Is this tight ?!

100% this.

I think the ones who have zero problem with CF friend are probably the CFs in their friendship groups and justifying their own selfish behaviour.

No decent person gets a free holiday then pouts because they don’t get the best room. I’d be fucking embarrassed not to at least buy OP 1 drink on a free holiday never kind make her pay for the meal on the way home. Absolute cunt behaviour.

This.
OP - if you want to take me on holiday with you next time, I promise to pay the bar tab, and will even treat you to a massage (or another treatment if your choosing) in the hotel bar, as a thank you, as well.

I would certainly be bringing home a little pamper gift for the other friend who had paid for my expensive flight (minus the name change fee), so she could have a little treat/pamper as she recovers from her hospital treatment.

Yep. And the ones criticising the OP for not being clear that the CF might have to bring her purse out - it shouldn’t need saying.

Any decent friend would be appreciative of the almost free holiday and ensure they paid for a few treats for the OP while they were there.

As I said earlier, for anyone with any manners, the very least would be paying the bar bill, paying for a couple of spa treatments for OP and buying her a thank you gift when arriving back home. None of that should need spelling out to a grown adult

OP I'm sorry for calling you a mug before. I don't think you're really a mug but you are too nice. I hope you've seen the light. Having said that, don't change who you are too much. The world has too many takers and not enough givers, it needs nice people like you to bring balance to the greddy ones. Don't let people make you feel bad for being nice. She was in the wrong, not you.

She should have paid the entire bar bill and paid for you to have a couple of treatments at the very least. Tight doesn’t even begin to cover it.

To the (few) posters who are saying that it's not CF behaviour to itemise the bill, that it is just being fair and upfront - how does that tally with the fact she dodged paying for her airport meal and told OP that she'd pay her when she had time (ie. I will delay at my leisure).

I know I am probably too invested in this thread but I've been on the receiving end of this sort of treatment and it's horrible.

I also think this is a great message to send her.

If it had been me, who was govdnma free holiday the other person wouldn't have had to buy a drink the whole holiday and as meals at the hotel were included I'd probably be treating her to other stuff too.

It’s reminding me of the thread where a poster was rewarded for good work by their employer with a luxury weekend away for two, so she took a friend on an all-expenses paid trip, only to be asked for a ridiculous amount of money for the petrol the friend used to drive them both there!

So many replies were “well you got it for free yourself, why should she have to pay for all the petrol?” BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU A FREE TRIP!

Get a better friend. She's a greedy user. Lose her.

I have a friend who would do this. It's to do with her upbringing and her ingrained attitude towards money. It's hard to explain but she wouldn't see it as being cheeky or tight, just fair that each person pays for what they had. I don't know that it would occur to her to do anything else.

Just putting another perspective on it I guess. She might have no idea you think she's being 'tight' and be mortified if she knew. To her, she's probably just being fair.

I know why you think differently - but people see things differently.

I would gently chat to her about how/ why it bothered you and not write her off as a friend because of this.

Oh, come on....you are the one being unreasonable! Especially about the room with the balcony! She would have been dragging my cold, dead body out of that room before she could have it!

Have you had the money off this fucker ?!?

The balcony room thing is outrageous.. you should get the pick of rooms if its actually you who paid.
The drinks thing isn't tight if she's actually broke because maybe she only had the money to pay for the things she ordered herself.. which is understandable..
But if you don't think she's broke that is very odd yes. If I'd had the money I've paid for all the drinks as an acknowledgement that I got a free holiday on you.
However I have been in this situation as I went on a package holiday with my friend who'd just been through a bad breakup and couldn't get a refund on a holiday they'd booked together and didn't want to go alone with their child.. so I came along with my child who was the same age as hers. I made it clear from the outset I was totally broke tho and if I came I wouldn't be able to pay for any extras at all. We had a lovely holiday. I was very grateful but I wouldn't have been able to pay a bar bill as I wasn't working at that time and was penniless. But as I said she knew that when she invited me.

OP - please tell me you have chased up CF friend for the airport meal money!

i mostly agree with this.

But she should still pay her share of the airport meal, and by end of today would be the latest possible "okay" thing to do - she may need to be at home to set up new people and out yesterday - so Monday evening seems reasonable as it taking to now to do.
(my bank app - barclays - forgets anyone after 13 months non use, very annoying)

Yes she is tight. I would ditch her as a friend. The older I get the less tolerant I am of CFs. So at the time of splitting the bar bill this is when I would have said to the CF. You have had a practically free holiday and you are quibbling over a few pound on the bill. We will split 50/50 although really as I paid for the holiday I would think you could treat me to a few drinks.

To be honest I don't think she's done anything wrong. You told her about paying to change the flights, that says that she doesn't need to pay for anything else. like literally - "Hey X, would you like to come on holiday with me, Y can't come and so rather than my going alone and the place being wasted, could you come? You'd need to get the flights changed for X amount." Or "Hey X, Y can't come on holiday with me, I don't want to go alone, and Y doesn't want to lose the money, so would you like to go, you'd need to reimburse Y for M amount + F to change the name on the flight." Also with the drinks, drinks are such different amounts, so adding up what you've each had is very reasonable. I think this is a case of, it's kind of you to ask someone to come on holiday with you, and it's kind of you to gift someone a holiday, but it is your responsibility to make it clear. Rule one: If you don't want to gift someone something, make it abundantly clear you are not.

This. She’s not a friend.

this is awful.

I’ve just been for a weekend away with a friend - we agreed to split it - we split everything taxis, hotels etc and I made sure I transferred her the money before I went home.

do you really need us to tell you? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Please please say this. It's perfect 👌

Too late now
You should have told her at the time

This CF sounds exactly like my MIL. Unfortunately some people have no concept of what’s decent and fair and will let you keep paying for them as much as possible without feeling any guilt. My MIL is oblivious to the fact that she’s actually not been invited to places by friends because of it, she doesn’t see that this is the reason. You can say something but people like this genuinely have the skin of a rhino and will make you feel petty. Don’t ever invite her again.

Thats a friendship I would let quietly die off and give no further thought to her

I'd bill her for her bloody audacity alone! Tight cow.