Holiday gatecrasher

Some of the replies here 🙄 - tell me you are lucky enough not to be the daughter
if a narcissistic mother without telling me
You’re lucky enough not to be the daughter of a narcissist mother.

OP - I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m
sorry she’s escalating because you’re not playing her games. My mother left yesterday after staying with me for a week and I’ve basically spent most of today sitting quietly enjoying the relief.

Spot on!! They stand out a mile. Lucky them I guess, but so judgemental of those of us who drew very short straws in the parents stake!

Yeah go about singing and laughing even if it's at nothing. Know exactly how you feel I had this carry on with late Mother. They find fault with you but want to hang about with you. Try not let it spoil what's left of your break. Why the feck does she want to come to yours for a fortnight?!.

Oh for Goodness sake! You clearly haven't had to deal with someone who is so Toxic. Plenty of parents are NOT good ones. At All. Some are really unkind and don't actually care about their children, except as appendages to themselves

You should count yourself lucky that you (clearly) haven't been that unfortunate🙄🙄

You can absolutely tell who on this thread has no clue that not every parent is a good parent!

Did I misinterpret that she invited herself to your home for 2 weeks after this trip? Don't let her near you.

Perhaps she has been a disgusting parent.

My mother is the same and thats the reason I haven't seen or spoken to her is years.

The best thing u can do is pretend to be happy. Let her hear u laughing and finding the good in everything. Complement your hosts and keep a smile on your face. She sounds like a desperately unhappy woman who wants to make u unhappy. Don’t let her win. 🤗

OP ignore the idiots trying to make you feel like you're the bad guy here, they've probably never poked their heads out of that comfy bubble they live in where families all get along (either that or THEY are the toxic ones in the family!).
I get it. I've been NC with my 'mother' for over a decade, she brought nothing positive to my life, just misery, so I stopped contact altogether and my life is much better for it.

I’m so sorry OP, that’s so shit.
just grey rock her much as you can and look into covert narcissism when you’re hiding in your room. Sending you a hug.

Bollocks

Tell her exactly how you feel??

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It’s so sad. I hope your DC doesn’t feel that way about you when they are grown up. I should imagine your mother wants a better relationship with you which is why she has tagged along uninvited and for some reason you can’t talk to her like the adult you are. This is important stuff. I think we all go through it to an extent. Mothers should always give their grown up children space or ‘back off’ as my daughter says to me when she feels like it. I couldn’t say that to My mother I just became a stupid child in her presence at times and I never understood, but I do now.
I'm horrified how many of my friends smother their adult children instead of finding friends of their own age. It really is stupid. They have to let you go. They will grieve, then they really will separate from you for their own good. Mothers and children carry chunks of each other inside them. Just try and be kind. Say ‘I know mum that you want to be with me but I need some space sorry.’ Instead of having a childish tantrum.

The way you speak about her is disgusting. What has she done to you? Is it just a case of you not getting along? Clearly some issues here need resolving

I totally understand. My mother and I haven’t spoken in 2 years because she got ripped into me for joking with my dad and she decided it was inappropriate. This was in my sons home so I couldn’t retaliate without causing a further scene. I actually feel better for having no contact. She pretends that she cares but her life is all about her image and how I reflect her image. Make the break. Sending you hugs

I hear you! Avoid her asmuch as you can Go out with your child andmake the most of your holiday!

Every sympathy for you having a controlling, manipulative mother. I learned after many years to get up off my knees and to say No. Just No. It's the only way to freedom. Practise saying it to her photograph. Don't smile, don't apologize, just say No. Good luck.

She didn’t pick her up! The mother had to get someone else to pick her up.

You’ve clearly never had a narcissistic relative. lucky you

If you don't care how she feels then that was the time to say no. I'm not picking you up.

So sorry you’ve had your holiday ruined, time away is precious. I don’t really have any advice, I’m afraid . I am intrigued though about your relationship with your mother, as you say you have other siblings she wouldn’t have burdened in this way, could it be because she sees you as easier to manipulate than them? Are you more obliging/sensitive to her requests than them, perhaps? It’s a shame when mothers (who are usually revered by others) can be so toxic. I bet the relative you visited had no idea how you felt about your mum, or if they knew there was friction between you naively thought some quality time together would be nice for you both, ironically. Hope you have a nice time with your child despite this intrusion on your holiday.

Why don't people read the posts properly before commenting with the wrong info?