Do I need to move out? Or is this normal?

That's good. Sex is enjoyed by both parties or it shouldn't happen.

Methinks you should sit and talk to him about it and if no change, move out. Don't use him for somewhere to stay like some are suggesting

Well you are using him to crash at before you buy a new house.

No actual plan to live together in the future?

So he just does his normal routine. Sounds reasonable to me.

Why do people on here talk about having sex as payment/a favour to your other half. They are having sex with each other?. Its not a payment for living there. I assume she enjoys it?

How mature is he if he must have a night out with his mates every week? 🤦🏽‍♀️
It sounds like you're just not compatible. And if you don't see forever with him (you didn't intend to live with him permanently), then what's the point?

So until you moved in with him, you'd spend a few evenings a week together, and spend time apart, doing your own things?
Can't you go back to that?
He has his night with his mates. You two have 2 or 3 nights that you arrange to spend together (date nights). The other evenings you plan to spend doing your own thing.
You could take advantage of the situation (free accommodation/ petcare/ storage) to do more for yourself - go and visit/ sleepover at friends' places, go on trips to places, take up interests and hobbies for yourself...

He might start feeling less overwhelmed/ realising that he actually enjoys your company and that's why you got together in the first place, in which case the date nights will be more quality time that what you get right now.
If that doesn't happen, and he can't even ring-fence a few evenings to prioritise you, then it's pretty clear that in 9 months (or whenever your new home is ready) you will probably stop spending any time with him.

It can take some adjustment and I wouldn’t jump to conclusions just yet. I am in a similar boat. Moved to a different city and was offered to stay with my partner. We’ve been dating for 6 month -riot to that and he’s always been very caring and loving. We agreed a similar arrangement to yours. And we also agreed that us moving in together will not change the lifestyle we are used to (we both have difficult co-habiting situations with previous partners). So he does go out once a fortnight and this is a priority over our shared plans. It bothered me at first but that’s what we agreed to so we adapted and planned things to do together outside of his protected weekend.
I can honestly say that the first 8 months were rubbish and many times I questioned myself whether this is for me and if the relationship is worth it. Like you, I was missing my friends and felt really isolated in the house. I work from home also.
His attitude also changed, he seemed more distant, less attentive, less likely to talk after work etc. I was extremely careful not to let my emotions take over and tried to open a conversation in a non-judgemental way. The thing is, moving in together was a massive step for him. He wasn’t ready to do it and he found it very stressful. His way of dealing with it was to withdraw. We spoke and I told him how much I value his priorities but that I feel isolated and I feel like we are not making shred memories and using this time to learn about each other. And I would love for us to s-end more time talking and sharing and doing things together. I also started getting out of the house more, going to the theatre and museums, movies. Even if just by myself. This gave me a sense that he is not my sole source of joy. I also started paying some of the bills. He tried to decline it but I did it anyway. It’s a small amount of money but it did shift the balance somewhat.
And then all of the sudden it’s like a switch flipped in his head and I got my loving partner back. All it was is the initial shock of letting someone into his home and fear of being open with another person and fear that his life is going to change. Perseverance, reassurance, love and open conversations helped us both to get over the hump and we are stronger than ever now.
I’m not saying that this is your situation but I just wanted to give a different and more compassionate perspective because I know that 90% of replies will be along the lines of “leave him”

Food and cleaning is replacing rent.z

I would never do this. It would be too easy for him to get used to you doing this and get out of the habit, and never get back into it.

It really doesn't matter, the op isn't staying with him anyway. This is just a pit stop until her home is ready. All of those saying to just move out, that is much easier said than done, especially with a pet, and the op will have to pay through the nose to do so.

If this man were abusive, I would say get out immediately, no matter what, but the op has already been dating him for a year, so it's not like he's a stranger. He's a dullard but he's not a monster. Take advantage of being able to save money and then break it off as soon as you move out.

Sounds like hell. Poor you, OP.

This is really no way to live, miles from your friends and social life with even if you contribute 'nothing' but cooking and cleaning

Food and cleaning is replacing rent.

I would never do this. It would be too easy for him to get used to you doing this and get out of the habit, and never get back into it.

Calculate how much a housekeep would cost him to buy in.

Sorry, I'd run. Nothing like your own front door.

I'd find somewhere to store your belongings. Find somewhere to live with your pet and then bin him. Sounds like he can't provide the home life you're looking to have in the future. Best find out sooner rather than later

That sounds like way too much effort. I really don't think it's worth it.

Move out. Some of the other posters have already given you great, practical advice.

If I were you, I'd stay put. Bide your time, start a new hobby, make some new friends and save as much money as you can, and as soon as your house is ready, move out. I would also try to sleep in a different room and make SURE you don't get pregnant. As soon as you're able to move out, dump him.

You're paying for lodgings with food, cooking, cleaning and sex.

That's all he sees you as - most charitably, as a cleaner with added perks.

Well at least you know what he's going to be like in the future.
So I suggest you rent somewhere while waiting to move into the new house or perhaps rent a room from friends or rent a room as a lodger.
And never forget what he was like when you moved in with him...... that's given you a glimpse of the rest of your life if you stay with him.

Yay! You found out early that this one isn’t a keeper. Rent a storage unit and get a room in shared accommodation in a fantastic location. Have some fun before you have to be a responsible home owner ☺️

Sounds to me like you are like her mum except for the sex part. I’d run for the hills OP.

You are getting a decent preview of what life with this specimen would be like if you settled.

I would rather sofa surf than stay one more day.

I think he has decided he doesn't need to make an effort - dating was just him showing the best side of him.

It doesn't sound as if he is respectful to you and that's a red flag.

Interesting that you are thinking it's you - be careful as relationships like this wear down your confidence.

Of course he's going to say it's going great. He's now got a live-in cook who buys the food, and does half the cleaning, and (I assume) has sex with him.

When you lived separately before, and would meet up, do you still do the same thing now, so 'date night' once a week or whatever, or is it literally six evenings a week you're sat watching him play Call of Duty, and then the seventh night he goes out with him mates?

Tough one, because rentals are crazy money right now, and you know it's temporary. The temptation to just sit tight, get your new house and then reevaluate the relationship from a difference would be strong. But equally, he seems to have turned into a bit of a knobhead who is just happy to have the live in chef/maid/shag partner without having to put any effort into making you happy.

Have you asked him if he actually enjoys your company/ conversation lately? Sounds like he's happy for the work you do but not your company.

So, if I'm reading this right - he's basically just seeing you as part of the furniture now, rather than taking time to talk to you, go out on dates, etc?

Do you have your own room? That would make a big difference to me in this kind of set-up.