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Car park road rage!

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harriethoyle · 18/06/2023 14:58

Was at the supermarket this morning and parked on the end of the row. A taxi driver stopped to my back right which meant I couldn't reverse to that direction to get out. No problem I thought, I can reverse to the back left and take the other way out of the car park. As I'm doing this, to slip out of my space and onto the road, a man drives up smack bang over the white line so blocking the whole road behind the taxi driver. He then proceeds to gesticulate furiously at me before reversing back so he's on his side of the road. His reaction was so OTT all I can think is he thought car park was one way (which it isn't) and I was pulling a fast one... or have I broken some unwritten carpark rule I was unaware of?!

Yes I've done a diagram. Yes it's rubbish 😁

Red: angry man
Dark blue: confused me
Light blue: blocking taxi driver

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WrigglyDonCat · 18/06/2023 23:27

harriethoyle · 18/06/2023 21:08

@WrigglyDonCat hello, angry man! 🤣

😡

Not me, all you would have got from me would have been a shake of the head, or if necessary because of collision risk, a brief toot.

Plus the day you find me across the centre line without good reason, you are welcome to come and get my driving licence and burn it in front of me 😂

Still can't work out what the hell your diagram or description mean though. Can't even work out how you had the option of reversing both towards the taxi or towards angry man? One was behind you and the other in front from your diagram.

So I've updated your image. I think you wanted to to do something like the red line? But the taxi was in the way. But in that case how could you reverse like your blue line if the front of the car was facing that way? You'd just drive out of the bay.

And given where the taxi was, if you wanted to reverse out (perhaps some barrier at the front of the bay?), why not just do something like the green line to get out?

And if I've misunderstood the direction the car is facing, surely you'd do something more like my blue line to head out where you wanted to go so that you weren't reversing out across a junction?

Car park road rage!
harriethoyle · 18/06/2023 21:08

@WrigglyDonCat hello, angry man! 🤣

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JenniferBarkley · 18/06/2023 21:03

So you were on the left hand side of the side road, preparing to turn to the left at a T junction onto a main road? Where was the red car when you turned into the main road? You shouldn't have moved until the red car was past you.

WrigglyDonCat · 18/06/2023 21:00

harriethoyle · 18/06/2023 19:31

@Sigmama 🤣🙈

I think my really shit diagram has confused things, sorry! I reversed back to the left and then was on the correct side of the road. I didn't pull out sideways or over the car space lines.

Angry man pulled up after I'd reversed and as I was then positioning on the correct side of the road. He then sat stationary behind the taxi and wasn't trying to overtake it. Perhaps he didn't realise he was over the middle line?

Middle finger will be polished for next deployment if necessary 🤣 @HamstersAreMyLife lack of festering definitely the way forward!

I think your description is just as big a problem as your diagram. Nothing about either the words or the diagram make any sense.

For example you've just said you reversed back to the left and were on the correct side of the road. Followed by saying you were then positioning on correct side of the road. Well which is it? Did you reverse onto the correct side of the road, or did you reverse and then position on to the correct side of the road?

Was Angry man behind or in front of you at this point? The diagram implies behind you I think, but the words imply in front of you between you and the taxi?

So frankly, if you're not able to describe the situation clearly, or draw the situation clearly, I have no hope at all that you understood what was happening around you at the time.

harriethoyle · 18/06/2023 21:00

@JenniferBarkley I did reverse to the left! My arrow doesn't show my path... sorry! I'm really terrible at drawing.

@Ponoka7 🤣🙈 I accept the emotions are the high point of my shit diagram 😁

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Fightyouforthatpie · 18/06/2023 20:51

GodisaBC · 18/06/2023 20:46

Diagram is confusing

So is the description. I wish everyone would stop advocating the middle finger - I don't know why but I find it extremely offensive.

GodisaBC · 18/06/2023 20:46

Diagram is confusing

Ponoka7 · 18/06/2023 20:44

Haven't a clue, but I like that you've thought about the facial expression each of you should have. Red guy was too far out and shouldnt have been trying to overtake. He obviously got socks for father's Day.

JenniferBarkley · 18/06/2023 20:37

I'm a bit confused, but I think the problem was going directly from your space into the main road (as it were), rather than reversing out of your space to the left of the diagram so that you would get your manoeuvre done on the side road and then be driving forwards to turn onto the main road. Which you shouldn't have done until the other car was past the taxi.

But I might be misunderstanding the scenario.

harriethoyle · 18/06/2023 19:31

@Sigmama 🤣🙈

I think my really shit diagram has confused things, sorry! I reversed back to the left and then was on the correct side of the road. I didn't pull out sideways or over the car space lines.

Angry man pulled up after I'd reversed and as I was then positioning on the correct side of the road. He then sat stationary behind the taxi and wasn't trying to overtake it. Perhaps he didn't realise he was over the middle line?

Middle finger will be polished for next deployment if necessary 🤣 @HamstersAreMyLife lack of festering definitely the way forward!

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SerendipityJane · 18/06/2023 17:35

Was the lane you were reversing into one way ?

WrigglyDonCat · 18/06/2023 17:23

You appear to be orientated with the long axis of the car, so nose to tail, up and down the diagram. In which case your description makes no sense.

If it is nose down the page, just drive out round to your right (so bottom left as we look at the diagram)?

If it is nose up the page, there's no excuse for not seeing the other car (not that there is if you were nose down - you still need to be aware, but it's harder).

As others have said if you're leaving a parking space, you are joining a road in effect, so need to give priority to those already established - regardless of whether their road position is correct or not.

However I try and visualise this, it comes back to 'Should have gone to specsavers'. Or with my ADI hat on - simply ineffective observation. You may have looked but you either haven't interpreted your visual information correctly, or perhaps more likely, there's been a gap (either physical or temporal) in your observation.

woodhill · 18/06/2023 17:17

Yes it's very confusing

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 18/06/2023 17:04

woodhill · 18/06/2023 17:02

I think they could have cut you a little slack

Difficult when people make it hard for you to manoeuvre out of the space and won't give you a minute

But if the OP knew he was there she shouldn't have been trying to manoeuvre in the first place but that can't be established from the diagram.

woodhill · 18/06/2023 17:02

I think they could have cut you a little slack

Difficult when people make it hard for you to manoeuvre out of the space and won't give you a minute

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 18/06/2023 16:58

You're in the wrong, he's already on the main road and trying to move past the taxi driver. It's on you to wait until the roads clear to exit your space. You should have let the man in the red car go past and then when the road was clear, moved out.

EVHead · 18/06/2023 16:53

Sigmama · 18/06/2023 15:59

Could you get your food delivered?

😂

KateyCuckoo · 18/06/2023 16:50

Why are you leaving your space to the side? Drive forwards and then turn your wheel. They have right of way due to being on the 'main' road.

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 18/06/2023 16:45

I think it depends where he was when you started your reverse as I'm assuming he's in the middle of the road to get round the taxi? If he wasn't there then I think you're fine but if you were aware of him then you shouldn't have pulled out. It's not a car park thing as such, it's just being aware that traffic would have to adjust because of the taxi so the road wasn't safe to join (similar to not pulling out of a junction in the same circumstances).

Boomboom22 · 18/06/2023 16:11

From your diagram yabu, wait until he's passed or drive straight forward swing round to the right then indicate left?

PuffinsRocks · 18/06/2023 16:08

Againstmachine · 18/06/2023 15:47

It looks like you are coming out of your space sideways rather than driving forwards then turning.

This. In which case YABU and anyway red car was already on the road so should have had right of way. According to your diagram you could have pulled out by going forwards or backwards, just not by turning in the direction of the taxi.

HamstersAreMyLife · 18/06/2023 16:06

Couldn't you drive straight out from where you were as it looks like a roadway in front whereas I imagined you were directly facing another car? Either way I can't see why the man was angry as you were maneuvering on your own side of the road, taxi appears to be in the wrong. Perhaps it's just that angry man wasn't expecting you to be moving, it looks like one of those situations where neither of you could easily anticipate what the other was about to do. I wouldn't fester on it, just one of those random encounters.

KrisAkabusi · 18/06/2023 16:06

If red driver was in the middle of the road it means he had already started to manoeuvre around the taxi. You should have waited until he had gone past before you started moving.

Sigmama · 18/06/2023 15:59

Could you get your food delivered?

Deathbyfluffy · 18/06/2023 15:57

Probably just a twat, the world is full of them - this morning some daft bint cut across the centre of a give way (nearly hitting me) as I was waiting to turn right.

Give them the middle finger and move on