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Engagement present

28 replies

redcans · 04/08/2023 18:23

DB recently got engaged whilst away on holiday. FaceTimed them immediately after to say congratulations and how happy we were for them. They got back late from holiday that weekend, I didn't see them until the following Tuesday as had a lot going on and couldn't see them sooner. We have a young DC and me and DP both work FT so this was the earliest we could see them.

We only got them a card as we can't afford anything else at the moment. They know we don't earn much and saving to take DS away on his first holiday.

Anyway, DB tells my mum that he's not happy with us. That I don't care about his engagement. I then confront him and say I didn't realise there was a problem, he then goes on to say I'm selfish, horrible, I don't give a shit or care about anybody.

AIBU really? Because im struggling to see his side of things Confused

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Merryoldgoat · 04/08/2023 18:29

YANBU at all.

What a big child - expecting presents generally is ridiculous. Kicking off about it is exceptionally immature.

electriclight · 04/08/2023 18:27

On the face of it, a FaceTime conversation and a card sounds fine.

But is there any more context?

Does he buy gifts for your dc, make a fuss on their birthdays, and feel that it is very one sided?

Any truth to his claim that you are selfish and horrible, because that claim seems to go deeper than his engagement?

AnneLovesGilbert · 04/08/2023 18:26

He’s pathetic. Hopefully he’s annoyed enough not to invite you to his wedding because he sounds like a groomzilla in the making.

Assume it’s not the first time he’s had a tantrum like this?