Mum's, how do do it?

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mummatam · 08/07/2023 00:47

I am exhausted. I'm a first time mum to a very happy 15 week old girl. I have a hands on DH and my mum and dad are nearby if I need help. But wow, I am in awe of mums. SAHMs, working mums, all mums. Please share how you find a spare half hour in your day... Any spare time I get, I just want to sleep. I used to love doing things with my day eg. Baking something, going for a browse in shops or to a gallery.. but now I just don't care. I would rather nap. I barely get dressed properly or do my hair or makeup. I can't seem to muster up the energy to do anything beyond making sure baby is happy, entertained, fed, bathed etc.

I walk down the road and see women dressed nicely with young and multiple children. I wonder how on earth they're so put together. I feel like the entire motherhood thing has hit me like a bus. I don't even care about going on holiday because it feels like too much effort with a dependent.

How do you do it mums?

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Babsexxx · 08/07/2023 07:28

I was exactly the same with my first! She was the centre of my universe! Then I’d think to myself cor I’ve let myself go! But you can still do all these things put the baby in a bouncy chair whilst you have a nice bath get ready do your hair and makeup whatever makes you feel good!

Take her to the supermarket get yourself some bits in and enjoy some baking! It’s a mental block you really can do it babies don’t need to have constant touch and to be completely waited on 24/7 but I very much so believed they did with my first!

With my 2nd I took my makeup bag to hospital and left with a full face because I looked back on after my dd and realised that actually I could of done a lot more than mentally I thought I could! It’s a horrible feeling don’t be hard on yourself still very early days! xxxx

Laneymoo · 08/07/2023 01:02

Hi OP. Sounds like you're doing a great job with your little girl. If all you want to do is sleep in your spare time then sleep, there's nothing wrong with that. Don't feel pressure by what you see other Mam's doing, everyone's journey is different. Motherhood hit me like a tonne of bricks too which I was not expecting. The lack of sleep can drive you up the wall so don't feel bad for napping when you can.

Curtains70 · 08/07/2023 00:56

They're all different. Mine has always slept really well so apart from 1 night feed when she was small l I've never really been sleep deprived. Helps alot!!!

Archeron · 08/07/2023 00:55

Not all babies are the same. Not all families are the same. Some mums have lovely placid babies which sleep regularly and are no problem, plus they have parents and siblings and friends who are only too happy to babysit. Of course they have time to look after themselves! And of course I didn’t, when I had a non-sleeping autistic baby and absolutely nobody to give me a break.

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mummatam · 08/07/2023 00:48

Sorry, there is not supposed to be an apostrophe in my title, my phone autocorrected it

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