on my meal and asked who else wanted a fried egg for theirs. Except for the odd very tired day where I'd just want to scream "how the feck have you lived on this planet for half a century and failed to earn to cook a proper meal". I normally manage to restrain myself and just go for a tin of sardines for afters.

PoliticallyIncorrectHitchling · 05/08/2023 18:51

You were rude. So what if they made you a veggie dinner? You can eat a snack or cook your food yourself?

Watchkeys · 05/08/2023 18:50

In your partner's position, I'd ask what else you wanted, then direct you to the fridge to finish off your own cooking.

Those saying 'It's not rude, it's true!', can you not see the difference between presenting the truth rudely and presenting it respectfully?

Hufflepods · 05/08/2023 18:50

Eat something else after if you’re still hungry. I would be annoyed if I was making dinner for someone and they just moaned about it.

Georgyporky · 05/08/2023 18:49

TerfTalking · 05/08/2023 18:48

*good 😂

I liked goof 😀

TerfTalking · 05/08/2023 18:48

*good 😂

TerfTalking · 05/08/2023 18:47

Personally I agree op. I bet your DH had eaten more than you during the day and was also too lazy to cook anything of substance or effort.

as a reasonably goof home cook, I would have been very disappointed with that poor effort.

bellac11 · 05/08/2023 18:47

FloweryName · 05/08/2023 18:42

Vegetables and rice noodles have protein in them.

Combined with two other meals in the day, it’s fine.

They do, but not very much

And the veg OP names are not the highest

You should try to aim for about 15 -20g of protein per main meal, you can top up with snacks in addition (or if you dont have snacks the main meals could be a bit higher)

Mushrooms, broccoli, peas, sweetcorn are a bit higher, broad beans etc. Then could add nuts or tofu to make it a bit more balanced. Or a fried egg as others have suggested.

gingercat02 · 05/08/2023 18:46

Bit rude, but yes, a main meal should have some protein. Tinned beans, lentils, cheese or eggs would have been good vege options or tinned fish or some cold meat if not.
You could definitely have phrased it better. Was partner at home working or just at home?

greenacrylicpaint · 05/08/2023 18:45

Luxell934 · 05/08/2023 18:13

I would have eaten it before deciding it wasn't going to be enough. Then made myself something afterwards if I was still hungry. Sometimes when we are very hungry we tend to put more on our plate, order more food at a restaurant, put more food in the shopping trolley than is actually needed etc

this

you are an adult and can do both: appreciate the effort of your partner to prepare a tasty meal and to eat something later that night if still hungry.

TellMeTheDate · 05/08/2023 18:44

If you wanted something extra, ask for something to be added, politely, or make your own dinner. 🤷🏻‍♀️

FloweryName · 05/08/2023 18:42

Vegetables and rice noodles have protein in them.

Combined with two other meals in the day, it’s fine.

Reallybadidea · 05/08/2023 18:42

Dh once made marrows stuffed with rice and chopped vegetables for dinner after I'd been on my feet all day at work for 13 hours. I cried 😳 So IMHO YANBU.

We do laugh about my reaction now, I'm not usually so emotional about dinner!

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 05/08/2023 18:42

I don't see an issue with vegetable stir-fry with noodles for dinner, but if it wasn't going to be enough, what was stopping you from just making a snack afterwards?

I don't see why you felt the need to say "that's not going to be enough" when someone was nice enough to cook you a meal. You're an adult, just have something else later if you're hungry?

bellac11 · 05/08/2023 18:41

calmcoco · 05/08/2023 18:10

I said, 'It's not going to be enough.' This sounds rather rude!

Its a fact isnt it

And even if OP wasnt doing a manual physical job, theres very little nutrition in that, some carbs and emptyish veg (compared to some other veg that could have been chosen)

So no, its not going to be enough.

Thatbloodyhedge · 05/08/2023 18:41

Make your own dinner maybe?

Kindofcrunchy · 05/08/2023 18:41

That dinner would've been fine (and still veggie) with some peanut butter stirred into it, and there's your protein. That's all you had to do.