Would you need a proper dinner too?

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 19:52

Sammiches101 · 31/07/2023 16:52

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Onanislandinthesun · Yesterday 15:47
That meant tuna steak, not tuna and steak, just a fish lunch

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Yep, apologies I didn't see the update

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 19:17

user1471538283 · 31/07/2023 18:37

I probably wouldn't eat again but my bf would. He would however get it himself.

Making one big meal a day is enough work.

He coocke the lunch so that's probably why he asked

user1471538283 · 31/07/2023 18:37

I probably wouldn't eat again but my bf would. He would however get it himself.

Making one big meal a day is enough work.

Elvis1956 · 31/07/2023 18:34

A lot of you sound like my mother in law. She's 5 ft 5, weighs about 8 stone and is constantly saying things like "ooo you've given me a lot" whenever she is given any food.
back when she did the family roast (she's 94 now) she gave everyone two roast spuds, a slither of meat, a few veg....I used to go home and make another meal...bil did the same.
I think that you need to take into account what a person does for wor/hobbies etc. I had a manual job so needed much more than my wife. Now I cycle a lot but have cut portion size down as I no longer need as much food.

DaisyThistle · 31/07/2023 17:59

We wouldn't cook again after a BBQ lunch - just have crackers and cheese or soup. If DH or DS1 were hungry they might do a pasta or stir fry for themselves but not a proper sit down meal for everyone.

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 17:51

No snack knbetween tjough. It was considerable amount of prawns

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 17:51

Ok I can report that I had grilled fish with salad for early lunch and just had dinner

StrawBeretMoose · 31/07/2023 17:33

I would always want my dinner later, DH often says if we have gone out for lunch he wouldn't want dinner, does my head in.

I don't understand why you wouldn't want it, same on a Sunday if we have a roast he says he doesn't want anything later. I need at least 3 meals a day, and plenty of snacks or I get grouchy. But I sort myself out.
I'm not overweight, I just have a big appetite and prefer healthy snacks and feel quite weak if I go too long without food.

Usernamen · 31/07/2023 17:22

Onanislandinthesun · 30/07/2023 15:46

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes. Quite a lot of fussing and prep, plus washing up afterwards etc.
We had the lunch fairly late-2.30.
Dh asks what we’re having for dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️
My thoughts were to just have a sandwich/toastie whatever later on and to pick at something, he was expecting a full dinner made later…
Would you have this lunch and made dinner later or just pick at whatever’s in the cupboard?

Why was he expecting a full dinner made for him? Is he disabled?

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 31/07/2023 17:18

You can’t police other people’s food intake.

Whataretheodds · 31/07/2023 17:01

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 30/07/2023 17:14

I don’t see why if we’d had a big, cooked lunch, we just all sort of can’t just help ourselves as and when. It’s just weird to me to then want another cooked meal

Well, fish, bread and salad doesn't sound like a big meal to me - maybe your DH is the same.

OP did say it was a LARGE salad.

(Though not MASSIVE)

QuietDragon · 31/07/2023 16:59

Personally, no, but I'd not involve myself in whether DH wanted one or not. I'd just say that I was having some toast or whatever and leave him too it.

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 31/07/2023 16:58

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 16:44

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes

He didn't have just some salad and fish as some posters have said, there was salmon, tuna, sardines, plus steak, salad and baguettes. I'm a greedy bastard but I don't think I could've have eaten another meal after that lot at 2.30

No, it was tuna steak - OP clarifies. So three kinds of fish, baguette and salad.

Not really anything too substantial.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/07/2023 16:54

PeanutButterOnToad · 31/07/2023 06:54

DH and I would probably have pate on toast or cheese and crackers, young adult kids would probably cook themselves pasta if there weren’t enough leftovers to go again. The one thing that wouldn’t happen is the person who made the first meal being expected to produce another. That kind of shit stopped in our family many years ago!

But what do you do with all the leftovers???

🤣

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4728502-surely-nobody-can-eat-a-pack-of-pate

Surely nobody can eat a pack of pate? | Mumsnet

There are 4 of us. Once a week we have lots of different types of salads with French bread and pate as our evening meal. We *love* pate. It gets eaten...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4728502-surely-nobody-can-eat-a-pack-of-pate

Sammiches101 · 31/07/2023 16:52

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 16:44

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes

He didn't have just some salad and fish as some posters have said, there was salmon, tuna, sardines, plus steak, salad and baguettes. I'm a greedy bastard but I don't think I could've have eaten another meal after that lot at 2.30

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Onanislandinthesun · Yesterday 15:47
That meant tuna steak, not tuna and steak, just a fish lunch

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 16:44

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes

He didn't have just some salad and fish as some posters have said, there was salmon, tuna, sardines, plus steak, salad and baguettes. I'm a greedy bastard but I don't think I could've have eaten another meal after that lot at 2.30

atthecopa · 31/07/2023 16:40

Pleasemrstweedie · 30/07/2023 15:49

No, I wouldn't. He's had his dinner!

He didn't have his dinner. He had his lunch.

mrsm43s · 31/07/2023 16:27

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:24

I’m not suggesting having more than one meal is greedy, don’t be disingenuous. I’m suggesting that you don’t need two huge cooked meals for lunch and dinner. And if you do, you sort it out yourself.

salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes that sounds like a substantial meal. Protein (lots), vegetables and carbs. Not just ‘grilled fish and salad’.

And the OP saying he was expecting a full dinner made later… rather sounds like he was expecting her make a full dinner later, no?

Some people just eat a lot I guess. That’s their lookout.

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Only on Mumsnet can someone serious try to argue that salmon, tuna steak and sardines (so fish), cooked on the BBQ (so grilled) and served with salad is not grilled fish and salad!

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 31/07/2023 07:15

But the OP was under the impression it was. And she actually made and ate it, and knows her husband. We weren’t there and we don’t.

Actually, her husband made it.

CurlewKate · 31/07/2023 07:15

Being not hungry isn't a virtue either.

PeanutButterOnToad · 31/07/2023 06:54

DH and I would probably have pate on toast or cheese and crackers, young adult kids would probably cook themselves pasta if there weren’t enough leftovers to go again. The one thing that wouldn’t happen is the person who made the first meal being expected to produce another. That kind of shit stopped in our family many years ago!

CurlewKate · 31/07/2023 06:51

Being hungry is not a moral failure.

pilates · 31/07/2023 06:46

No I wouldn’t. Maybe some toast or crumpets as a small snack.

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 06:34

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:29

Because it’s likely more food containing more energy than you need.

To me, the main effortful and calorific meal is completed. So the evening meal would be something lighter, on toast, in a sandwich, etc.

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Lots of parts of the world eat two cooked meals, even 3. Unless you are on a diet or absolutely inactive, you can fit 2 full meals in normal calory needs.

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:33

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 06:32

salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettesthat sounds like a substantial meal. Protein (lots), vegetables and carbs. Not just ‘grilled fish and salad’.

It may or may not be substantial meal. Dpends on protions, doesn't it. If you look at portions in shop it can be like 100g of salmln and 100g of tuna per portion or similar (some water will cook out), few sardines and salad and small baguette are light ish summer lunch. Or it could have been bigger, dluble the weight. portions. We don't know. Fish digests fast imho, doesn't keep me full aa long as meat.
It obviously wasn't substantial for him.

But the OP was under the impression it was. And she actually made and ate it, and knows her husband. We weren’t there and we don’t.