Sorry if it's too long, I just don't want to drip feed.
Me and OH have been together 14 years and have 2 DC ages 9 and 11.
We've always been able to talk about anything. The only issue is that I have a low sex drive due to my meds.
I asked if he would install Life 360 in case he broke down etc. All my friends and their husbands use Find my Friends so I thought it was quite normal, but he said he doesn't want to be stalked. Fair enough, I just didn't see why it was such a big deal if we knew where each other were.
This made me realise how for the past 6 months he's been really secretive with his phone, which he never was before. I noticed he was following lots of half dressed models on instagram. I teased him about it and he got really defensive.
Last night my phone was being stupid so I asked to borrow his (honestly not spying, I needed to buy tickets quickly) and he said no. When I asked why, he said "I don't know" and then gave me the following excuses:
- I just don't want you looking at my phone
- I don't want you reading my messages
- There might be inappropriate conversation with mates or stuff like porn
I got upset and cried and he just said "Why are you crying?" quite scornfully. He would usually comfort me.
Then he said some of the girls he follows on Insta told him that I'd sent requests to follow them, he said he assumed it was so I could interrogate them. I honestly hadn't!! Then he kind of brushed it off like he'd been lying to try to get me to admit something.
A few more things to mention are:
He's being investigated for not doing his full hours at work
He's been going to the gym loads
Is trying to lose weight
This is all so out of character for him and it's the first time I've been suspicious in 14 years.
AIBU?