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redskyatnight99 · 02/07/2023 22:17

DD is nearly 5 and has had play dates with a couple of girls in her class.
We recently went to a birthday party with a group of her classmates at a local softplay centre.
Noticed one of the girls kept wanting to follow around these two girls who are best friends , despite my DD attempts to play with her.
Eventually one of the two best friends turned to this girl and said they didn't want to play with her etc. she ran off crying.
My DD didn't seem that phased by what happened and was playing with all...
But even after that this girl continued to ran for play with these best friends and not see that my DD would make a good friend.

Afterwards her mother was trying to make plans for a play date with us...but I thought no, my DD is not an after thought.
Im thinking of not arranging anything.

DD seems happy at school, talks about the "best friends" "im not your best friend" but doesn't seem upset by any of it.
She will often go and play with some of the boys rather than trawl around like this other girl did to girls who aren't interested.

What are you thoughts?

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DentalDisaster · 02/07/2023 22:23

How was the mum inviting your DD treating her like an afterthought?
Really odd way of looking at it tbh.
Trying to make your DD sound superior because she didn’t trawl around like this other girl did to girls who aren't interested is also odd. They are 5. Jesus wept.

Babyroobs · 02/07/2023 22:22

Theomummy2 · 02/07/2023 22:20

Jesus wept, this is a 5 year old little girl you’re talking about

The mum has most likely seen how these girls treat hers and wants to help broaden her horizons and promote a different friendship, and you are shitting on that?

Thoughts are you could do with growing up yourself

This.

Aquamarine1029 · 02/07/2023 22:22

What on earth gives you the impression that your child is an "afterthought?" I sense quite a lot of projecting going on here. The mum was just trying to arrange a playdate, for Pete's sake.

OwlBabiesAreCute · 02/07/2023 22:22

I think your DD seems perfectly capable of choosing her own friends. Why don't you ask her?

Theomummy2 · 02/07/2023 22:20

Jesus wept, this is a 5 year old little girl you’re talking about

The mum has most likely seen how these girls treat hers and wants to help broaden her horizons and promote a different friendship, and you are shitting on that?

Thoughts are you could do with growing up yourself

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