Would you judge

Onelifeonly* Your opinion is very measured but I was interested in your comment about biology " brain isn't fully matured until 25 ". Then saying don't aim to have children before 30. It's very unpopular to say on mn but if biology should play a part in life decisions then it's important to know that female fertility goes in a steep decline after 30. Of course the vast majority of women have children in their 30's but if you are unlucky enough to need help, and no one knows until they try, it would be far better to have started trying in your 20's than 30's. Many people haven't met their life partners before 30 so that decision is made for them but in this specific case, of a long term relationship, advising to wait a few years, when they have stated a desire to have a family is bad advice.

At 25 I'd been married for 7 years already. Still together 25 years later.

My parents got married in 1957, when they were both 26.
At that time this was considered to be quite "old".
They were married for 60 years.

@CurlewKate ah sorry miss read deffinately no a long hard slog as you say some on here think. Would love a delorian and go back and do it again very little i would change. Hope the op is as happy.

@jane1956 A lovely picture-but I wasn't challenging your happy marriage. I was challenging your statement that posters on here have said that a long marriage "must be an unhappy slog"

I don't see why anyone would judge you for getting married at your age, and I think it's really strange that people are judging you. I met my husband just before I turned 18, we started living together three months later, got our first mortgage after a year, and got married the year after that, in 1980. We weren't particularly young to get married then and most of our friends who married at around the same time are still together. No-one ever suggested that we were too young to get married. We were both mature enough at that age to understand the lifetime commitment we were making and to take our marriage vows seriously.

I think you should ignore anyone who suggests you are too young and celebrate that you've found your life partner when you have. Many congratulations to you both.

Sounds fine to me. I met DP at 29. Getting married at 33. I wish I'd met him sooner and married slightly younger!

It’s totally fine.
Some people are dicks.

@CurlewKate 2 photos 48 years apart is that proof?

Maybe maybe not. Just something for OP to consider as they are a perfectly reasonable age to get married

Hmm very odd then.

But yeah if it's coming from his family I don't think they like you. Just ignore them.

@hattyhathat someone saying they're too young, isn't saying that either of them could do better!
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CurlewKate · Yesterday 18:45
@jane1956 "Congratulations. According to some on this thread you must be in an unhappy slog."
10 quid to a charity of your choice if you can back up that statement.

an how do i do that? do you want to come round to see that we are happy?

@jane1956 "Congratulations. According to some on this thread you must be in an unhappy slog."
10 quid to a charity of your choice if you can back up that statement.

jane1956 · Today 17:08

met at 17 he 19 married when i was 19 him 21 coming up to 48 yrs married this August congratulations to you both x

Congratulations. According to some on this thread you must be in an unhappy slog.
absolutely not had ups and downs struggled with money but still love each other he is my best friend

Age is not the only consideration so it's hard to be sure, not knowing either of you or your circumstances. It is young for these days but not desperately young. A couple of years on, it would seem more appropriate, I suppose. My parents married at 25/26 and within 6 months of meeting which would seem crazy to many now.

My eldest is 22 and I can't imagine them married by 24, though they are in a stable relationship (but partner is some years younger anyway).

They say the brain keeps maturing till around 25, so that's a consideration maybe? I'm not sure it would be wise to rush into having all your children by 30, but there again, maybe I'm judging by the fact I definitely didn't feel ready to be a parent at 24.

If you have doubts yourself, maybe you need to slow things down. (If you haven't any doubts, I'm not sure why you are posting.)

Someone will always judge you no matter what so don't worry about it! I had my first child at 20, got married at 24 and had my 2nd child at 24 and had my 3rd at 26, im 39 now and still married and don't regret a second of my life. Do what's best for you, noone else matters as long as you and the person you're marrying are happy.

I was pretty much in the same situation, got married 26 and pregnant 27. It was classed as super early in our business but I’m considering a third child and most of my colleagues are just having their first babies at 33-36 age range.

We over paid our mortgage and moved to a bigger house age 29 (buying first house at 23/24).

Only things it hampered is our careers, other people have definitely excelled more but I’m comfortable with my salary and wanted to be married / have kids more than any promotion

I was married at 25 (I'm 30 now) I don't consider it to be significantly young but good luck, congratulations

@kitsuneghost "Not getting divorced at the drop of a hat does not equal a 60 year slog. You can't be selfish all the time."
If you're happily married that's wonderful. But what's selfish about wanting a divorce if you're not happy?

Congratulations. According to some on this thread you must be in an unhappy slog.

met at 17 he 19 married when i was 19 him 21 coming up to 48 yrs married this August congratulations to you both x

@Cosyblankets
"Surely that's her choice. And again, none of your business."

Of course it is. But I was asked my opinion. Which I gave.

Not getting divorced at the drop of a hat does not equal a 60 year slog. You can't be selfish all the time.

It's none of their business. You're 25 not 17