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To share a bed with ds12?

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 09:46

Ds and I are going away for a night just the two of us. I'm looking at booking a travelodge and noticed that if I select an adult and a child it provides us with a family room which is considerably more expensive than a double room. For one night would it be acceptable for us to share a bed? Would the hotel allow me to book it as two adults even though it's really an adult an a child? I feel like I once heard a story where a single dad and his daughter were turned away in a similar situation.

Ds totally happy to share by the way, he still occasionally comes and gets in bed with me in a morning anyway. Although I feel these days might be numbered :-(

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EarringsandLipstick · 05/08/2023 08:38

Of course it's fine - as your DS is happy with it.

My DS12 still asks to sleep in my bed with me at times. I usually say no as he's like a bucking bronco but allowed him one night last week on holidays. It was lovely!

My DS14 would probably pull his limbs off if such a proposal was made!

It's all about the individual DC, their age & preference.

NancyJoan · 05/08/2023 08:34

Shared w my 14 yr old DS last weekend. He’s very little still, but it was fine. We watched the Antiques Roadshow in bed then went to sleep.

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 05/08/2023 08:30

Of course it's fine.

I shared a bed with my dad at an older age than that when we went on holiday - it was either that or we didn't go 🤷‍♀️

jazzyjane565 · 05/08/2023 08:27

Judelawswife68 · 05/08/2023 00:47

Why would you need to even question this? Whilst it's not ideal, assuming your son is comfortable with this, there's no problem. You're just sharing sleeping space.

I agree. It's not a problem with us I just want to know if the hotel will allow it. I do remember hearing somewhere that a single dad with a daughter tried the same thing and was told no. I don't remember her age or anything though.

mrsplum2015 · 05/08/2023 01:23

You're missing the point when talking about sharing with your mum
I would share with dd (18) and have done so multiple times.

Ds used to sleep in my bed every night but once he hit puberty it stopped and i imagine won't happen again. He was 12. It is uncomfortable for a grown boy / man to share a bed with their mother imo. Although he'll share with his older sister.

Catlady38 · 05/08/2023 01:16

It’s so weird, isn’t it? I’d absolutely do this with my DD but would think twice about my DS (who’s younger than my DD) — but would be even less sure about my DH & DD sharing. I wish it weren’t so. Sorry, that’s not much help, I know. FWIW, I think it’s fine and if your DS is okay with it, and they let you book it, I can’t see it’s an issue.

MaxwellCat · 05/08/2023 01:06

My son is 11 and would have no issues with this

Judelawswife68 · 05/08/2023 00:47

Why would you need to even question this? Whilst it's not ideal, assuming your son is comfortable with this, there's no problem. You're just sharing sleeping space.

Octagoneaway · 05/08/2023 00:45

As a single mum, I’m off on holiday to the US with my two teen boys next week. We’ll be sharing a double double, so unless the hotel will agree to an extra bed (last yr the hotel said no) both of them will take a turn at sharing with me. We don’t cuddle up, and it’s preferable to sharing with each other, so we’ll all cope. It’s just family life! 😉

ColonelSpondleClagnut · 04/08/2023 19:45

Jesus wept, sorry I've just seen you said Travelodge not PI 🤦🏻‍♀️ Apologies!

ColonelSpondleClagnut · 04/08/2023 19:41

I can't see the issue tbh, and I have three teenage boys.

But I've never known Premier Inn prices to vary by either room type or number of guests. So three in a family room or two in either a double, twin or family room, or one in a double - always comes out at the same price. One price per room regardless of type of room or number of guests 🤷🏻‍♀️

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 11:49

TimeIhadaNameChange · 04/08/2023 10:58

My 3 yo dd and I co-sleep, so I just book us as two adults and it's fine. Once I was asked if I wanted a cot but they don't care otherwise. Go for it.

If it were a younger child I wouldn't think twice about it. I just don't know if it would be frowned upon due to his age. Or maybe hotel businesses don't care or even notice it.

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TimeIhadaNameChange · 04/08/2023 10:58

My 3 yo dd and I co-sleep, so I just book us as two adults and it's fine. Once I was asked if I wanted a cot but they don't care otherwise. Go for it.

SamW98 · 04/08/2023 10:48

I went to Greece on holiday when my DS was 13 and requested a twin room. When we arrived - quite late in evening after a flight delay - they’re given us a double bed. I went straight down to ask them to change us but they had nothing else available for 4 days.

We just slept on top of bed and it was fine. Not ideal but no big deal.

Do they not do the double rooms whetr you can request the sofa bed is made up? Or is that only the family rooms?

BogRollBOGOF · 04/08/2023 10:43

Both my 10 or 12yo would be fine with that.

They still occasionally sneak into my room in the night if they want extra warmth, cosiness or had a bad dream.

If we're on a short camp, we're all lined up on the ground on our mats anyway. That wouldn't be treated as odd.

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:35

ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 10:31

I'm amazed that there are so many 12 year old boys who are still happy to share a bed with their mum, but if your son's fine with it then I can't see that it would be a problem.

You can get twin rooms for the same price as a double, though.

Well, be amazed I guess. I'm in no rush for him to grow up. I'd share a bed with my mum even at 37 if it meant I could save £50!

There are no twins available otherwise I'd clearly choose that option.

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itsmyp4rty · 04/08/2023 10:34

ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 10:31

I'm amazed that there are so many 12 year old boys who are still happy to share a bed with their mum, but if your son's fine with it then I can't see that it would be a problem.

You can get twin rooms for the same price as a double, though.

Why are you amazed? Just because yours wasn't?

itsmyp4rty · 04/08/2023 10:33

Leave him elsewhere while you check in and meet him after - that's what we did when ds was 16 and we still wanted a family room with Premier Inn.

ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 10:31

I'm amazed that there are so many 12 year old boys who are still happy to share a bed with their mum, but if your son's fine with it then I can't see that it would be a problem.

You can get twin rooms for the same price as a double, though.

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:31

NewNovember · 04/08/2023 10:20

Also Travelodge's don't t have two doubles you must be looking at a different hotel. Why don't t you book a Travelodge or a premier inn.

It's a double and a pull out bed (which looks like a double from the photo)

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:30

seratoninmoonbeams · 04/08/2023 10:25

I think it's ok but surely you just book a twin?

For the dates I've entered it's only bringing up the option of a small family room which is a double and a pull out double. No twins. I guess they don't have any for this date. The family room is 184 and the standard double is 134.

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seratoninmoonbeams · 04/08/2023 10:25

I think it's ok but surely you just book a twin?

Hankunamatata · 04/08/2023 10:25

Fine. Ds12 would happily share with me, he loves a cuddle still

Sirzy · 04/08/2023 10:21

Even when I book a room with a separate bed Ds (13) seems to decide to stay in the main bed with me anyway!

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