So I was booking something earlier with my husbands card with his knowledge and permission (we jointly pay into the account it comes from) and it needed a security code by text to his phone. He had fallen asleep on the sofa so I unlocked his phone to get the code. His WhatsApp was open to his mate with a message from last Sunday saying he’d got home and I there was still a load of washing in the machine and hasn’t it been a hot day and a 😡 face basically insinuating I’m lazy for not hanging it out. He’d at that point been in the pub for 5 hours on a Sunday afternoon (as is usual most Sundays) while I was at home with our 2 young children. His comment also said something about him now having to tumble dry the school uniform for Monday (when I knew full well our child’s PE kit was clean and ready for school and if I didn’t do 95% of sorting the kids out he’d know that). His mate commented welcome to my world and I know he has the opinion his wife is lazy. For info I work 4 days in a professional career and contribute a substantial amount to household funds and also do 90% of the house/child/admin things at home. AIBU for wanting to absolutely tell him to get fucked for making out that I’m lazy!!