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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 16:48

AIBU to be upset that my daughters teacher took off 5 marks from her exam total because she doodled on the back of the paper while waiting to be allowed to leave the exam. She would have got 96% without the deduction. See attached the offending doodle. Teachers comment was "minus 5 marks for graffiti at the back. I have told you many times its not on."

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Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:21

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WonderfulUsername · 06/07/2023 19:20

Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:17

I’m so confused by the way you’re speaking to me? I’m glad you don’t teach my children.

And I’ve no idea if other teachers allow her to do so or not, I had not mentioned that in the original comment.

I’m also so confused about the statement Parents who think the sun shines out of their child's arses and can do no wrong. Where in what I wrote did I suggest that? How can a teacher talk about parents and students like that?

I think that your attitude may be why parents are not happy with you. I fully respect you may have a different opinion than I on this, I would even be willing to hear why, I’m open to changing my mind. I just am perplexed at your whole demeanour.

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Blimey, you're confused by the simplest of things aren't you?

Did you spend most of your school years doodling instead of learning? 😁

Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:20

WonderfulUsername · 06/07/2023 19:13

Yeah, 'power mad' in expecting a kid to do as they're told 🙄

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It’s a doodle though? I’m not sure what the harm is? She wouldn’t be marked down if she did this in her GCSEs?

It’s a little irritation - petty imo. Im open to hearing why it’s not though. But, won’t engage if people are just rude/abusive for no reason. If there’s good reason behind it and people can be civil explaining, im open to changing my mind.

Gerrataere · 06/07/2023 19:18

Mischance · 06/07/2023 19:15

I am with your DD. The exam is to show what she knows - she knows 96% of the syllabus, so that is her mark. It was on the back of the paper FGS. There are some teachers who love a power trip! [but lots who don't, before I get dumped on!!]

She also ‘knew’ not to doodle on exam papers, but since that information didn’t stick at the most important time then quite rightly she lost marks. As an adult, if you hand in reports with silly pictures on them, wouldn’t your boss pull you up?

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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 19:18

Thanks so much, my thoughts exactly.

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WonderfulUsername · 06/07/2023 19:18

It's funny to think the few people on this thread who don't get the problem with disobedience, would no doubt be the first to complain if the school allowed all kids to be disobedient whenever the mood took them.

Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:17

Muddygreenfingers · 06/07/2023 19:12

Well you are very much in the minority.

As a teacher I am rolling my eyes at this. This is why teachers aren't happy.
Parents who think the sun shines out of their child's arses and can do no wrong.

It's irrelevant if other teachers have let her. This particular teacher has told her not to do it again, and she did. She knew right?

Honestly.

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I’m so confused by the way you’re speaking to me? I’m glad you don’t teach my children.

And I’ve no idea if other teachers allow her to do so or not, I had not mentioned that in the original comment.

I’m also so confused about the statement Parents who think the sun shines out of their child's arses and can do no wrong. Where in what I wrote did I suggest that? How can a teacher talk about parents and students like that?

I think that your attitude may be why parents are not happy with you. I fully respect you may have a different opinion than I on this, I would even be willing to hear why, I’m open to changing my mind. I just am perplexed at your whole demeanour.

MermaidEyes · 06/07/2023 19:17

I'm hoping she's primary and not secondary. Perhaps if she's so 'arty' she can take it at GCSE level and then the teacher will have no problem with her drawing on her exam paper.

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Gerrataere · 06/07/2023 19:15

Does your daughter make notes about Romeo and Juliet on the back of her art work? Or is it just silly comics that gets her focus at school? I’m not sure why you’ve shared this to be honest, I’d be too busy telling my child off for evidently putting in great effort only to waste it with childish behaviour. And I’m usual laid back, I have a child with adhd and fidgeting is to be expected. This is just disrespectful.

Mischance · 06/07/2023 19:15

I am with your DD. The exam is to show what she knows - she knows 96% of the syllabus, so that is her mark. It was on the back of the paper FGS. There are some teachers who love a power trip! [but lots who don't, before I get dumped on!!]

WonderfulUsername · 06/07/2023 19:13

Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:11

Personally I really don’t see the big deal.

the pictures not offensive, it’s not rude. It’s just a doodle to kill time once she finished an exam. An exam she did throughly that she scored very high on.

It appears most disagree with me but my opinion is that the teacher is being a bit power mad!

Yeah, 'power mad' in expecting a kid to do as they're told 🙄

Muddygreenfingers · 06/07/2023 19:12

Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:11

Personally I really don’t see the big deal.

the pictures not offensive, it’s not rude. It’s just a doodle to kill time once she finished an exam. An exam she did throughly that she scored very high on.

It appears most disagree with me but my opinion is that the teacher is being a bit power mad!

Well you are very much in the minority.

As a teacher I am rolling my eyes at this. This is why teachers aren't happy.
Parents who think the sun shines out of their child's arses and can do no wrong.

It's irrelevant if other teachers have let her. This particular teacher has told her not to do it again, and she did. She knew right?

Honestly.

ChristmasFluff · 06/07/2023 19:12

Why doesn't she use the scrap paper for her doodles that are available during exams - or which you can ask for?

How come she had her phone to take a picture during an exam?

Hobnobswantshernameback · 06/07/2023 19:11

"Arty side"
pmsl

Irritateandunreasonable · 06/07/2023 19:11

Personally I really don’t see the big deal.

the pictures not offensive, it’s not rude. It’s just a doodle to kill time once she finished an exam. An exam she did throughly that she scored very high on.

It appears most disagree with me but my opinion is that the teacher is being a bit power mad!

Aquamarine1029 · 06/07/2023 19:09

readbooksdrinktea · 06/07/2023 19:07

This thread is a good example of why I left teaching. You're just not getting it.

Exactly. It's no wonder teachers are quitting in droves. The lack of parenting is astonishing, as is the number of thick people on this thread.

WonderfulUsername · 06/07/2023 19:08

Firecat84 · 06/07/2023 19:07

Why is the teacher so anti art?! What a miserable sod! I'm with you on this OP.

Maybe the teacher's just a tad 'anti kids thinking they're above the rules'?

readbooksdrinktea · 06/07/2023 19:07

This thread is a good example of why I left teaching. You're just not getting it.

WonderfulUsername · 06/07/2023 19:07

She has tried to reign in her arty side?! 😂😂

Oh dear OP, do you think kids who graffiti toilet walls and town centres just need to 'reign in their arty sides', or do you think they need to do what the fuck they're told?

IneedcoffeeinanIV · 06/07/2023 19:07

I bet it's not a big deal as it was on the back of the paper and didn't affect her exam. However, she was told not to do it so it's a case of disobeying what she has been told

GoodChat · 06/07/2023 19:07

How interesting will it be when she doodles on her actual exam papers and the exam board rejects them?

Firecat84 · 06/07/2023 19:07

Why is the teacher so anti art?! What a miserable sod! I'm with you on this OP.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/07/2023 19:06

I feel sorry for your daughter because you are doing her absolutely no favours. Your daughter is going to have a tough road ahead thinking simple rules don't apply to her, and her own mother agrees. It's pitiful.

threecupsofteaminimum · 06/07/2023 19:06

"Reign in her arty side" Hmm er, no, she needs to reign in her disregard for discipline side.
YABU