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I hate the cat

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WarriorWalrus · 10/07/2023 01:13

DD1, 17, got a cat for her 15th birthday, she had been begging for years and loves the cat to pieces, it was a joint bid for the cat, DD1 promising all the care until she left for uni, DD2, (now 14) promising to take over and DH saying he would do care when they aren't around.
Well DD1 just finished her a-levels, left to go travelling with her friends, not back until mid-August (she turns 18 at the start of August). DD2 hates the cat (the cat also hates her, I'm not sure why they have beef but its a no go, the cat just scratches DD2), DH feeds him and changes the litterbox but the cat seems to have decided in the absence of DD1, he wants me, we might have the only clingy cat in the world, but he waits for me to get home, follows me for a bit the goes to lay in DD1s room. Can't say DD1s name in earshot or the cat comes running and follows me again. Middle of the night he scratches my door to be let in, then sleeps in-between DH and I, he loves it, I hate it!!
7 days into DD1 being gone, I've heard from her 4 times, each time "How's Socrates (the cat), Can I see Socrates, show Socrates this video so he doesn't forget me", I send a response (pic of the cat usually) she reacts to it, I ask how she is and get left on read?? Like she only misses and cares for the cat!!!
And to think she is off to uni halls in sept, so this is just my life now!!
AIBU to hate the cat, do any cat whisperers have tips on how I can get the cat to give his love to DH or DD2 and leave me alone???

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ghostyslovesheets · 10/07/2023 21:01

Please please please say you pronounce his name 'So-Crates' like Bill and Ted!

OP I have 6 cats - I do love them but at times they make me want to turn them into a winter coat - like the 3am live mouse through the bedroom window or the fresh vomit on the landing - it's part of cat ownership - sew Dreamies into DD2's clothing - he'll get over his hate quickly!

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 10/07/2023 20:59

Of course, the people getting upset and feeling sad for the cat, are overreacting, and other posters are taking the piss and mocking. Because how fucking DARE anyone actually worry about an animal whose owner doesn't give a flying fuck about them? Hmm

People mocking and deriding other people for being worried and upset, about an unloved and unwanted cat. Disgusting. Shame on you all. Hmm

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 10/07/2023 20:55

You need to get this beautiful furry Angel rehomed where he is wanted, and cherished. Poor Socrates. 😥

Viviennemary · 10/07/2023 20:49

Yanbu. Some people love pets others don't so they dont have them but you have had this cat forced upon you. Tell her she needs to take the cat to live with her or it will be re-homed.

Lottapianos · 10/07/2023 20:46

'The looney MN Cat Fanciers are well triggered though.
Reason #2367 why I will never, ever get a cat.'

😂 My thoughts exactly!

Isthisasgoodasitis · 10/07/2023 20:44

Cats grieve sadly your cat is grieving loss of dd1 so I suggest you invest in catnip spray and feliway plug in and spray spray dd2 clothes and room with both sprays place plug in in an area of the house the cat can mellow and at all cost AVOID either in around near anything that’s yours if you spray cat nip at the door or dd2 before bed then he will go there at night to get in also plop marmite on the back of his paws at night to settle him….

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Irequireausername · 10/07/2023 20:37

You can't really stop cats liking you. Ours is attached to me even though I don't actually want him near me, don't feed him etc. I tolerate him because he's an animal and that appeals to him for some reason. I wish he'd prefer other family members too. I've got no advice sadly. 🤷‍♀️

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/07/2023 20:35

Socrates is a beautiful cat. I’d have one line that if l wasn’t allergic to them😭

Leastsaidsoonestscrewed · 10/07/2023 20:29

adviceneeded1990 · 10/07/2023 19:43

This haha it’s clearly tongue in cheek and she’s not abusing the cat FFS!

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The looney MN Cat Fanciers are well triggered though.
Reason #2367 why I will never, ever get a cat.

TyrannasaurusJex · 10/07/2023 20:29

#teamSocrates

Leastsaidsoonestscrewed · 10/07/2023 20:27

mayorofcasterbridge · 10/07/2023 01:32

There’s something psychologically wrong with someone who hates cats… or even just hates…

Bollocks. There's something wrong with someone who makes stupid statements like yours though.

Ihatepickingausername3 · 10/07/2023 20:24

Get your younger child to feed the cat and give it treats that will do the trick. Every meal for a few weeks.

GADDay · 10/07/2023 19:53

WarriorWalrus · 10/07/2023 01:44

Sure, This is him. Bain of my existence right now.
In all seriousness though, I don't hate him. Just wish he had selected someone else to be the centre of his world while DD is gone.
Also don't resent DD for asking about her cat, was making a joke out of how she is missing the cat but no one else!

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Sorry to inform you OP. Your cat is either purebred Norwegian Forest Cat or has some Maine Coone.

You are fucked. These cats HAVE humans - I know as I am the faithful servant to one. They are vocal and needy. Day and night. My girl is 15 and is obsessed with me.

You have two options:

  1. Rehome Socrates- it's what I would do, if I were you.
  2. Learn to love your little shadow, as you won't be given a choice. This is what I have done.

Your DD needs to take responsibility for the welfare of her cat and understand that this animal needs more than she can offer.

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WarriorWalrus · 10/07/2023 19:48

swirly3468 · 10/07/2023 19:36

Poor cat. He sounds lonely. I have two Siamese and originally had one. I quickly realised he needed a pal. But he adopted me as his chosen one and has been glued to me ever since. My son is 18 months and he's adopted him as a chosen person too 😹. My cats are extremely needy, loud, loving, destructive if they don't get enough attention. But I love them soo much. If you don't love the cat maybe look at rehoming him. Attached a pic of my two Siamese boys.

Omg If I considered rehoming the cat DD would disown me, I'm have been joking about hating the cat but very serious about DD disowning me.

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MrsWiggwiggs · 10/07/2023 19:31

I think people are taking this post far too seriously in calling you unfair for hating the cat, and not in the humorous manner it was intended 😂.

You’ll grow to love the cat…they have a way of weaselling their cute little way in eventually 😆

This haha it’s clearly tongue in cheek and she’s not abusing the cat FFS!

swirly3468 · 10/07/2023 19:36

Poor cat. He sounds lonely. I have two Siamese and originally had one. I quickly realised he needed a pal. But he adopted me as his chosen one and has been glued to me ever since. My son is 18 months and he's adopted him as a chosen person too 😹. My cats are extremely needy, loud, loving, destructive if they don't get enough attention. But I love them soo much. If you don't love the cat maybe look at rehoming him. Attached a pic of my two Siamese boys.

I hate the cat
MrsWiggwiggs · 10/07/2023 19:31

I think people are taking this post far too seriously in calling you unfair for hating the cat, and not in the humorous manner it was intended 😂.

You’ll grow to love the cat…they have a way of weaselling their cute little way in eventually 😆

amyds2104 · 10/07/2023 19:13

Cats are always attracted to people who don’t like them. It’s another one of their niche features which make them cats. Sorry. You need to learn to love the cat.

Migrainehaterforlife · 10/07/2023 18:42

Omg this upset me, genuinely if you don't want the cat I'd take him. I couldn't imagine hating my cat I got her when I was 17 too and she is my world.

Hibiscrubbed · 10/07/2023 18:23

I think your ‘joke’ hate for a friendly cat has backfired.

Crunchymum · 10/07/2023 14:30

My cats love whichever person feeds them at any given meal.

Bribe him with food (or get DH or DD2 to bribe him)

Also another cat - which probably feels quite counter intuitive - could work. My little cat bothers my big cat and not me. Although big cat still bothers me so it hasn't really solved my issue and I have double the cost and double the cat fur 😂 (but double the joy!!)

I know you clarified you don't hate the cat @WarriorWalrus but your thread title is literally "I hate the cat" so I can see why some posters have taken it to heart.

radfordrunner · 10/07/2023 14:22

Oh my, he is stunning! Your post made me laugh, the thought of the cat having "beef" with your DD2 😂no advice from me, I'm afraid, but as pp have said, you ARE the chosen one!

fetchacloth · 10/07/2023 14:16

I'm envious I'd love a cat like him.
My existing cat is the affectionate type and you just have to go along with it.
Cats are generally social animals and most crave attention wherever they can get it.😁

adviceneeded1990 · 10/07/2023 14:05

You’ve been chosen! My DH grew up with dogs, was 100% not a cat person. I had a cat when we met. She adopted him before I agreed to marry him and sleeps on him every night. He is now a cat person. Just accept your fate 🐱😅