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Did I do something wrong?

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Snowdrop89 · 02/07/2023 18:15

A friend recently lost her best friend in a horrific accident. She sent me some photos of her with her friend and also a poem she had written for her. I decided to put one of the photos & the poem in a frame & sent to her as a keepsake. She reacted in a way I didn’t expect & I’m now questioning if I did something wrong… she said “I have got home to receive your gift. I want to thank you for the kind intent but ask you not to send me any further gifts.” How would you interpret this? I’m at a loss 😞 Was only trying to do something nice… have I caused offence?

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Snowdrop89 · 02/07/2023 18:21

I didn’t mean it that way…

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Totaly · 02/07/2023 18:20

She was off loading her feelings and instead of listening and keeping them - you’ve sent them back.

You were being an emotional support and now that’s been taken away.

DarkHollowTree · 02/07/2023 18:20

Bizarre. (Her reaction, not you)
That was really kind and thoughtful of you imo - really lovely 🌹

Snowdrop89 · 02/07/2023 18:19

@SatOnBeckysHill where do I even go from here with our friendship? Feels a bit awkward now

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veryfluffyfluff · 02/07/2023 18:19

I would find that strange and OTT.

SatOnBeckysHill · 02/07/2023 18:18

Hmm hard to say

Don't overthink it op!