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Kids constantly knocking on door!!

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babyoda · 18/07/2023 23:27

I’m a little embarrassed to write this but for the last couple of months (since the evenings have been lighter) the kids that live on my estate keep on knocking on my door. It started as every now and then, then once a week, then a couple of times a week, then every day and some days it’s even 2/3 times. I never answer the door because they just knock and run and I think if you react, it makes them want to do it more?

They aren’t doing it to anyone else and I’m wondering if they’re doing it to me either because I’m a young woman who lives alone (my husband died in December 2021) or maybe because I’m young they’ll think I find it funny? I don’t really know what to do about it, I’m just dreading the 6 weeks holiday when they are at home all day.

I don’t know if it’s worth speaking to the parents as one of them literally watches her child knock on my door from her window. I have a ring doorbell (and cameras) so I have it all on video.

I hate confrontation and making a big deal out of something. I also worry that the mum might take it the wrong way and then spark off something even bigger. I just want to be left alone. I feel like it wouldn’t be happening if my husband was still here.

I keep spending time at my parents house because they are driving me mad and then I think maybe I’ll just rent the house out? But I love my house, it has so many memories for me and my husband.

I think they are of primary school age, can’t be totally sure on their exact age but they def aren’t teenagers.

Any advice please?

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Bigmomma014 · 26/07/2023 21:12

I know exactly what you're going through. My back garden backs onto a carpark. Kids play football in the carpark and use my back fence as a goal. As well as the ball constantly being kicked against my fence, it then gets kicked over multiple times in an evening. I have asked nicely for them to stop using my fence as a goal but of course they say yes but all they want is their ball back. This has now escalated into cherry knocking on my front door every day and today a ball was kicked against the door. My door is literally on the foot path, so they can bang the door and be gone before i even reach the door. I have always been polite and given the ball back. I'm not sure where these children live and I don't want anymore of a backlash. I know some will say its harmless fun but it has such an impact on the person trying to mind their own business and live their life. I am trying to ignore this behaviour hoping they will get bored but with the school holidays just beginjng , I'm dreading the next 5 weeks. Unfortunately looking into it there's not alot that can be done.

Harrumphy · 21/07/2023 13:56

Keep a notepad and pen by the door, as soon as you see them approaching and walking up your steps, flung open the door with notepad and pen in hand and say you want their addresses so if they knock on your door again you will send the police to speak to their parents and their school as you have recordings of them on your doorbell camera. That should be enough to make them scatter and not do it again.

If they get mouthy, tell them you’ll put a picture of them from your doorbell on the community Facebook page to ask people to identify them.

That should scare them off. If not, contact 101 and ask them to send a PCSO as this is anti social behaviour, has escalated to multiple times a day, you are aware a parent is watching them do it and you don’t feel safe in your own home.

CindersAgain · 21/07/2023 13:47

Maybe try a cctv sticker first. They may not have realised you have the doorbell/cameras.

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Bliss1221 · 21/07/2023 13:44

If you have a ring cameea already report it let the police talk to their parents, their kids are unsupervised unruly and causing nuisancr

Bliss1221 · 21/07/2023 13:42

Get a ring door camera,

Bbq1 · 21/07/2023 13:37

I had similar with kids playing on our property in our old house and generally being noisy nuisances. I used to go out and tell them to go away. They mostly did. 2 or 3 occasions i knocked on parents doors and they were mostly fairly apologetic.

MetalFences · 21/07/2023 13:05

I don’t understand. They do act as deterrents and are used to collate evidence. You can check who is at the door before you answer. Others have suggested the same. I’m not sure what point you are making

She said in her opening post that she has a Ring doorbell and she has cameras.

SemiDetachedKittenAsylum · 21/07/2023 13:01

We have the motion alerts set up on our Ring doorbell. It pinged one evening, so I opened the app to see about 5 kids, (12 ish?) about to ring the bell….so I opened the microphone and yelled BUGGER OFF! It worked, and they’ve not been back.

OP, you have to either scare them off or talk to the parent(s). You can’t just put up with it.

Cookerhood · 21/07/2023 12:46

I think that the point was that the OP & others have said multiple times that she has a ring doorbell & cameras

Theo1756 · 21/07/2023 11:36

MetalFences · 19/07/2023 12:36

You cannot be serious!

I don’t understand. They do act as deterrents and are used to collate evidence. You can check who is at the door before you answer. Others have suggested the same. I’m not sure what point you are making

cherrypied · 19/07/2023 21:08

Sorry OP neighbour problems are so so difficult. I've had a couple and its not as easy as "just go and talk to them". Its very difficult.

You can set motion detection alerts on your ring so you get notified when -well -motion is detected at the front door.

You can set this to alert on alexa too. (And In fact this is how caught burglars trying to steal my car at 3am!- pretty terrifying)

I would then go out and tell them firmly (with the ring in live so its recording) "please stop knocking on my door, please go back home now. Bye. "

Record how often its happening, kids involved. Its ASB its spoiling the quiet enjoyment of your own home. If this doest work then call the police and ask them to call round to discuss. The sight of a police car will have an impact.

gamerchick · 19/07/2023 17:00

They are doing it to other people OP. We've had the same problem. It turns out they've been scaring an elderly lady as well as plaguing the rest of the estate. They nearly crapped themselves when I said I had photos. It stopped for a bit but now cover their heads and do it. My neighbour is apocalyptic over it. Council and everything.

Print the photos off and knock on the door. Tell them if it doesn't stop you'll be asking a policeman to have a word as they're doing it to other people as well and everyone has had enough.

Annaishere · 19/07/2023 16:52

sawnotseen · 19/07/2023 11:10

@Annaishere police complaint? Seriously? Did you never play 'knock down ginger' as a kid? No idea why it was called that.
Take the battery out of your door bell and ignore them. Tell any friends or family to message you when they're at the door. If they're knocking, rather than ringing your doorbell, open the door and tell them to go away and tell them you're going to speak to their parents.

I did but not constantly and the same door. This is antisocial behaviour. I would contact the parents and council first though

twoshedsjackson · 19/07/2023 12:52

Where I live (SE London) this game is called "Knock Down Ginger" and the fun is summoning someone to the door and running off before they open it, leaving them peering up and down the street.
I finally cured a local child of this by going to the door on the first knock, not opening the door, putting it on the latch so it could be opened really quickly and easily, then waiting.
Sure enough, she couldn't resist a second try, at which point the door opened far faster than she anticipated, and I stepped forward and asked her what she wanted.
She gazed in saucer-eyed horror, as I asked again, in the tone of one baffled by pointless and irrational behaviour, why she knocked if she didn't want anything?
She scuttled off into the block of flats opposite, and after that had trouble catching my eye on the street, no longer the anonymous japester.
I don't have a ring doorbell (yet) but a spyhole lens is cheap and easy to install.

MetalFences · 19/07/2023 12:36

Theo1756 · 19/07/2023 12:32

Perhaps a Ring doorbell will act as a deterrent or allow you to compile evidence to support talking to the mother/ police. It will also allow you to see if someone is legitimately at your door.

You cannot be serious!

Cookerhood · 19/07/2023 12:33

She still has a ring doorbell

Theo1756 · 19/07/2023 12:32

Perhaps a Ring doorbell will act as a deterrent or allow you to compile evidence to support talking to the mother/ police. It will also allow you to see if someone is legitimately at your door.

Angryapricot · 19/07/2023 12:31

Recording of a dog barking somehow linked to the ring doorbell/knocking ought to do it

ThomasHardyPerennial · 19/07/2023 12:20

The comment about declaring police involvement if you sell the house isn't true, OP.

Jakadaal · 19/07/2023 11:33

If you have a ring doorbell answer through that and loudly say stop knocking on this door! I can see you and if you don't stop I'm calling the police. If parents are around hopefully they will hear and act. If not ring the non emergency number and get someone round

billy1966 · 19/07/2023 11:31

If you know some police officers personally, ask them to call to your door and go outside pointing at their general direction.

Bring them in forca cup of tea.

You can be sure your neighbours will notice their presence.

AuntieJune · 19/07/2023 11:27

Stand by the door and open fast when they approach then shout at them.

Put marmite on your door knocker.

Sit out of sight in your garden and yell when they approach.

Print out pictures of them doing it and make funny masks out of them that you put up in your windows or hang in your bushes.

So much fun to be had. Or yes, I'd talk to the parents. If you approach it with a 'I know it doesn't seem that bad, but' attitude then I can't imagine they'd get that worked up about it.

If you have a front garden gate, that might deter them too as harder to get in and out.

Sorry about your husband.

EvelynBeatrice · 19/07/2023 11:26

Could try speaking to the children and tell them the truth. Be nice say hi i really wanted to speak to you and ask a favour. Tell them you're on your own and why and and when they ring you get stressed and scared and please could they stop. You're sure they understand that it's mean. They may well stop. Most kids are pretty fair minded.

What3words · 19/07/2023 11:13

I cant believe some people are justifying this.

It's bloody annoying and makes you jump when it's repeated times in a night

No it's not okay just because you were a pita as a kid 🙄

sawnotseen · 19/07/2023 11:10

@Annaishere police complaint? Seriously? Did you never play 'knock down ginger' as a kid? No idea why it was called that.
Take the battery out of your door bell and ignore them. Tell any friends or family to message you when they're at the door. If they're knocking, rather than ringing your doorbell, open the door and tell them to go away and tell them you're going to speak to their parents.