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PFB? Is this self absorbed or not?

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GotMooMilk · 13/07/2023 13:18

A friend sent me this screenshot of a mutual friends insta (appreciate we sound 13 years old at this stage). She’s worried it’s a dig at her as she’s had a lot going on herself which she hasn’t shared with anyone and she got a pointed message from our pregnant friend and then this appears on her SM.
This is all pathetic and weird but why oh why would someone make that post in the first place? Why would everyone you know check in constantly (bar previous loss, high risk pregnancy, HG etc etc which this friend hasn’t had). The world doesn’t revolve around you, pregnant or not. Right?

PFB? Is this self absorbed or not?
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orangeyeahthatsright · 13/07/2023 17:25

She sounds incredibly entitled. Apart from anything else, not everyone feels they want to be fawned over. I once asked a pregnant friend how she was feeling and got snapped at that she 'wasn't ill', I knew that, I was trying to acknowledge that a big thing was happening for her. Obviously that's just as rude, but it's easy to feel one can't win.

Madamecholetsbonnet · 13/07/2023 17:14

The only reasonable response to this kind of shite is a thumbs up, or “you ok hun?”

LoneStarState · 13/07/2023 17:09

She might be giving birth to sweet little baby Jesus, you never know!

Just imagine what she’ll be like once the baby is born though. And I wonder if she herself checked on her pregnant friends, co workers etc previous to her own pregnancy, probably not.

Danascully2 · 13/07/2023 17:06

These types of posts are attention seeking nonsense. Just as annoying as the 'been such a hard day' type vague posts inviting questions about what's wrong.

S0upertrooper · 13/07/2023 16:58

I have a relative that posts this kind of passive aggressive shit on SM, usually pointed at her MIL. It's pathetic and tedious but it increases as her MH decreases.

I file it with "Checked into A&E" posts 🙄

Mariposista · 13/07/2023 15:46

Ughhhhh this silly girl sounds far too immature to be having a baby.

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GotMooMilk · 13/07/2023 15:38

Honestly I didn't really think about it! It wasn't a deliberate thing.

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ISeeMisledPeople · 13/07/2023 15:18

Peacoffee · 13/07/2023 14:22

Why would she though? It’s not a personal account it’s just an account with thousands of shitty quotes.

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Why wouldn't she though? It just seems odd to point people to a random insta account... Unless that's the point of posting in the first place.

ActDottie · 13/07/2023 15:08

Massively self absorbed post! I’d just ignore but I hate people who post crap like this on social media. It’s so attention seeking.

pimplebum · 13/07/2023 15:00

It's a sad copy and paste - I really really fucking hate the cancer ones !!!
Ignore

Agapornis · 13/07/2023 14:59

Surely the pointed message she received is more relevant than the quote?

MzHz · 13/07/2023 14:57

GotMooMilk · 13/07/2023 13:35

I agree and said that to friend who was worried.

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There’s an insta name on the image, that’s not your friend is it?

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GotMooMilk · 13/07/2023 14:52

Just the idea of giving your friends 'a pass' because 'they don't know what it's like'. Bleugh!

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begaydocrime42 · 13/07/2023 14:47

Hate this quote. Why, as an adult woman, would anyone be expecting their friends/acquaintances to constantly be reaching out to check in on them. People aren't mind readers, if you need help ask for it but don't sit there fuming because someone hasn't asked how you are today.

Hibiscrubbed · 13/07/2023 14:47

Some people go completely mental in pregnancy, and seem to believe they’re something truly special. It’s hilarious. They’re probably the ones that are still mental about it when someone else is pregnant later on.

Laugh at them. Avoid them.

FuckOffTom · 13/07/2023 14:30

Your friend sounds very self absorbed. She is pregnant, not ill.

Hazelnuttella · 13/07/2023 14:28

Misssaywhatsreal would be probably be after OP for copyright infringement if she cropped her details out. Along with lengthy posts about how hurtful it is when people steal your hard work 😂

Hazelnuttella · 13/07/2023 14:26

ISeeMisledPeople · 13/07/2023 14:19

Really? Ok. Odd that you didn't crop out the other person's insta details as well while you were doing that

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No it’s not odd. The original influencer account that posted it deliberately added their details as part of the picture so that it would be visible when other people shared it.

OP I think your friend sounds very self absorbed. Yes it might be a dig at other friend, but it’s best for her to ignore it.

YouCanCallMeMargaret · 13/07/2023 14:25

I took a look at the insta page. It is vomit inducing and made me fear for the writer's mental health. She is clearly positioning herself as some sort of 'Mama' guru.
But it screams 'I'm depressed' to me.
Life is just not like that. If your mutual friend is taking inspiration from her then I would be seriously rethinking the friendship as she clearly has poor judgement.

Unless you are Missaywhatsreal and you've just done this for traffic? 😆. In which case I apologise if I've been rude but sorry - it's not for me.

Peacoffee · 13/07/2023 14:22

ISeeMisledPeople · 13/07/2023 14:19

Really? Ok. Odd that you didn't crop out the other person's insta details as well while you were doing that

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Why would she though? It’s not a personal account it’s just an account with thousands of shitty quotes.

ISeeMisledPeople · 13/07/2023 14:19

GotMooMilk · 13/07/2023 14:13

This. It's a shared generic quote have cropped my friends details out...

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Really? Ok. Odd that you didn't crop out the other person's insta details as well while you were doing that

thecatsthecats · 13/07/2023 14:18

I really value when people check in about things that are nothing to do with my being pregnant.

New job, summer plans, etc. To be honest, the person who annoys me is the one who treats me like a walking womb. I'm not her friend, I am pregnant woman, who can only be asked pregnant questions.

DinnaeFashYersel · 13/07/2023 14:14

Its probably some cut and paste garbage.

Scroll on and ignore.

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GotMooMilk · 13/07/2023 14:13

Peacoffee · 13/07/2023 14:06

She hasn’t, it’s a repost if some generic ‘inspirational quote’. The insta handle isn’t the friend.

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This. It's a shared generic quote have cropped my friends details out...

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SparkyBlue · 13/07/2023 14:12

Blame the pregnancy hormones and ignore the post