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Is anyone else 'Fappy'?

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WellWellWellWhatHaveWeHeree · 22/06/2023 20:45

Is anyone else the above ? Fat and happy? (Not my abbreviation i saw it online) I've tried it all - slimming world, weight watchers, Cambridge, intermittent fasting, keto, low carbs, gym 7 days a week etc etc and I never drop below 100kg (I'm 5'8") and I'm so miserable
My options are either accept it (I'm healthy just big- size 16/18) and move on or look at a gastric band/bypass etc etc.

Is anyone else 'Fappy'? Am I being ridiculous even considering doing that and accepting my size?

YABU get the bypass you'll never be happy
YANBU I'm Fappy and you can be too

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QueenBitch666 · 24/06/2023 13:30

MarriedMama23 · 22/06/2023 20:46

Just to let you know. Fap is slang for wanking..

First thing I thought of Grin

unsync · 24/06/2023 07:51

If it's a mental issue, Slimpod should work as it addresses your subconscious habits.

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WellWellWellWhatHaveWeHeree · 24/06/2023 07:12

unsync · 24/06/2023 06:16

You have to commit to it and understand that unlike SW or WW etc you won't necessarily see a huge change immediately, although some people do.

It does work wonders on changing your relationship with food and with yourself. I would recommend it, it's actually very nuanced and liberating. There's a lot to take in, so it is spread over 12 weeks and the coaching is released week by week so you have time to absorb it and action it.

It isn't a passive programme, you do have to put some effort in and engage with it, but it isn't difficult. You don't have that awful self loathing / guilt / treat / failure thing that diet programs give you, because it isn't a diet.

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Ok thank you worth considering. It does seem to be a mental issue for me rather than just lack of effort! Thanks

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unsync · 24/06/2023 06:16

WellWellWellWhatHaveWeHeree · 23/06/2023 20:50

No but I've seen it and it's relatively inexpensive so I was going to try it! Are you recommending it?

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You have to commit to it and understand that unlike SW or WW etc you won't necessarily see a huge change immediately, although some people do.

It does work wonders on changing your relationship with food and with yourself. I would recommend it, it's actually very nuanced and liberating. There's a lot to take in, so it is spread over 12 weeks and the coaching is released week by week so you have time to absorb it and action it.

It isn't a passive programme, you do have to put some effort in and engage with it, but it isn't difficult. You don't have that awful self loathing / guilt / treat / failure thing that diet programs give you, because it isn't a diet.

SnapPop · 24/06/2023 05:36

I just put those numbers into the NHS calculator and got 34.

XenoBitch · 24/06/2023 01:14

ShirleyPhallus · 23/06/2023 22:21

Not according to the NHS 🤷‍♀️

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I used the NHS calculator.

ShirleyPhallus · 23/06/2023 22:21

XenoBitch · 23/06/2023 18:26

No, it is a BMI of 34, which is closer to overweight category than morbidly obese.

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Not according to the NHS 🤷‍♀️

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WellWellWellWhatHaveWeHeree · 23/06/2023 20:52

Just to add a few people have said you have tried lots of diets and haven't stuck to them so that's why you're failing. I have tried - hard! I've been 'big' forever from childhood upwards. I've been dieting on and off for 20 years. I stick to things sometimes for years and then the weight comes back and I start over eating and not bothering with diets anymore. It's a viscious cycle. I've tried hypnotherapy to try and get to the bottom of the reasons but I think I just have ADHD and like to eat a lot 🤷‍♀️

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WellWellWellWhatHaveWeHeree · 23/06/2023 20:50

unsync · 23/06/2023 13:58

Have you done Slimpod?

No but I've seen it and it's relatively inexpensive so I was going to try it! Are you recommending it?

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Nothingbuttheglory · 23/06/2023 18:54

@PrincessHoneysuckle does he? Maybe DM has seen it and was trolling me.

XenoBitch · 23/06/2023 18:48

Beneficialchampion2 · 23/06/2023 18:34

Depends on your age and ethnicity. Split hairs all you want but it's still obese and likely to lead to health problems.

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Yes, which is why I am trying to lose weight. My BMI has been higher.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 23/06/2023 18:44

@Nothingbuttheglory Greg Davies covers this in one of his stand ups.Hilarious

Beneficialchampion2 · 23/06/2023 18:34

XenoBitch · 23/06/2023 18:26

No, it is a BMI of 34, which is closer to overweight category than morbidly obese.

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Depends on your age and ethnicity. Split hairs all you want but it's still obese and likely to lead to health problems.

XenoBitch · 23/06/2023 18:26

Pyri · 23/06/2023 10:32

That’s a bmi of 36, not far off morbid obesity

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No, it is a BMI of 34, which is closer to overweight category than morbidly obese.

Cleethorpes · 23/06/2023 18:24

I considered bariatric surgery when I weighed myself in January this year, but decided to try and diet one more time, using intermittent fasting and eating very low carb (but not religiously so). I've lost 4 stone so far.

for me (and this is just my opinion), it really helped to come off sugar for a couple of days before I started fasting (I happen to like OMAD, eating once a day).

Good luck OP, whatever route you chose.

Beneficialchampion2 · 23/06/2023 17:50

Respectfully OP, if diets are not working for you, there is one of two things happening:

You aren't sticking to it

Or

You aren't tracking your calories accurately and your body isn't in a calorie deficit hence never dropping below 100Kg.

Gastric Bypass seems an extreme option and frankly lazy, not to mention the risks.

Most of the diets you have listed are not sustainable long term, they're fads designed to make people money.

The best thing you can do is get an accurate picture of your bodies resting basal metabolic rate, factor in your activity levels and then adjust calorie intake to ensure your body is in a calorie deficit by 250-500 calories a day (0.5-1lb body fat) depending on how quick you want to drop the weight.

Ensuring you stay active and get 10000 steps a day will go a long way towards the above.

Prelapsarianhag · 23/06/2023 17:47

I am very very old. Throughout my life I have seen friends dieting, lose stones and those stones come right back, plus a little bit more every time. It is rare for someone to lose weight and keep it off. So - find a happy middle ground, where you are not too fat to walk but can feel good about yourself and find your own style. It seems to me our bodies know which weight they want to be and you mess with it at your peril.

Dixiechickonhols · 23/06/2023 16:41

You can get a detailed health review at Gp surgery over 40. Like a mot - it assessed risks of developing various diseases, blood tests etc. I thought it was helpful.
For me focusing on weight for health really made difference for me. Choosing healthy foods so I felt so much better really motivated me to carry on. Walking lots outside - good for mood and simply stops you sitting snacking at night. I lost 5 stone in 8 months. It only took me 6 months to go from obese to healthy bmi and I’d been overweight for years. Yes I’m happier but that wasn’t my motivation, nicer clothes etc are just an added bonus.

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WellWellWellWhatHaveWeHeree · 23/06/2023 16:33

TheOrigRights · 23/06/2023 15:28

I'm healthy just big

Are you though? If you believe you are healthy then why are you even considering surgery? For cosmetic reasons?

Yes and to stave off future health problems. Yes I'm very healthy - low blood pressure, low cholesterol etc etc and hardly ever ill.

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TheOrigRights · 23/06/2023 15:28

I'm healthy just big

Are you though? If you believe you are healthy then why are you even considering surgery? For cosmetic reasons?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 23/06/2023 15:09

CapEBarra · 22/06/2023 20:53

I had to tell my sister that nonce was slang for paedophile the other day after she kept calling me and my mum one. Turns out she thought it was a joke term for someone who talked nonsense.

Completely unrelated but DGM used to use bugger all the time. Bugger this, bugger that, I'll be buggered - until DB asked her if she knew what it meant. She didn't, so he explained it to her.

Shut her up completely, apparently.

NathanielSitsOnASpike · 23/06/2023 15:04

About losing weight - it's sad and boring but true, it's all about small but sustainable habit changes. Diets don't work because you can't live like that for long - then you feel like a 'failure' and go right back to the patterns that made you put weight on in the first place. It's terrible for your mental health.

Spend a some time keeping an honest food diary (including all snacks and drinks), and then take a look. Try to cut out a couple of hundred calories a day from that (which might only be one dessert or a couple of biscuits - easy), build a bit more walking into your everyday routine, and STICK WITH IT.

Your weight will come down. It will take weeks, maybe months, but it will come down. And that will be your new normal - easy to maintain, and you can build on that by making further small changes over time.

It's the ONLY way that works long-term.

Merryoldgoat · 23/06/2023 14:56

mrssilky · 23/06/2023 12:45

for a very long time I thought 'dogging' was just meeting up with friends to take your dogs for a walk. I also used to think nonce was an interchangeable word for ponce until someone pointed out the difference. Both are terrible words.

This is the best post I’ve ever read.

NathanielSitsOnASpike · 23/06/2023 14:54

https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/fap

Yerroblemom1923 · 23/06/2023 14:52

No. People who claim they are are deluding themselves. Get yourself fit, healthy and lose the weight. Then you'll know what happy is!

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