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The Mumsnet passive aggressive comment thread 😂

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RootbeerLolly · 30/07/2023 16:16

I was driving through a small cotswold village yesterday and there were a number of roadsigns that really reminded me of mumsnet. 😂

First there were several 30mph signs. A few hundred feet along was another sign saying 'It's still 30'. Next was 'Remember?' and then my favourite....'Had you forgotten?'

I've no issue as the fact they stayed in my memory likely means they better achieved their purpose than if they just went unnoticed, but the 'Had you forgotten?' really reminded me of the mumsnet classic 'Did you mean to be so rude?' 😂😂😂

I thought it'd be funny to have a thread to capture these mumsnetisms. The other common one I always see is 'doesn't sound like you like her very much' which I just encountered five mins ago on the thread where the OP is concerned her obese friend may not cope with the physical aspects of the job she's putting her forward for.

Hit me up with your favourites or show me your passive aggressive anger at my daring to mock this established mumsnet institution!

OP posts:
Covidcabana · 30/07/2023 20:44

cocoloco117 · 30/07/2023 16:29

You sound overly invested in the goings on in this village.
Were the speed signs there before you married dh?

@cocoloco117 this is perfection 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

FKATondelayo · 30/07/2023 20:43

Style and Beauty has the best pass-agg.

"I wouldn't call Dior designer OP. It's been a high street brand for years."

Covidcabana · 30/07/2023 20:42

Are you quite well OP?

Rathouse · 30/07/2023 20:40

Floatlikeafeather2 · 30/07/2023 16:36

Mine isn't a phrase but people who just cannot put themselves in someone else's shoes or imagine any sort of life that isn't exactly like theirs but still comment anyway, usually implying that theirs is the only way. That's really Mumsnet.

Yes to this it's the people charging their adult kids rent, parents or parent clearly state they can't afford it. Other privileged posters behave like its a crime to pay your way in life, really annoys me that they just bypassed that someone stated they can't afford it but they just bang on about how they could never do that 😴

Chickenkeev · 30/07/2023 20:35

GnomeDePlume · 30/07/2023 20:30

Any post about inheritance will have multiple postings saying either:

  • you arent entitled to anything, you should be grateful that you have been left your grandfather's lawn clippings (despite DGF having repeatedly told/shown OP that they are in the will and there is a wicked relative in the wings)
  • 'I would give all my (multiple millions) inheritance to have one more hour with DGGM (who passed away after a long life and would totally resent being brought back to life and having the inheritance squandered to achieve it)

But is kind of true though? You aren't entitled to anything. But i can totally see why people would be pissed off if they get cut out of a will.

GnomeDePlume · 30/07/2023 20:30

Any post about inheritance will have multiple postings saying either:

  • you arent entitled to anything, you should be grateful that you have been left your grandfather's lawn clippings (despite DGF having repeatedly told/shown OP that they are in the will and there is a wicked relative in the wings)
  • 'I would give all my (multiple millions) inheritance to have one more hour with DGGM (who passed away after a long life and would totally resent being brought back to life and having the inheritance squandered to achieve it)
wutheringkites · 30/07/2023 20:08

Where was your DH in all of this? You are married, aren't you?

FKATondelayo · 30/07/2023 19:54

Honestly MN is a different world sometimes.

iamnottoofatiamjusttooshort · 30/07/2023 19:36

Did you mean your or is it you're ?
Otherwise I just cannot understand you

Himawarigirl · 30/07/2023 19:33

Reading these makes me realise how utterly prevalent all these are in threads, funny to see them captured so comprehensively. My addition would be the suggestion to head tilt and add a tinkly laugh when dealing with an annoying MIL/neighbour/CF.

ilovesooty · 30/07/2023 19:30

Did ye aye? is invariably troll hunting.

TruffleShuffles · 30/07/2023 19:28

’Gosh, I’m so bored of reading posts about this’

Well don’t fucking open it and comment then!

YawnyMcdawny · 30/07/2023 19:22

You don't have a MIL problem, you have a DH problem.

YawnyMcdawny · 30/07/2023 19:22

Meh, I can't get worked up about this.

SaleOfTwoTitties · 30/07/2023 19:20

First World problems.
Some of us can't even afford a car, or petrol. Or glasses to read the signs with.

Chickenkeev · 30/07/2023 19:18

Anothernamechange3 · 30/07/2023 16:18

‘And what did they say when you talked to them about it?’ (Translation: I know you haven’t talked to them about it but this is a passive aggressive way of saying you should have before starting a thread about it).

That's not pass agg though, that's quite reasonable imo.

backbritishfarming · 30/07/2023 19:15

You okay hun?

Is this really the hill you want to die on?

It sounds to me like he/she has ASD/ADHD

Don't be that person.

Have seen these Mumsnetisms on lots of threads. Grrrrr!

DeeDossed · 30/07/2023 19:12

Did you, aye?

SunnyFrost · 30/07/2023 19:09

CityCommuter · 30/07/2023 19:07

Also 'why would you ask strangers on the internet' is another one, while ignoring the fact that MN is an actual forum for opinions...

Though tbf some of the things people see fit to start threads about, you do have to wonder….

SunnyFrost · 30/07/2023 19:08

‘How embarrassing’

(when the poster is clearly not at all embarrassed, someone really nasty is just trying very hard to make them feel like shit)

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 30/07/2023 19:08

It's clear we don't move in the same circles

CityCommuter · 30/07/2023 19:07

Also 'why would you ask strangers on the internet' is another one, while ignoring the fact that MN is an actual forum for opinions...

TrundleWheel76 · 30/07/2023 19:03

Well aren't you a peach 😆

CityCommuter · 30/07/2023 19:00

'I bet you're fun at parties' is a Mumsnet classic!

Lwrenagain · 30/07/2023 18:58

Whatswhatwhichiswhich · 30/07/2023 18:48

@Lwrenagain i get that Grin I’d love to join in but my brain is boggled, I’m not hard of understanding just have ASD and some of the examples given make me really worried I’m being passive aggressive or outright aggressive without meaning to be!

Ah, asd, makes everything hard to navigate! My youngest lad has asd and he's outright fabulously offensive. He's 5 so I'm hoping he can become slightly more aware of what he's saying, but it's also amazing if you want honesty. "Does mummy look OK?" "Erm, does mummy have some makeup to put on?" 😂

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