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11 year old belly button piercing

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Momto3smalls · 25/07/2023 20:52

Is it too young or am I over reacting ?

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blahblahblah1654 · 25/07/2023 22:52

I'm surprised it's still so popular to her a belly button piercing. I don't know why, but I didn't think it was particularly fashionable anymore.

xxalhxx · 25/07/2023 22:51

My mum wouldn't let me get my belly done till I was 16 even then I still didn't get in done until I was 18

TheaBrandt · 25/07/2023 22:51

I have teens they both want it done but it’s a hard no. I’m relaxed about ears but this is next level. It’s quite sexual somehow and a far bigger deal than ears. I would be judging the parent of an 11 year old that allowed it hard.

Curseofthenation · 25/07/2023 22:50

I had mine done at 13. I don't mind it now at 33 but I can't get rid of it. It doesn't heal up. I do wonder if that is partly because I had it done quite young - maybe not though. I don't like having two piercing holes on my stomach so I wear the piercing.

blahblahblah1654 · 25/07/2023 22:50

I had mine done at 14 with parental permission. I do think anything below 16 is too young though.

Bluewater1 · 25/07/2023 22:50

Far too young

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 25/07/2023 22:49

My DD had her ears pierced at Superdrug and they were turning away girls who wanted their second ear piercing under 14

5128gap · 25/07/2023 22:48

Missing the point, but are they back in fashion? Had mine for 30 years now and thought it was a sign of my old age! Not that I'd be showing it off these days, but nice to be know I was in fashion again! And yes, too young.

OrangeKettle · 25/07/2023 22:48

My 12 year old wants her belly button done, I mean!!

OrangeKettle · 25/07/2023 22:47

I am fairly relaxed with piercings. I have about ten in my ears, used to have belly button and I have both nipples done.

My daughter is 12 and wants hers done. She’s looked everything up about it, pros and cons. I’m still in two minds, but it’s not a straight no.

onlynotafan · 25/07/2023 22:47

AngelinaFibres · 25/07/2023 21:49

I am honestly horrified. I am older than a lot of people on here so maybe it's that but multiple piercings on a child is vile.Belly button piercing seem far more sexual than ears and I wasn't allowed ears until I turned 16. Hey ho. I'll go and find some pearls to clutch.

I'm in my early thirties with 3 small daughters, I totally agree with you. I'd be mortified if any of my 3 got it done at such a young age... I have had piercing in my ears and nose but tbh apart from my lobes everything else was temporary or a fad and was removed as soon as I got fed up. I don't think it's natural for humans to put holes in their bodies but then again on ears it kind of works.

KajsaKavat · 25/07/2023 22:47

KajsaKavat · 25/07/2023 22:47

My 13 year old has her septum and 2 x earlobes in each ear. Belly button seems a bit much though but probably because that really hurt for a long time afterwards for me personally…

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12 year old not 13

KajsaKavat · 25/07/2023 22:47

BorneoBound · 25/07/2023 20:59

I'm quite relaxed with piercing - DD 12yo has a few including the top of her ear and her nose. She has asked for her belly button and I've said no for now

My 13 year old has her septum and 2 x earlobes in each ear. Belly button seems a bit much though but probably because that really hurt for a long time afterwards for me personally…

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 25/07/2023 22:46

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/07/2023 21:06

I think it's too young but if she takes the jewellery out the hole will heal. It's not permanent.

I had mine done at 21 and it went septic. I still have a scar

onlynotafan · 25/07/2023 22:45

I've got 3 girls but they aren't even teens yet well my stance is it would be an easy no. I remember being that age and was still playing with dolls and well being a child. If she's having it done so young is she always going to be parading around in crop tops, as that's the hype for the piercing to be 'seen' then there's the aftercare would she be mature enough to follow guidance to prevent infection - I think it's ridiculous tbh parents should parent and not give in to this nonsense l.

Bloodyleaverspartybollocks · 25/07/2023 22:43

Local to us it's 13 with consent 16 without

LaMaG · 25/07/2023 22:34

Way too young. I'd be concerned of the piercer who does this, it seems they are not following industry norm so I'd be worried about them being dodgy in other ways like hygiene. 14 seems about right to me

Rossannah · 25/07/2023 22:30

I had mine in 14 years. It healed within 5 years. Been 14 years now and no sign of it

NeverDropYourMooncup · 25/07/2023 22:29

RandomUsernameHere · 25/07/2023 21:31

My immediate reaction was that it's too young, but thinking about, why is it any worse than getting ears pierced? Possibly a stupid question and there may be an aspect that I haven't considered...

It's a body piercing. Reputable piercers (it's only when evidenced as over the age of consent where I live and many insist upon 18 on top of that) know they have no business touching children below the neck.

Rossannah · 25/07/2023 22:29

BorneoBound · 25/07/2023 20:59

I'm quite relaxed with piercing - DD 12yo has a few including the top of her ear and her nose. She has asked for her belly button and I've said no for now

My dd a similar age, has helix and belly button but I have said no for her nose. I don't want any on her face until she can decide as an adult. I'd never thought of it your way, is there a particular reason why? Not having a go BTW 🙃

Mariposa26 · 25/07/2023 22:27

I had mine done at 12. Took it out at 34 when I was pregnant. What do you think the issue is? I can’t imagine being bothered about this for my own daughter, but maybe that will change.

Campbelll · 25/07/2023 22:26

No don’t, at all, ever. It IS permanent as a belly button piercing never heals up. She will regret it massively!

Milkmani · 25/07/2023 22:24

I think it’s too young as girls will still grow a lot from 11+, once they are 15/16 less so. The stretching of the skin can cause it to reject. I can imagine the torso getting much longer and stretching the skin at that age. Had mine done at 15, 20 years ago but have a horrific stretch mark on the actual piercing now from pregnancy - wish I had never had it done. I’ve been looking up surgery to snip off the piercing as it’s all saggy and stretched :(

blacknredsweeties · 25/07/2023 22:18

Dd is nearly 13. She's had hers done about 6 months. DD11 keeps asking. I'm unsure yet as she's so skinny. She went with us do saw how they do it.

Siriusmuggle · 25/07/2023 22:18

Lessstressedhemum · 25/07/2023 21:29

My piercer won't do it on anyone under 14. Even then you need to be accompanied by a parent with photo id who has to give written permission.

No reputable piercer would touch an 11yo.

Exactly this, word for word.

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