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Last minute invite

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Loulec · 09/07/2023 09:40

DS is 5 and in reception, he is very close with his best friend in class and told me this week it was his birthday. Last night at 9:58pm his friends’ mum text me to say she’s having family and friends over with bouncy castles and slides for a party and asks if my DS wants to come over to play for a few hours for the next day. To me my son was a complete after thought considering how close we already know they are and how late I’ve been told. Plus we do have plans for part of the day - weather permitting- but had I known before I would have made sure he can go. Am I wrong for declining the invitation?

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dinmin · 09/07/2023 09:47

Probably was only inviting family and family friends and the kid was expecting your DS to be there and she realised the misunderstanding or she thought last minute that it would be nice to have him there!

Cantstopeatingcakea · 09/07/2023 09:46

I would take my DC. Don't stop him having a good time to make a point.

The same thing happened to us and my DS went and it was the right thing to do.

Createausername1970 · 09/07/2023 09:46

She might mean her family and her friends with kids? Is she definitely saying other kids from the same class? Your DC might be a special request from her DC?

Unless what you have planned will be awkward to rearrange, I would accept.

Babsexxx · 09/07/2023 09:46

just to add to my comment it might be her child’s party was weather permitted too! It’s been a miserable weekend but it’s set to be a lovely afternoon! Might explain her reasoning for the delay.

Fandabedodgy · 09/07/2023 09:45

Afterthought. Forgot to invite. Doesn't matter he's only 5. He won't care.

I would send my child if at all possible because my child would enjoy it.

GoodChat · 09/07/2023 09:45

If it's just family and family friends maybe her DC has asked if DS can be there last minute

Poppins2016 · 09/07/2023 09:44

On balance, I think you would be wrong to decline. I understand it's rubbish being an afterthought, but you're making a point to the adult without considering the value that attending will bring to both children (who don't have any say in the politics surrounding the invitation/attendance).

Xeren · 09/07/2023 09:44

It’s completely up to you. Do what you WANT to do.

Personally, I wouldn’t go. I know the children are very young but invite is way too late and I would want my DC to keep a level of worth.

You have plans already. Enjoy the day and spoil your DC so he has a great time!

Babsexxx · 09/07/2023 09:42

Yabu your plans are flimsy you haven’t booked a really expensive day trip I presume? Good luck explaining that to ds tomorrow when he gets to school and hears all about it.

Sorry op yabu but the other mum is also! Fwiw.

noglow · 09/07/2023 09:42

But don't punish your kid just to make a weird point about being an after thought. The mum won't care either way.

noglow · 09/07/2023 09:41

Up to you - do you want him to go or not? Do you want to carry on with your own plans or not?

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