Complementary wine.

Is everyone missing that they've had the wine since February 2022??? If he wanted it he'd have glugged it by now.

Some people prefer to age wine for a few years before they drink it.

(If it's good quality red wine that is! not a £6.99 bottle of Chardonnay from Aldi)

YABU for the use of "hubby"

The wine though, YANBU

The real question is, why has the wine been there since Feb? It would have been long gone by now in this house. He is unreasonable though.

A teachers gift is nice but not necessary, If I wanted to give a teacher a gift I would buy a present sure his behaviour seems childish but I would not have given the wine away

@Delatron
You're missing the point. I get gifting, and she is a great host, but it crosses over into just picking up random stuff in the house and handing it over without discussion. "DH has a lot of these... have some". This is where it crosses over from generosity to taking the piss. "My darling wife has lots of different shampoos and mascara... here, have some".

No it’s not disrespectful. She’s a generous person, it’s a box of chocolates. Seriously?!

So bizarre! Who cares about a measly (probably cheap) bottle of wine. If he was that bothered about it it wouldn’t have been knocking about for a year. This would have been a complete non issue in our house.
(And a bottle of wine wouldn’t last a year).

Just let him have his wine. Pick your battles OP, this is really not a big deal

Your wife sounds lovely. You could always just buy more chocolates!

It won't be very nice by now anyway, unless it is good quality wine which has been carefully stored under optimum conditions.

I can’t imagine why on earth he cares - if it’s just a standard bottle of wine why can’t he just replace it? More to the point, who keeps a standard bottle of wine for over a year and doesn’t drink it?!!

He's being absurd, and so are some of the po-faced PPs responding that you should have consulted him before giving away 'his stuff'.

It was a freebie from a fucking Airbnb, for god's sake. It wasn't a personal gift from a cherished friend. It will be a bog-standard bottle of booze that you could easily replace from the bloody supermarket if he's that bothered. He's a twat.

My wife does this... we amass chocolates, etc, in our goodie cabinet that we eventually get to in the evenings. I'll come home to find one is missing because she needed a last-minute gift for a friend, which actually happens a lot as she's quite social.

She also has a habit of giving away anything she sets her eyes on while guests are here as a "thank you for coming" gift... and as it's in front of the guests, you can't exactly say "errr, no!"

So I absolutely get this. It's annoying and disrespectful.

If it was given away by the AirBnb it was unlikely to be anything particularly special or unique.

If he was planning on drinking it, he's had almost 18 months to do so and he hasn't.

If you don't give this wine, you've got to find another present, which it doesn't sound like he's doing anything about.

So YANBU on all four counts.

Give him a choice. You give the wine as a gift, or he goes out and buys something else, wraps it up and gives it to the teacher.

Say you won't use it but can you have a tenner off him to buy some wine for the teacher. I bet he soon changes his tune.

The fact you were gifted the wine in the airbnb (for you both. The fact you don't drink it is irrelevant)
The fact he hasn't shown any interest in drinking it since february 2022
The fact he has plenty of other bottles of wine in the house which he has, I assume, preferred to work his way through over this one,
equals, to me, that he is being silly and childish.

And yes I second telling him to sort the teacher gift out next year then if he thinks he can do a better job.

Is everyone missing that they've had the wine since February 2022??? If he wanted it he'd have glugged it by now. Fair presumption that he doesn't want it! And I don't think it's "his" wine regardless of who likes/drinks wine or not. Joint funds, joint holiday, joint complimentary gift. There is furniture in our house (for example) pretty much exclusively used by me but I don't call it MY desk/chair etc. All of it is ours.

Oh I missed how long ago you got the bottle. In that case yes, I think it's fair game.

Of course you don’t see a problem giving it away. You were never going to drink the wine.

This! I am from a family of teachers and a few of my close friends are too and they would all appreciate wine and it's what I used to give my my dc's teachers. Made a change from the multiple boxes of chocolates they usually get (that often get re-gifted as not to taste or too many).

But no, I don't think YABU - I would have assumed if he hadn't drunk it by now he wasn't too bothered about it and could easily buy himself another bottle when he does fancy one?

If the tables were turned and it was an item she was interested in and partner zero interest, and partner gave it away bet mn would be all over the bastard for giving it away without checking first.

Why is it his wine rather than yours?

OP doesn't drink though? I assume the intention behind taking it was that DH would drink it as it would be odd to take something from an AirBNB that you never intended to use.
If it's genuinely a cheap bottle of wine like a Bare Foot or something then it's stupid for him to get upset over it, although it's a bit of a shitty gift TBH. At today's supermarket prices it's a bit like gifting someone a 4 pack of Heinz baked beans.
If it is a truly nice bottle that he had his heart set on drinking, then YABU.

Oh for heaven's sake..... presumably you both paid for it out of joint funds? He's being dog in the manger especially if it's not a posh bottle (unlikely).