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To think DH is wrong about how you make a brew

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Phos · 14/07/2023 15:17

... or maybe I'm weird!

I always maintain you put the bag in, then the water, then the milk and then you get the tea to your desired strength before removing the tea bag. DH just made a fuss about this saying I do it the wrong way. But surely leaving the bag in is sensible insurance against an unfortunate slip and putting too much milk in! Have I been badly taught?

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5555L · 18/07/2023 20:33

I make mine the same as you, but the correct way is to add milk first so that the tea leaves don’t get burnt.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/07/2023 08:52

It surely depends on how you like it. If dh doesn’t like the way you make it, he can make his own.

My ILs always liked very strong, (to me) stewed tea in a pot. So when staying I just took teabags and made my own. Nobody was offended.

Lastnightschips · 17/07/2023 08:41

@Hankunamatata that’s exactly how I describe it! Or ‘show the tea the water’.

Hawkins0001 · 16/07/2023 23:36

Obviously then take the tea bag out of cup

Hawkins0001 · 16/07/2023 23:36

I do, tea bag, water, milk, stir and squeeze tea bag, then if too strong dash more milk

BitOutOfPractice · 16/07/2023 23:35

You’re both doing it wrong making it in the mug. Teapot is the only way.

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 16/07/2023 23:34

Characterbuilding · 14/07/2023 17:34

I’ll be crucified but I do
milk
bag
water
🤗

O.M.G

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 16/07/2023 23:33

CatStankShame · 14/07/2023 16:06

No amount of extra teabag squeezes can counteract too much milk. Too much milk is an irreversible error and can only be solved by making a fresh brew.

Bag in.
Water in.
Leave to soak.
Quick squeeze and bag out.
Milk splashed in - decant milk to a little just to make errors reduce.

It can 100% save a cup of tea

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 16/07/2023 23:32

Same as you. Never take the bag out before adding milk. So many possible disasters if it's taken out before.

Caramelsmadfuzzytail · 16/07/2023 23:26

My dad used to drink Earl Grey with a dribble of milk in and 2 saccharine. I never did understand why he didn't just drink it black. I asked him about the saccharine once, apparently it was healthier than sugar. Didn't taste like sugar though.

Fairislefandango · 16/07/2023 20:48

Frequently. But I am lucky enough to live near a town with an excellent independent tea and coffee merchant.

Me too Smile

But you can't see final colour then.OP is right.Tea bag. Water Milk Tea bag out"

No, because tea needs to be brewed in boiling water to bring out the flavour properly. Boiling water mixed with cold milk is not boiling water. Surely if you regularly make tea, you can tell if the tea is the right colour before you put milk in?

Rainbowshit · 16/07/2023 20:21

"Rainbowshit
YABU. You should take the teabag out before putting the milk in.

But you can't see final colour then.
OP is right
Tea bag.
Water
Milk
Tea bag out"
@Summerlovin24

By trying to compensate for putting too much milk in though you are then making the tea the wrong strength. The tea strength is correct when you take the bag out. Just put the milk in a splash at a time so you don't over pour. 🤷🏻‍♀️

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 16/07/2023 19:45

Fromage · 14/07/2023 16:12

Does anyone else ever make a proper pot of tea with leaves?

Frequently. But I am lucky enough to live near a town with an excellent independent tea and coffee merchant.

menopausalbloat · 16/07/2023 19:34

I can't bear milk and t bag mixed. My partner thought I'd not be able to taste the difference but I can every time.

FixTheBone · 16/07/2023 19:32

Pot and cups filled with boiling water.

Kettle reboiled.

Pot emptied and leaves added, fresh boiling hot water and tea cosy applied.

Brewed for appropriate time period, pot turned midway through brewing.

Cup emptied and tea poured through strainer.

Milk added.

This. Is the way.

FixTheBone · 16/07/2023 19:30

Whatever argument you're trying to make was moot the second you started talking about bags...

angelikacpickles · 16/07/2023 19:20

Teabag out before milk in.

Summerlovin24 · 16/07/2023 19:10

Rainbowshit · 16/07/2023 19:01

YABU. You should take the teabag out before putting the milk in.

But you can't see final colour then.
OP is right
Tea bag.
Water
Milk
Tea bag out

Rainbowshit · 16/07/2023 19:01

YABU. You should take the teabag out before putting the milk in.

FarmGirl78 · 16/07/2023 18:56

DrCoconut · 14/07/2023 16:20

But always milk first with instant coffee otherwise it tastes scorched.

I don't drink tea or coffee but was always taught this by my parents when making brews. Theres nowt worst than burnt beans apparently! (Instant 'beans' obviously!)

And I remember years ago watching a programme on how they make tea and one of the big brands said that putting milk in first clogs the holes in the bag so hinders infusion.

Titfortat78 · 16/07/2023 17:00

Actually putting the milk in before removing the bag interferes with the brewing process. I stir and leave to brew for 3 minutes cos I like a builders brew. Everyone asks me to make the brews. Sometimes when vsiting family members. Because they say I make a good cup of tea. One of them though puts the milk in first with the teabag then the water. 🤢🤮They also use the same spoon to stir tea with no sugar as they just used to stir tea with sugar or coffee. They need serious lessons on the art of tea making.

Titfortat78 · 16/07/2023 16:40

Water in first I’ve had far too many burst so less chance of tea bag goes in after water. I leave to brew for 3 minutes so if I need the loo I’ll go or do something that needs doing in the kitchen. Tea bag out first before pouring in milk. I like a strong brew so I also measure a dessert spoon of milk out. If I don’t I put too much in. DP only likes a tiny bit so I put a teaspoon in.

HowdidImanagetohavetwoaccountaandthenloseboth · 16/07/2023 14:08

Any tea made in the cup is wrong . You need a teapot . Period . End of query !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Spanielsarepainless · 16/07/2023 13:51

I use a teapot so add milk after tea has brewed in the pot and poured into the cup. I'm with your husband.

continentallentil · 16/07/2023 13:50

The main things are properly boiling water and tea before milk. Not getting these two right should be a hanging offence but the rest is noise.