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To absolutely HATE when shops ask you to donate?

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ProfessionallyIrritated · 25/06/2023 15:48

IABU and I know it, I’m just hot, bothered and peeved off.

you know when you’re in literally anywhere, like for instance McDonalds and it always wants you to round up to the nearest pound… I can deal with it on self service tills as you can just click no.

was in Poundland earlier buying a couple of essential cleaning bits, came to £4.50 (don’t get me started on how nothing in POUNDLAND is ever A POUND anymore!!!!!!)

self serve tills aren’t even working so I go to a regular till.

Barely-out-of-his-teens cashier scans my items and then was like “and would you like to donate £3 to” I don’t even remember what it was. I was like no thank you, and he went (loudly) “are you sure? You could make a difference to someone today”

me: no thank you, and I don’t think you should be pressuring people into making donations when they don’t want to.

him: well a lot of our customers do donate so that’s why we ask

if it was rounding up to the nearest 10p or even 50p I don’t think I’d mind as much but THREE POUNDS? that’s only just less than what my shopping came to…..

I know charities need to raise money and IA definitely BU but why the fuck do shops ask people to donate to charity? It doesn’t help their buisness presumably. And what happened to just pressing a button on the PIN pad to say no instead of having to verbally broadcast it? It’s almost like being peer pressured into donating ffs.

I can barely afford to live as it is, I don’t have the money to be donating to charity at the moment as mean as that makes me sound

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Catspyjamas17 · 26/06/2023 13:42

Mummysalwaysright · 26/06/2023 12:08

If you can "barely afford to live", why are you going in McDonalds?

Did you misread McDonalds for The Ivy or something?

Jesus, what a low bar.

And with the price of heating, cooking and food in supermarkets these days McDs may well be cheaper sometimes. At least you can sit somewhere warm while you eat.

DiscoDragon · 26/06/2023 13:25

I don't mind it so much as I'm quite happy to just say no thanks, but the people who stand around in supermarket doorways and try to nab you on your way out to sign up for a monthly donation to their charity really wind me up, they can be so pushy. There was one outside the co-op a few weeks back who tried to get my attention, I politely said no thank you but he carried on shouting after me as I walked off, trying to flatter me with comments about my "lovely curly hair" as if that was going to make me turn around and change my mind!

PatchworkElmer · 26/06/2023 13:01

I hate this because it’ll be presented as ‘Poundland raised £xy for charity’ as part of their corporate social responsibility thing. It’ll make them look good at the expense (literally) of their customers.

I donate to charity ‘privately’ because I don’t want my money to be used for a corporate PR stunt at no expense to the retailer involved.

FeelingwearyFeeelingsmall · 26/06/2023 12:52

If it's a charity I like (ronald McDonald House does great work) I always round up. It's an easy way to give. If it's one I don't support I don't.

Pret used to have a £3.00 contactless charity thing that I used once a month or so. Now it's gone up to £5 I don't bother.

Tilllly · 26/06/2023 12:48

Think it all started with premier inn -GOSH - and I think it's been very successful. But it's a children's hospital, most people will add £1 or something as they're booking a hotel

A pound shop... not so much

I don't mind the 5p at wilkinsons

red78hot · 26/06/2023 12:45

I see this lots now in shops, Wilko and Habbycraft off the top of my head, they usually just press no before they turn the card machine towards you anyway.

Tilllly · 26/06/2023 12:45

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/06/2023 10:23

Children doing your packing for you is the worst.

My heart sinks if I see there's a Scout group at the end of the till. I'm sure they see it that they're not just asking for money (which I'd prefer) but are being paid in exchange for providing a service; but, like you, it's not a service that I want: I want to pack it in a way that suits me and not with tins and jars dropped on top of salad or eggs!

I don't even like it when adult checkout staff insist on packing for me. If I've forgotten to bring a bag, or buy more than I planned, just give me the bag that I've asked for and charge me for it; don't stuff my purchases into it any old how yourself.

I pay them to NOT pack for me 😁

Begonne · 26/06/2023 12:33

I’m not anti charity, but I donate on my own terms to groups that align with my values.

I refuse to donate to beggars at atms, beggars with physical deformities, chuggers accosting me on the street, and shops doing exactly what you’ve described op. It’s not about the charity; it’s about how these practices impact on someone more vulnerable than me.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/06/2023 12:21

Our Poundland ask you to donate a £1.50 bag for life to the food bank. They are horrendously pushy.

Wouldn't hungry people prefer to eat food, rather than be given a plastic bag to chow down on instead?

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/06/2023 12:20

I did wonder it it wss some trendy saying I had never heard of
Ill.just Firefox the packing😂😂

It very easily could have been some common modern way of speech that has completely passed by those of us who are middle-aged and older.

I remember being utterly banjaxed when I first heard somebody said the phrase 'Megan Thee Stallion' and I later discovered that it was apparently the name of a pop singer!

Mind, R.E.M.'s 'E-Bow the Letter' was getting on for 30 years ago - much more in my own era - and I still don't get what that was referring to!

AnotherDayAnotherUsernameForMeAgain · 26/06/2023 12:15

Clementineorsatsuma · 25/06/2023 20:04

Gosh, the Poundland where I go is 25p! I still decline as I donate where o want to, not where I'm coerced.
£3 is ludicrous!

Our Poundland ask you to donate a £1.50 bag for life to the food bank. They are horrendously pushy.

Mummysalwaysright · 26/06/2023 12:08

If you can "barely afford to live", why are you going in McDonalds?

EbonyRaven · 26/06/2023 12:07

x2boys · 26/06/2023 11:59

I did wonder it it wss some trendy saying I had never heard of
Ill.just Firefox the packing😂😂

Grin
x2boys · 26/06/2023 11:59

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/06/2023 10:16

Firefox? Forego.

I did wonder it it wss some trendy saying I had never heard of
Ill.just Firefox the packing😂😂

ifIwerenotanandroid · 26/06/2023 11:57

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/06/2023 11:48

THIRTY QUID?! They asked you to donate thirty quid?! What a fucking liberty!

"If I donate £30 from my own pocket, will you do the same from yours?"

"Tell you what, you donate £30 to YOUR choice of charity & I'll donate £30 to mine, & we can call it quits."

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/06/2023 11:48

THIRTY QUID?! They asked you to donate thirty quid?! What a fucking liberty!

"If I donate £30 from my own pocket, will you do the same from yours?"

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/06/2023 11:47

It’s doubly annoying up here in Scotland when it’s for a charity whose activities are England based, yes I have pointed it out to the shop staff.
In general Hobbycraft were doing it for a while I’ve also had it in charity shops and online shopping.

I definitely think that, if they are going to do this, it seems considerably less unreasonable if it's a charity local to your own town/county/region rather than a nationwide one (or, in your case, in a different nation entirely).

If it's a hospice or a sick children's support facility in my county, I'd be likely to donate (still wouldn't want to be pressured or guilted, though); but if it's just one of the massive national ones with colossal annual incomes and multiple highly-paid staff, I feel a lot less 'connected' and would decline.

EbonyRaven · 26/06/2023 11:43

HoistWithHisOwnPetard · 26/06/2023 10:40

BritishHeartFoundation

we were buying a chest of drawers and were asked to donate £30, felt really on the spot

money grabbing bastards

THIRTY QUID?! They asked you to donate thirty quid?! What a fucking liberty! Angry

As I said, most stuff (food/consumables,) is 40-50% more than it was 3 years ago, (some stuff has even doubled!) So why on EARTH do they think people have surplus income to fork out even MORE for fucking 'CHARITY?!' Hmm

And many people buying from a Charity shop are buying from there because they don't have a lot of money. To ask them for more is an absolute cheek. I don't know how these people sleep at night. I am saying NO to every single one now. They can all fuck off.

EbonyRaven · 26/06/2023 11:36

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/06/2023 10:16

Firefox? Forego.

That is a WEIRD autocorrect! 😆

x2boys · 26/06/2023 10:57

Well he shouldn't have been pressuring you a simp!e no.thanks should have Bern sufficient
It did make me laugh though when we went shopping in our local.Iceland and we were asked if we wanted to.buy an extra item as donated food was going to go.to.local ,disabled children and their families ,my dh,agreed and asked where it was going
The local special school.where our son goes too!
So.we might have had it donated back to us!😂

RonObvious · 26/06/2023 10:55

I don't mind being asked - Montezuma support Children on the Edge for example, and if you donate, they donate too. But I would be tempted to complain in your case - I don't mind them asking, but they shouldn't pressure you if you say no.

phoenixrosehere · 26/06/2023 10:52

phoenixrosehere · 26/06/2023 10:51

I recall that considering that was years ago as well as the CEO being ousted. The charity that was listed was donating to aid for those impacted by the earthquake in Turkey & Syria. It explained it on the website after ordering.

I will also point out Papa John’s are franchised so should I punish the people who part own and the employees working there for the issues of a CEO who is from and lives in another country whom they have never met?

*before ordering

phoenixrosehere · 26/06/2023 10:51

Valeriekat · 26/06/2023 06:42

Papa Johns if you remember had to fire their founder and CEO for racism and I think sexual harassment. I wonder what charities they donate to?

I recall that considering that was years ago as well as the CEO being ousted. The charity that was listed was donating to aid for those impacted by the earthquake in Turkey & Syria. It explained it on the website after ordering.

I will also point out Papa John’s are franchised so should I punish the people who part own and the employees working there for the issues of a CEO who is from and lives in another country whom they have never met?

LoopyLoo1991 · 26/06/2023 10:43

Poundlands in London card machines ask you to donate 25p.

No cashier from the capital are stupid or brave enough to dare ask for donations of any amount, so leave the computers to be ones getting sworn at 🤬

HoistWithHisOwnPetard · 26/06/2023 10:40

BritishHeartFoundation

we were buying a chest of drawers and were asked to donate £30, felt really on the spot

money grabbing bastards