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To not wait any longer?

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AtTheZoo · 04/07/2023 10:29

Got an email yesterday asking me to come in for a job interview at 10am today.

Arrived on time. Been sat in the waiting room for 30 mins. One glass of water. Told things are running over but no apology.

Weird feeling just want to walk out. AIBU?

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Quiverer · 05/07/2023 13:49

AtTheZoo · 04/07/2023 17:28

SORRY

I was walking out the door when she came downstairs to get me. I was half out the door. She ushered me back in. Just over an hour late. V awkward. I said I had other meetings and she looked at me like I was up my own arse. I was hurried into the room. I DID THE INTERVIEW.

Safe to say I don't think they'll be offering it me. It was v surreal.

V much enjoying your comments and stories.

Glad at least one person thinks I'm being a right precious cow.

Did they offer any sort of explanation?

LookItsMeAgain · 05/07/2023 13:04

I think you were damned if you did and damned if you didn't do that interview. The company were terrible with their scheduling and to be honest, I would have left after 40 minutes of being kept waiting.
In your situation, I would have restated that I have other meetings/appointments to keep and if they really wanted to interview me they could reschedule at this point. I don't have the time to give them at that point.

If someone is being contacted to come in to interview, then there is something on their LinkedIn profile warranting them being contacted in the first place or in their CV. Value your time. Assign a value to that time. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing that.

GoodChat · 05/07/2023 07:58

Hullabalooza · 05/07/2023 07:22

So, what did you do?!

She wrote an update

Hullabalooza · 05/07/2023 07:22

So, what did you do?!

Dibbydoos · 04/07/2023 23:01

I waited over an hour for my interview when meeting rooms got double booked. I got the job and it was a great job!

What have you got to lose?

Hawkins0001 · 04/07/2023 22:20

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 04/07/2023 22:18

At the risk of turning this into “My Worst Interview”…

I once went for an interview where the receptionist looked very flustered when I asked for Felicity Fishshop. She disappeared for ages, then came back with someone else who said “I’m very sorry, we did ring the agency, but Felicity is unwell and didn’t come in today. I’m sorry you’ve had a wasted journey.”

At this stage I didn’t know if they genuinely had called the agency, and it was the agency’s fault for not calling me, or if they’d forgotten about me and were trying to pass the buck. I was about to call the agency when they called me, and the recruiter said she was dreadfully sorry and had been trying me for ages (yet no missed calls), but that Felicity Fishshop was terribly and had collapsed at work, and had been taken off in an ambulance! Which seems pretty amazing given she never got to work according to her boss…

I still don’t know to this day who was lying or over/underplaying it. The worst thing was, I was unemployed and desperate for a job, so I couldn’t tell them to shove it and had to go back and do the interview another day.

Seems one cover up or another

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 04/07/2023 22:18

At the risk of turning this into “My Worst Interview”…

I once went for an interview where the receptionist looked very flustered when I asked for Felicity Fishshop. She disappeared for ages, then came back with someone else who said “I’m very sorry, we did ring the agency, but Felicity is unwell and didn’t come in today. I’m sorry you’ve had a wasted journey.”

At this stage I didn’t know if they genuinely had called the agency, and it was the agency’s fault for not calling me, or if they’d forgotten about me and were trying to pass the buck. I was about to call the agency when they called me, and the recruiter said she was dreadfully sorry and had been trying me for ages (yet no missed calls), but that Felicity Fishshop was terribly and had collapsed at work, and had been taken off in an ambulance! Which seems pretty amazing given she never got to work according to her boss…

I still don’t know to this day who was lying or over/underplaying it. The worst thing was, I was unemployed and desperate for a job, so I couldn’t tell them to shove it and had to go back and do the interview another day.

Hawkins0001 · 04/07/2023 22:08

Some companies do eg stress tests to see how candidate's are and if they are suitable for the role

hot2trotter · 04/07/2023 21:54

Why did you let her usher you back in?? I absolutely would not have!

dinoice · 04/07/2023 21:45

Not precious.

A very we are so much more important than you. I hope you get it and either accept and sort them out or decline and tell them why.

olympicsrock · 04/07/2023 21:45

I guess things are done differently in different environments. Interesting that @zurala had a similar experience and is also an NHS employee. This kind of situation with interviews and professional meetings such as appraisals is really common in my world Timings for everything flex and no one bats an eyelid.
I have no idea what sort of job OP was going to.

This is AIBU - I’m just voicing that I was amazed that someone would consider leaving after 30 minutes after going to all the trouble of applying for and attending an interview.

PrincessFiorimonde · 04/07/2023 21:38

They sound awful, OP.

Hope you either get a promotion and big pay rise at your current workplace, or find a brilliant job elsewhere Flowers

Emotionalsupportviper · 04/07/2023 21:10

GoodChat · 04/07/2023 14:40

Clinics are completely different to interviews, and if they'd have said "I'm sorry, the interviewer's clinic has run over" OP would fully understand if she was in that line of work.

It's not a comparable situation.

She didn't 'strop off'. She needed to get back for a meeting after waiting incredibly patiently well past her scheduled meeting time.

Things come up in clinics which can't be anticipated, and people's health, and even lives, can be at stake.

It should be rare for an interview to overun to any significant degree.

Mikimoto · 04/07/2023 19:58

I hope you asked "What is the timekeeping situation like in your company?".

As someone else mentioned, do a Glassdoor review.

zurala · 04/07/2023 19:35

With me! Autocorrect in the first bit there.

zurala · 04/07/2023 19:34

This happened to me once, and it was the NHS interestingly. They didn't communicate with her so I was sat in a kitchen area just waiting while my car parking was running out. Obviously I'd put enough on to cover my interview and a bit more, but it was so late that the only way I could make it back to the car was by having a really short interview.

I had to wander about to find someone and explain, then I went to move the car to another spot. When I came back they wanted me to go straight in so I was really flustered and of course knew they'd been with the previous applicant for ages.

They explained she had talked a lot but I felt they should have managed the time much better.

I didn't get the job, although a couple of years later it became available, I did a video interview that time and I got it.

It's crap and I was really pissed off about it. If I hadn't wanted the role so much I would have just left. Once I did get the job later, it was a really nice team to work with, so I think they were maybe too nice and didn't know how to interrupt the garrulous candidate.

I learned how to recruit better that day though! I would never do that to a candidate.

thing47 · 04/07/2023 19:19

I’m not being horrible perhaps it the difference between public and private sectors

Cos we all know how wonderfully well the NHS is working at the moment, right? Perhaps in part because some people who work in it think running an hour late is the norm…

Kingsparkle · 04/07/2023 18:50

@olympicsrock - I have worked in the NHS and DH still does. I have also worked in the charity and private sector. I am still not really sure why you think that gives you an excuse to be so rude to the OP. A clinic is not a series of job interviews. A clinic has many more unknown variables and people have to wait as they need medical help, so entirely irrelevant for comparison. I am sure OP would have mentioned if it was in a medical setting.

Sealover123 · 04/07/2023 18:49

@AtTheZoo When you went into interview, did they apologise or say what the delay was? How did the interview go?

Inkpotlover · 04/07/2023 18:46

olympicsrock · 04/07/2023 18:40

OP first posted at 10:29 ie 29 mins after the interview was scheduled.

I’m not being horrible perhaps it the difference between public and private sectors hence my coveat that I work for the NHS. Interviews often run late in my world…

Calling OP precious for being annoyed that they were being disrespectful of her time IS being horrible.

olympicsrock · 04/07/2023 18:40

LookItsMeAgain · 04/07/2023 14:41

Did you miss the post where the OP said that they had been waiting for 1 hour and not just the 30 minutes you think they are being 'massively precious' over?

OP - I think you did the right thing. You have added a value to your time. They clearly hadn't. The very least they could have done is have one of the interview panel step out of the over-running interview and apologise in person to you and ask if you would be available at another time to interview or whether you were even interested at that point - give them face to face feedback on their process.

OP first posted at 10:29 ie 29 mins after the interview was scheduled.

I’m not being horrible perhaps it the difference between public and private sectors hence my coveat that I work for the NHS. Interviews often run late in my world…

BretonBlue · 04/07/2023 18:40

olympicsrock · 04/07/2023 14:35

I think you were massively precious.
I work for the NHS. Things are unpredictable , some interviews run over. My clinic appointments fairly frequently run an hour late.

Not a reason to strop off especially not after 30 mins waiting as you initially suggested. Were you very very stressed?

I have rarely seen such an ill-advised post. Interviews aren’t clinics and shouldn’t be run as such. Being ‘in the NHS’ is not an excuse. Plenty of underfunded, beleaguered organisations manage to do their candidates the basic courtesy of running on schedule.

Kingsparkle · 04/07/2023 18:39

I hope you don’t lose any sleep over it OP, sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet there.

Frabbits · 04/07/2023 18:38

An hour late for an interview is fucking shit and I'd absolutely be gone with a shirty email being sent shortly afterwards.

If they were running that late they should have offered to reschedule. Attending interviews is as much about presenting the company to the potential employee as it is the other way round, and if a company acts this poorly at this state they are more than likely shit to work for.

Carpediemmakeitcount · 04/07/2023 18:35

olympicsrock · 04/07/2023 14:35

I think you were massively precious.
I work for the NHS. Things are unpredictable , some interviews run over. My clinic appointments fairly frequently run an hour late.

Not a reason to strop off especially not after 30 mins waiting as you initially suggested. Were you very very stressed?

I hope you never look after me I now have a phobia of so called NHS health professionals. You can call me precious all you want you are failing people.

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