Have school got this wrong?

Interaction between peers was a major part of learning when my daughter's were in primary and what they are doing and who they are interacting with in class, does extend to the playground. A lot of children will cope fine and just get on with it but some children will struggle greatly with the changes and that can have lasting effects.

There may be lots of reasons the school have done this, including perhaps people in the other class asking to be separated for some reason.

As others have said, in a lot of schools no matter how much you complain, nothing will change - you don't have a right to insist your child is in a certain class - that wouldn't be workable!

My daughter was in a different class this year from all of her friends (year 4). She still plays with the others but has a load of new friends. It is been fine and I'm glad it happened. Will make the move to secondary easier I think, knowing that it's not the end of the world to not be with who they want to be

She got put with someone she wrote down? So you can’t really complain. I agree with building resilience. Sounds like you need to build some too..

Oh OP, I know it feels like the end of the world for your daughter, but she'll soon settle in to her new class and all this worry will soon be forgotten.

You are positively joking?

You are making this worse by allowing it to be a drama instead of putting a positive spin on it . The school have to arrange around 90 children ( 3 form) you cannot keep everyone happy . There is a lot more to balancing the classes than keeping people with all their friends .

Kids vibe off their parent's reactions so it's your job to keep it calm and look to the positive. Whilst still being empathetic.

Class mixing is a complicated process weighing up many different needs as well as diversity and inclusion.

Of course it's nice to be with your friends but you don't get put in sets at secondary based on your chums so as painful as it is now, it's good practice as you can't avoid it forever. Help her deal with it proactively now. Plan regular play dates with friends in other class/ make friendship bracelets etc. At the end of the day she's in the classroom to learn and presumably they can still play at break.

It's highly possible the school think her friendship group are holding her back and she'll thrive in a new group.

Hardly dramatic in my case, I was speaking directly from lived experience. I took my DD several years to get over the awful events at their primary school, including specialist mentoring for two years at secondary, all because her useless school decided to blame her "lack of resilience".

Maybe not, but the child is so upset it's effecting their general well being, which could mark them out for bullying. With their friends in the other classes, she will have no support.

No your child will not be broken. However you are not helping her if this is your attitude to the situation. You need to exhibit a positive, optimistic attitude and that will help her.

And the here was no "fight" just a discussion.

My child was moved and it wasn't a spectacularly unusual occurrence. Just for balance .

Fact or Opinion?

If they do I'd eat my hat. It's almost a certainty and it's not worth fighting it. I've worked in schools for over a decade and I've been the one making the decisions and dealing with complaints. Its unfortunate that she's unhappy, but the school has made the moves for a reason, will have spent ages drawing up the plans, and are very, very unlikely to change it. If they let one change they'd be opening the floodgates for more.

As I said, she'll have plenty of time in the playground to chat with her friends and play games.

I guarantee you they won't change their minds so you need to get her used to the idea.

Fact or Opinion?

Mentally broken is a very OTT phrase to describe the disappointment of being in a different class. You say she has a friend that she put on her list. You should be bigging up the positives and distracting her. Talking about her being mentally broken is utterly ridiculous.

The suggestion of reaching out to the mums (or dads) of those who the OPs DD will be with next school year is a good one. Supporting through change not trying to avoid it.

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I’d point out to her that she hasn’t done anything wrong, as she has been out with one person that she put on her list.

It shouldn't make amy difference in class as she'll be learning and shouldn't be chatting! Remind her that she'll see her friends in the playground and it's a great opportunity to make new friends. I guarantee you they won't change their minds so you need to get her used to the idea. She'll get over it in time.

Dear Peggy 🙄

With the amount of dramatic parents there are on this thread, there's no wonder so many kids are struggling at the moment.

No, to build resilience we should stop teaching them that an ordinary suck-it-up part of life means mentally breaking someone.

*children have solid friendships and friendships of convenience, just like adults.

If two friends are truly long term compatible, being placed in different classes won't affect that*

Excellent advice for a sad child. 🙄

"just hang on in there. You'll see which ones are just for convenience... "

children have solid friendships and friendships of convenience, just like adults.

If two friends are truly long term compatible, being placed in different classes won't affect that