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The Mumsnet passive aggressive comment thread 😂

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RootbeerLolly · 30/07/2023 16:16

I was driving through a small cotswold village yesterday and there were a number of roadsigns that really reminded me of mumsnet. 😂

First there were several 30mph signs. A few hundred feet along was another sign saying 'It's still 30'. Next was 'Remember?' and then my favourite....'Had you forgotten?'

I've no issue as the fact they stayed in my memory likely means they better achieved their purpose than if they just went unnoticed, but the 'Had you forgotten?' really reminded me of the mumsnet classic 'Did you mean to be so rude?' 😂😂😂

I thought it'd be funny to have a thread to capture these mumsnetisms. The other common one I always see is 'doesn't sound like you like her very much' which I just encountered five mins ago on the thread where the OP is concerned her obese friend may not cope with the physical aspects of the job she's putting her forward for.

Hit me up with your favourites or show me your passive aggressive anger at my daring to mock this established mumsnet institution!

OP posts:
elenacampana · 31/07/2023 17:44

I hope you’re nicer than this in real life.

dontjudgemeagain · 31/07/2023 17:42

I'm not even sure if it counts as passive aggressive but it's such a Mumsnet classic on any education thread: when posters exclaim they are far from wealthy, they've had to give up so much to send their kids to private school! They work hard for it! Unlike all the other feckless parents who just can't be arsed to work hard and hadn't thought of a smaller car or fewer holidays...

Catlover100 · 31/07/2023 17:39

A corker from a current thread i was just reading:

"Well nothing will change then and you're going to spend your life shackled to an abuser.

And everyone here is totally wasting their time trying to help you 🙄"

TheDuchessOfMN · 31/07/2023 16:45

Gently, OP…. YABU Flowers

Catlover100 · 31/07/2023 16:32

Ha ha, good one, I'm laughing @wutheringkites .... but somewhere deep inside I feel the Mumsnet panic - "maybe they're right, maybe I am overly invested in what other people think of me?" 😱

wutheringkites · 31/07/2023 16:29

Catlover100 · 31/07/2023 16:28

Gulp, I'm already panicking because I don't think I expressed myself well enough in that last post....
(anxiously awaits a PA comment....) 😂

You seem over invested in what people think of you @Catlover100

Catlover100 · 31/07/2023 16:28

Gulp, I'm already panicking because I don't think I expressed myself well enough in that last post....
(anxiously awaits a PA comment....) 😂

Catlover100 · 31/07/2023 16:25

OMG, this thread is hilarious. It's in every thread you read!

Definitely the "you seem overly invested in/obsessed with... " when some poor person whose partner has treated them like shite dares to mention anything about the person they have left them for.

Lilyhatesjaz · 31/07/2023 15:46

Any time a sentence is ended with either yes or no

Emmamoo89 · 31/07/2023 14:18

Your bar is set too low

arlequin · 31/07/2023 14:05

Anothernamechange3 · 30/07/2023 16:18

‘And what did they say when you talked to them about it?’ (Translation: I know you haven’t talked to them about it but this is a passive aggressive way of saying you should have before starting a thread about it).

Yes I had this! Was asking about a farm and got "what did you say when you called them?" I had tried but it was closed 🤷🏻‍♀️ so rude!!!

D20 · 31/07/2023 14:02

You seem enmeshed.
Google limerence.

Mumsnet is the only place I’ve ever heard these terms as everyday parlance. I recall a thread about the word ameliorate and despite lots of posters saying they used and heard the term regularly I have counted just two instances in at least 18 months when I have heard it used (and I secretly wondered if they were Munsnetters).

theGooHasGone · 31/07/2023 13:26

Chickenkeev · 30/07/2023 20:35

But is kind of true though? You aren't entitled to anything. But i can totally see why people would be pissed off if they get cut out of a will.

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A late entry from yet another Mumsnet classic! Derailing a lighthearted, humourous thread to post a disagreement!

midsomermurderess · 31/07/2023 11:30

This, from a current thread about family staying for 2 weeks, one messing up the bathroom:
'I guess you didn’t expect them to stay so long and it’s a surprise to you, not something you agreed to?'

Classic MN PA.

Cattenberg · 31/07/2023 09:33

(On a thread where a step-mum is unhappy about being treated like an unpaid skivvy by her step-children and both of their parents).

Well, you knew what you were getting into.

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 31/07/2023 09:12

Educate yourself.
Lol.

DrSbaitso · 31/07/2023 08:49

I don't tell people if I've reported their comments, but I also don't tell them if I haven't.

I had one discussion where the other person's posts kept getting deleted. They assumed I was reporting them and got more and more accusatory, self-righteous, angry, abusive... and deleted.

I wasn't reporting them, but I knew they wouldn't believe that, so I didn't bother telling them.

slashlover · 31/07/2023 08:29

Time4achange2 · 30/07/2023 22:32

'He bought you a toilet brush for your birthday, OP?'

LTB immediately before we all start clutching our pearls.

What sort of adult makes a big deal about their birthday?

WoofWoofBeachLife · 31/07/2023 08:17

slashlover · 30/07/2023 17:52

Biscuit

I'm still oblivious to what this means.

BruceAndNosh · 31/07/2023 07:30

"Have you tried Netmums?"

pictoosh · 31/07/2023 07:27

'here come the cool wives'

Said in response to women who see their husbands as an individual.

GnomeDePlume · 31/07/2023 07:24

OP will create a post asking a question and include in their post some small detail.

eg While driving DCs to school this morning I noticed XYZ should I report this to Police/Social Services/RSPCA/the council?

Multiple posters will then respond with versions of:

Why are you driving DCs to school? Why dont your DCs walk to school? Why arent you using public transport? My DCs have been getting themselves across London to school on their own since kindergarten

Why? It is in no way relevant to the question!

SplendidUtterly · 31/07/2023 05:05

"you must be bored"

Wednesdia · 31/07/2023 03:56

Also, OP makes a thread about a situation that is the ONLY insight into their life posters see and is the entire topic of discussion

“You seem overly invested” “You seem obsessed” “You are fixated on xyz”

Wednesdia · 31/07/2023 03:53

Mumsnetter describes doing anything that doesn’t fit the typical MN middle class, emotionless, boring personality:

”You sound immature”