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Is jumping the same as diving?

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Hamseven · 31/07/2023 14:19

We are posting members at a country club.
Sounds posher than it is. We have two kids that are also members. Age 9 and 11. The only things the kids can do is use the pool between 11&4 and the occasional kids sports class on a weekend.
I took them swimming today. It was full of old people and one other family. My son went to climb out the pool and before he had even got out a man in the lane next to him told him 'no diving. There's a sign.'. my son want going to drive but was going to jump in but he got back in and told me. Some time later he got out and jumped in. The man told him off and said no jumping.
I went over and politely pointed out the sign was no diving due to the depth ofthe pool. He was adamant that diving in jumping with the same. Explain that it was a school holidays. It was during family time and at the children paid their membership and if they wanted to jump they would. They already jumped in a couple of times and if they say continue to do it and we're annoying people I would have stopped them. Was I being unreasonable?

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Paq · 31/07/2023 14:48

I know it's not Reddit but ESH. Your kids are old enough to be considerate of other pool users. The other members should be accommodating to children being children, especially in school holiday time.

ThreeLittleDots · 31/07/2023 14:47

My small local members pool is virtually unusable during holidays because people let hordes of their precious children jump, dive, splash, scream and shout to their hearts' content, despite signs saying to not jump or dive. My sympathy is with all the "old people" 🙄

Hamseven · 31/07/2023 14:41

KrisAkabusi · 31/07/2023 14:35

They already jumped in a couple of times and if they say continue to do it and we're annoying people I would have stopped them.

Well, they were clearly annoying him but you didn't stop them. And if the pool was full, as you said it was, it's antisocial and dangerous to be jumping in.

I did say ' full' off old people which was and exaggeration. There was me and my two, a mum and child in the 'family area' an older lady who was swimming. Then there was the gentleman who was complaining in one lane with another elderly man. And two ladies walking up and down the other lane.
They hadn't jumped in at all before he told my son that diving was not allowed. He was just getting out and got told not to. I did then allow them to jump in after the lady who was swimming had got out and two other families had joined us and we're letting their children jump in.

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KrisAkabusi · 31/07/2023 14:35

They already jumped in a couple of times and if they say continue to do it and we're annoying people I would have stopped them.

Well, they were clearly annoying him but you didn't stop them. And if the pool was full, as you said it was, it's antisocial and dangerous to be jumping in.

Frabbits · 31/07/2023 14:33

Not the same at all.

No diving is because you can't go headfirst into water that isn't deep enough. Going feet first is obviously fine. I would have told the man to do one.

Jibo · 31/07/2023 14:32

It's not the same thing (jumping = feet first, diving = head first) but in this situation I would have asked the lifeguard rather then argue over semantics.

Natsku · 31/07/2023 14:32

I would clarify the rules with the club but usually no diving rules are because a pool is too shallow for diving safely but no danger for jumping, but the rules might be because they don't want other swimmers bothered, so double check first.

PuttingDownRoots · 31/07/2023 14:31

The pool needs to clarify what sessions are children welcome to swim and what sessions are play sessions.

Older members then need to chose whether they wish to swim in the play sessions or wait for adult only sessions.

ThreeLittleDots · 31/07/2023 14:31

Diving is more of a risk due to head injury, but I wouldn't permit my children to annoy other people by jumping, on this occasion, especially if it's not a big pool

Sigmama · 31/07/2023 14:30

No they're different and it wouldn't bother me

RonObvious · 31/07/2023 14:29

Not the same. As long as they aren't jumping near people, then I don't see the problem.

Pr1mr0se · 31/07/2023 14:27

I'd consider jumping in and diving to be the same if I was there to have a quiet swim. So whilst it's a bit pedantic I can see why there was a problem if your son was jumping in.

However I wouldn't have a problem with kids jumping in either. It's their holiday too.

ComtesseDeSpair · 31/07/2023 14:27

Personally I think it’s pretty antisocial to let children jump into a pool where other people are swimming, and my gym pool prohibits jumping because it’s a) antisocial and b) risks injuring other pool users if they’re not seen and accidentally jumped on. “Family time” doesn’t mean using the pool as a playground. Just ask the club to clarify the rules for you, so you know for the future.

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