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I hate the cat

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WarriorWalrus · 10/07/2023 01:13

DD1, 17, got a cat for her 15th birthday, she had been begging for years and loves the cat to pieces, it was a joint bid for the cat, DD1 promising all the care until she left for uni, DD2, (now 14) promising to take over and DH saying he would do care when they aren't around.
Well DD1 just finished her a-levels, left to go travelling with her friends, not back until mid-August (she turns 18 at the start of August). DD2 hates the cat (the cat also hates her, I'm not sure why they have beef but its a no go, the cat just scratches DD2), DH feeds him and changes the litterbox but the cat seems to have decided in the absence of DD1, he wants me, we might have the only clingy cat in the world, but he waits for me to get home, follows me for a bit the goes to lay in DD1s room. Can't say DD1s name in earshot or the cat comes running and follows me again. Middle of the night he scratches my door to be let in, then sleeps in-between DH and I, he loves it, I hate it!!
7 days into DD1 being gone, I've heard from her 4 times, each time "How's Socrates (the cat), Can I see Socrates, show Socrates this video so he doesn't forget me", I send a response (pic of the cat usually) she reacts to it, I ask how she is and get left on read?? Like she only misses and cares for the cat!!!
And to think she is off to uni halls in sept, so this is just my life now!!
AIBU to hate the cat, do any cat whisperers have tips on how I can get the cat to give his love to DH or DD2 and leave me alone???

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mayorofcasterbridge · 10/07/2023 01:32

There’s something psychologically wrong with someone who hates cats… or even just hates…

ilovesooty · 10/07/2023 01:31

Can we see Socrates?

FictionalCharacter · 10/07/2023 01:29

Poor cat 😔

Deathbyfluffy · 10/07/2023 01:26

It’s rather weird to hate an animal for loving you.
I’d probably focus more on why that’s an issue for you rather than trying to push the cat away.

itsmylife7 · 10/07/2023 01:24

You're the chosen one OP 😺
Cats choose their people and its you !

Can we have a picture of the cat ?

Rockofages3 · 10/07/2023 01:24

There will be some other posters along who are not so literal!

Rockofages3 · 10/07/2023 01:22

Get the cat a girlfriend?
More cats in the house will solve all of your problems. Definitely.

10HailMarys · 10/07/2023 01:22

It’s fucking weird that you resent your daughter asking how her cat is.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/07/2023 01:19

You need to relax. It's kind of disturbing and weird that you have so much hate for an animal that does you no harm.

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