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Cheapybride · 24/07/2023 11:22

is This a shit idea/am I a cheap skate

orgainal plan was for us our kids and parent’s registry office ceremony then us taking straight by off for the airport.
my mum has kindly agreed to watch the kids for a week so we can have a minimoon

i have now been thinking that maybe we should have some sort of small celebration in between ceremony and the flight.

an airport hotel has a deal for afternoon tea on Groupon I’m thinking about booking us all there for a quick bite before my self and my partner take off. The Groupon will cost us less than£100 for everybody.

our ceremony is at 12:30 and flight is at 4:45 so by the time you take 30 minutes for ceremony and 20 minute drive to airport we can only stay around 1 hour. We’re happy to pay for our parents to stay on with the kids and cover their drinks bill if that’s something they would like. How ever due to budget we can’t afford taxis back so they will be driving meaning out of 7 guests (divorced:”/new partners etc) 3 of them will be driving so not much fun for them.

what would you do? Stick to original plan or try and incorporate The cheapest wedding breakfast ever?

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Jk987 · 24/07/2023 20:56

Nearest pub to the registry office, shout everyone a drink and get a few bowls of chips. That way no extra travel, you can all toast the wedding and you can leave them there to enjoy the afternoon when you leave to get to the airport.

SussexLass87 · 24/07/2023 16:04

I think it's such a nice idea, but the timings sound quite rushed.

Could you do an afternoon tea at home when you're back from honeymoon? You could get those platters of food from M&S or the supermarket?

Or put some money behind the bar at your local pub and invite everyone out for a drink or two?

Congratulations on your wedding OP!

UsingChangeofName · 24/07/2023 15:58

I mean. I do think you should have thought about this earlier, and done something after the ceremony - whether that was an afternoon tea or a pub lunch or whatever - but you don't have time if you have the flight booked and the ceremony booked, so you will have to leave it now.

Unless you want to suggest your dc and both sets of parents go to lunch together without you, if they know each other and get on?

FofB · 24/07/2023 15:36

Someone local to us makes up Afternoon Tea boxes- scones, pot of jam, sausage rolls etc. From around £15-30 depending on what you have. Can you have something like that in a local park?

LlynTegid · 24/07/2023 15:28

I'd stick to the original plan and hope you have a lovely day.

ManateeFair · 24/07/2023 15:23

The timings don't really work, so I'd stick with your original plan and go straight off to your minimoon.

If you can get a similarly cheap deal for a different date, how about having a celebration meal of some sort when you get back? But really, don't feel obliged to have a celebration at all if you don't want one or can't afford it.

HoneyIShrunkThePizza · 24/07/2023 15:18

Why not see if a local cafe will let you bring your own fizz to make bucks fizz and treat everyone to brunch (essentially cost is breakfast for everyone plus orange juice plus a couple of bottles of prosecco)?

Or do a BBQ when you get back? Seems a bit silly for everyone to have to schlep to the airport with you.

Marblessolveeverything · 24/07/2023 15:07

Wait until you can enjoy it. The timing is too tight. Either have them round for a few nibbles/glass of wine and a toast on your return? or do the afternoon tea when you have the time. Congratulations.

Pootles34 · 24/07/2023 15:04

Wait till you return - not because of cheapness (I applaud that), but because you're trying to fit too much into one day.

It'll be much nicer to do something another day. Have a wonderful day and minimoon!

strivingtosucceed · 24/07/2023 14:54

Another one thinking timings are too tight, but I think a brunch could be a nice idea? If not then i'd just do something when you come back tbh.

Congratulations on your wedding though 😊

Yarnorama · 24/07/2023 12:19

What about a nice brunch out before the ceremony?

Piyo · 24/07/2023 12:15

I’d go to a local pub (nice one) and shout everyone a drink? But honestly I would do something when you get back.

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Cheapybride · 24/07/2023 11:50

There’s no option to change the timings of the ceremony at this point.

agree maybe doing something small once we return could be a better idea.

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gogomoto · 24/07/2023 11:48

Quick drink near registry office or go out for dinner on your return,

WannaBeRecluse · 24/07/2023 11:47

How early do you need to check in? I'd just do a celebration when you get back. That way you can relax and not have to worry about time frames.

Flisss · 24/07/2023 11:46

Can you do the ceremony earlier to do the afternoon tea? It is a nice touch if you can fit it in. Do people know they are taking time off work just for a 30 min ceremony and that's all? If they know that then they are obviously happy doing it!

mondaytosunday · 24/07/2023 11:44

An hour there - well it will take about 15 min for you to park, get inside and seated. Then at least another ten minutes before food arrives.
The transport back for guests isn't a problem (doesn't sound like a long drive), but I don't think the timings work. Nice idea though, if you could have your ceremony earlier?

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Cheapybride · 24/07/2023 11:39

I never even thought of it being tight for timing to be honest I knew we would have 1hour-1:30 max.
how about a quick drink in a local bar before we leave for the airport or sending everybody off with a bottle of their drink of choice with a have a drink on us type note iykwim? I feel cheeky asking people to take the day off work etc for the sake of 30 minutes. But can’t really afford to ‘treat’ them to much.

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Flisss · 24/07/2023 11:37

Too rushed, I wouldn't.

Cas112 · 24/07/2023 11:30

To tight, could hit traffic or anything

Youdoyoutoday · 24/07/2023 11:29

Sorry, I didn't see the update about money being a bit tight.
Can you do the afternoon tea when you're back instead?

Youdoyoutoday · 24/07/2023 11:28

Timing sounds too tight to make it enjoyable so could you do something when you're back? Book a nice restaurant and treat your parents to say thanks for having the kids?

There's usually some good restaurant deals going.

And congratulations on your wedding!

Maddy70 · 24/07/2023 11:28

Definitely not enough time

Could you see if you can move the wedding up by an hour?

ChocChipPancake · 24/07/2023 11:27

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Appleofmyeye2023 · 24/07/2023 11:26

Do something when you get back- groupon is fine . But don’t put pressure on yourself with flight timing.

lewve your parents some money to take kids out thst evening and celebrate with a special “tea” at whatever you can afford- even a Mac Donald’s if that’s a treat for them. 🤷🏼‍♀️

them do a lovely afternoon tea when you get back and have time to all enjoy it together.