I hate the cat

I would resent my daughter asking how the cat was but not how I was which is what OP said.

No tips or anything. Cats do and like whoever/whatever they want.

Actually do have one tip. Get dd2 to carry treats in her pocket in order to give to the cat when it's near, in time it will go over for the treats then off its own back. You need to get the cat to associate good feelings with her.

Also don't hate the cat. You've been picked.

Mines going through the terrible twos now and decided she loves being outside all the time.

We are big cat lovers here all animals to be fair, I find it really sad you hate the cat he obviously loves you and misses your daughter

The cat is luvly fancy hating a cat it’s diabolical

Not all people go nuts over animals so I don’t think you should be demonized over
not loving the cat. They can be pesky. I have a cat who is very needy and when I’m feeling under the weather I need my space from him like I would from a human..he still loves me

Stop being such a drama queen and look after the cat and be nice to it. Your daughter will be very resentful if you don't. She's depending on you, it's a small animal, be responsible. you are a adult.

My DS is in the army;he FaceTimes his partner most days and always ask to see the cat and yes she recognises his voice and runs herself on the iPad.

I'm a massive cat lover and I genuinely believe that I have somehow managed to buy the most annoying cat in the world sometimes 😂 she's part maine coon, never shuts up (unless she's sleeping or stuffing her face), follows us EVERYWHERE to the point where she's gotten herself lost and I've had to go and find her. She seems to have some beef with my 5 year old, tolerates my teenager picking her up and essentially trapping her in his room so they can 'chill' together, she will occasionally come and sit on my bump, she might if she's feeling particularly annoying go and sit on my DP's legs and then refuse to move and she LOVES to full on lick her asshole in front of us, in fact I'm convinced she only ever does this when she has an audience, full chomping sound to go with it.
But you know what? I love her, I take care of her, I've paid over a grand in vet fees and she's only a year old, I go out looking for her when she decides to follow us and get lost, she's a great cat, just very Vocal.

It gets annoying sometimes being the 'one' that they have chosen to be their servant but I can tell you now I'd rather have her than a dog!

@mayorofcasterbridge that is a silly thing to say. Not everyone loves cats or animals for that matter

I’ve had cats all my life, but no way they sleep in my room or have a litter tray in the house. Shut in a downstairs room overnight, preferably with cat flap, move litter tray outside. Get a plug in calming thing, the rest will sort itself in time.

Animals have feelings and emotions and bond to certain people. Socrates bonded with your daughter who has entrusted him to your care. For some reason, he also chose to bond with you and not her sister. He is probably confused and sad and feels abandoned; wouldn’t you?

People who have no empathy for animals, in my opinion, are missing an essential element of humanity.

This. We had a Maine coon.

oh. My. God.

Your cat is beautiful……. We have a cat and I love her. However she prefers my husband who hates her. She never ever comes to me when he’s around and it’s so annoying! 😂

Hell hath no fury like cat lovers who have been rubbed the wrong way.

Isn't this the truth. The OP has gone from a light hearted moan about the cat... to be being accused of never loving her DD.

I was one of them at first I admit it! It's just I love the furry bastards so much I immediately took offence - great thread.

Based on what?? Cats are actually social animals and practice social grooming for various reasons the cat here is clearly pining for his human and the company of another cat could prove beneficial long term

The problem is you speak good cat. If you're not a cat person then when you meet a cat you don't look it in the eye or hassle it, therefore the cat thinks aha... my kind of person, they are polite and know the rules. Hence the cat is attracted to the kind of person who wishes it wasn't. I'm in the same boat. I don't hate cats but have no desire to have them in my bed etc. Everywhere I go cats talk to me rather than the cat mad people who wish the cat would give them attention. The cat my cat mad DS finally wheedled out of me thinks I am the bees knees.

So if you really want him out of your face give him over the top cuddles, stare him in the eye and pester him (but you won't😆) otherwise there is no hope, you are stuck with him so you might as well start talking to him 😁😁

He's gorgeous. Also he's your cat now, congratulations.

Just accept it, this is your life now.

Congratulations on your new life as cat mum 🎉

Absolutely this. Cats choose their person and you have to fill in for DD1.

How many people on this thread can't read the tone beneath your message, that it's half lighthearted, and are going on about how bad a person you are for "hating the cat". Yes, it was in the title of your thread, but are some folk really so literal? Very sad.

Maybe you look / smell / sound like DD1.

Try deepening your voice wearing Lynx Africa and a fake beard?

@Sadforcavtoo

Tour de France?? What's that??

just joking. Yes. Gutted for him!

I'm struggling to get into TdF this year & this hasn't helped one bit. I hope he changes his mind & tries again next year! I've been a Tdf fan still since I was 7 and we saw them on the Champs. (Just happened to be there on holiday). I'm now in my 50's.

Hope today's stage is good! 🚴

This was a reply to @SoSadForCav

I agree cats can be affectionate, can tell people apart and be little followers. There's a difference though between an outdoors cat that comes in occasionally and sits on your lap, purrs a bit and then goes off hunting at night, and an indoor cat- especially if it's huge like ragdolls or Maine Coons or Siamese (gorgeous pics above) which are very human oriented and also noisy (my cat's miaow is just unbelievable loud compared with any other cat I've had) and that follow you day and night.

It's nice if you've chosen that cat, less nice if thrust upon you, but I think the OP is secretly pleased now we've told her shes the Chosen One.