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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 16:48

AIBU to be upset that my daughters teacher took off 5 marks from her exam total because she doodled on the back of the paper while waiting to be allowed to leave the exam. She would have got 96% without the deduction. See attached the offending doodle. Teachers comment was "minus 5 marks for graffiti at the back. I have told you many times its not on."

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GoodChat · 06/07/2023 20:23

A lot of posters sound jealous that your daughter scored a very high mark and are responding bitterly

Nobody cares that her daughter did well. There's no point in being educationally outstanding if you're socially lacking.

Gerrataere · 06/07/2023 20:23

A lot of posters sound jealous that your daughter scored a very high mark and are responding bitterly.

Do you think, genuinely now, at all our grown ages that this is about jealousy of a young child’s mark in a random school test? Is that honestly the most reasonable conclusion you can come to here out of every possibility (including at this point the op drew that picture themselves and is on a colossal windup).

tidalway · 06/07/2023 20:23

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chillin12 · 06/07/2023 20:20

Wow. I don’t understand all the harsh replies tbh. A lot of posters sound jealous that your daughter scored a very high mark and are responding bitterly. I understand you feel the doodle isn’t a reflection of her effort/marks on the test, so you feel perhaps, it shouldn’t been dealt with by deducting the marks she worked hard for and achieved. And that the doodling matter should have been punished differently. It sounds as though, since it was an internal test, the teacher can decide to take marks off for whatever reason. I don’t think it’s a massive deal that she drew at the back as it doesn’t look like an a offensive drawing, but if it’s a school policy, I guess you’ll have to be firm with your daughter that it is now unacceptable to continue this habit on school work. So no, YANBU, to feel this way, but just make your daughter more aware.

Gerrataere · 06/07/2023 20:19

The ops replies are getting odder by the post…

WhatADrabCarpet · 06/07/2023 20:17

"What punishment do you think is in order?"

A five mark deduction.

Your child disobeyed.

I'd have loved to have turned my exam paper into a wagging dog, but I didn't.
I couldn't understand my further maths paper, beyond about half an hour into a three hour paper. Did I draw, scribble or graffiti it ? No.

Stop making excuses for your child.

She ballsed up. End of. Tough titties.

readbooksdrinktea · 06/07/2023 20:12

MumblesParty · 06/07/2023 19:55

Ever since the “rein in her arty side” comment I’m thinking this is a wind up!

Probably. But these parents do exist.

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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 20:09

What punishment do you think is in order?

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Redglitter · 06/07/2023 20:04

Let her ignore the teacher. Let her continue to explore her artistic side when she's finished her GSCE paper before the allocated time slot. Let her see how appreciative the GCSE markers are of her arty side. You can guarantee they'll take a damn sight more than 5 marks off

But you just keep supporting her ignoring her teacher. After all what does the teacher know

TheWalrusdidbeseech · 06/07/2023 20:03

MumblesParty · 06/07/2023 19:55

Ever since the “rein in her arty side” comment I’m thinking this is a wind up!

It might be, but sadly I have met some parents with similar attitude in real life, the level of entitlement of some people is astonishing.

tidalway · 06/07/2023 20:01

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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 19:44

I'm glad your enjoying her picture. Would you like to see some more?😉

You’re

MumblesParty · 06/07/2023 19:55

Ever since the “rein in her arty side” comment I’m thinking this is a wind up!

Cherrysherbet · 06/07/2023 19:52

What a stupid thing to do. Good on the Teacher.
You should back the teacher op.

PriOn1 · 06/07/2023 19:49

Is your daughter upset by the reduction in her mark?

If the answer is yes, then maybe this time the teacher’s instruction that she shouldn’t doodle on her exam paper will be followed from now on.

It doesn’t really matter if you think the rule is ridiculous. Your daughter has been asked by the teacher to stop and she didn’t. I very much doubt she forgot or got carried away, unless she’s very young. I think you are excusing her behaviour. She didn’t respect what the teacher asked of her and she is now experiencing a reasonable consequence of her actions.

Hopefully it works and next time the teacher tells her not to do something, she won’t.

Tiredmum100 · 06/07/2023 19:47

readbooksdrinktea · 06/07/2023 19:07

This thread is a good example of why I left teaching. You're just not getting it.

Exactly. I would be on the teachers side if it were my child, and teach them some bloody respect.

StellaJohanna · 06/07/2023 19:47

Did a schoolgirl really do that? - it's horrible with the fists, the vest logo, the face, the crotch - absolutely GROSS. Is this a wind up?

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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 19:45

Thank you!

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Notimeforaname · 06/07/2023 19:45

Yabu . She was told not to do it, she did it, this was the consequence.

CherieBabySpliffUp · 06/07/2023 19:44

There's no such thing as "scrap paper" when it comes to GCSE's, any paper that is written on has to be submitted. Your DD needs to find something else to do if they think they've finished.

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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 19:44

I'm glad your enjoying her picture. Would you like to see some more?😉

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chineapplepunks · 06/07/2023 19:43

If it was a gcse paper she could potentially have her exam go unmarked. It happened to a lad I went to school with.

Moveoverdarlin · 06/07/2023 19:42

It’s about respect and standards. I would doodle in my own note pad when on a phone call or in a meeting. But would I do it on a note to my child’s teacher? No. Would I do it on a birthday card to an auntie? No. Would I do it on anything remotely official at work? No. C’mon it’s obvious when it’s acceptable and when it isn’t. An exam paper is not the place to doodle a hairy little alien man with matches on his vest. If your daughter is over the age of 7 she should really know this.

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WantToBeAMamma · 06/07/2023 19:41

Her doodles did not disturb her classmates so not the best comparison.

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