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NDN smoking weed

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Frania · 13/06/2023 20:51

NDN is a man in his late thirties who moved back in with his parents a few years ago. Parents have lived here for 30 years. We get on fine with them when we see them. We just say hi and have a small bit of chit chat and then get on our way. Since we moved in (2 and half years ago) the son has been smoking weed, and it did annoy me a bit then, but I just got on with it. However, it is really bugging me now. WIBU to report him? Truthfully, I’m worried that if I report him, although it would be anonymous, I think it would be pretty obvious it was me, and I don’t want to be worried about them being petty or nasty towards me back, even though I’m not the one smoking an illegal drug in the middle of the day in the garden.

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10HailMarys · 14/06/2023 17:18

It’s a mild whiff occasionally. You can’t possibly be in the garden every single time he lights up. Stop being such a drama queen and certainly do not ring the police over someone’s recreational, personal weed habit.

I never touch weed, but one of my NDNs smokes every day. If I happen to be in the garden when he pops outside for his smoke, I can smell it a bit. Ten minutes later he’s finished and I can’t smell it any more. It’s really not a problem. He and his wife are really nice people with polite, well-behaved children and a positively angelic dog; I consider myself lucky that an occasional drifting smell of dope is the only time they even make their presence known, except for the times when they play Bananagrams outside in summer.

FWIW I’d rather catch a whiff of weed for a few minutes now and again then have to smell someone’s perfectly legal barbecue all afternoon.

towriteyoumustlive · 14/06/2023 16:52

Ug my previous neighbour did this. He stood outside his kitchen back door smoking, which was opposite our kitchen back door (fence in between) but the smell would waft into our house. We had the door open as we had a dog.

I got fed up of the smell so just had a word with him and asked him to smoke down the end of his garden. He was fine with that.

Could you either have a word with him or ask his parents to speak to him?

Avondale89 · 14/06/2023 16:29

I hate the smell of weed. We have a neighbour who's fond of it and it stinks out our garden, but there's not much you can do. It's what comes with living close to others. Same as kids screaming constantly/dogs barking incessantly etc.

neslop · 13/06/2023 23:34

We also get this drifting over from the garden next door - and one of the occupants is a police officer!
I hate the smell, much worse than tobacco IMO.

LimitIsUp · 13/06/2023 23:32

@EasyPeelersAreNotSatsumas - it's meant to be inhaled with a vaporiser or given as drops, but I imagine that some people will choose to smoke theirs

Isittimeformynapyet · 13/06/2023 23:31

dancinginthesky · 13/06/2023 21:37

Sorry was I too literal for you?

a lot have.

I think you weren't literal enough.

Frania · 13/06/2023 23:26

To all the posters saying there are far worse things in the world… yes I am aware, however I still don’t like the smell of weed

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Frania · 13/06/2023 23:25

@Maddy70 bit presumptuous of you

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JassyRadlett · 13/06/2023 23:24

TheLizardQueen · 13/06/2023 22:29

Oh ffs it’s just a bit weed, there are far worse things in the world

100%. The illegal drugs trade is famously nothing but cuddles and kittens.

EasyPeelersAreNotSatsumas · 13/06/2023 23:18

LimitIsUp · 13/06/2023 22:39

He might be legally prescribed cannabis - my dd is. In which case it's not illegal

I didn't realise that medical cannabis is given to smoke in a spliff.

VyeBrator · 13/06/2023 22:51

Redebs · 13/06/2023 22:36

My daughter's neighbour smokes weed in the tiny garden right next to where my grandson plays. It's not good for kids. It affects mental health and development. Probably not much gets into his bloodstream, but it makes our hair smell for ages after.

In the open air I don't imagine any of it gets into his bloodstream.

Maddy70 · 13/06/2023 22:47

Jesus. ....

You will be annoying them with noise from your children. Live and let live

Onemyownhere · 13/06/2023 22:40

Everything we do/say can have an impact on our mental health

LimitIsUp · 13/06/2023 22:39

He might be legally prescribed cannabis - my dd is. In which case it's not illegal

Redebs · 13/06/2023 22:36

My daughter's neighbour smokes weed in the tiny garden right next to where my grandson plays. It's not good for kids. It affects mental health and development. Probably not much gets into his bloodstream, but it makes our hair smell for ages after.

Onemyownhere · 13/06/2023 22:35

TheLizardQueen · 13/06/2023 22:29

Oh ffs it’s just a bit weed, there are far worse things in the world

It's the smell and the fact that OP doesn't smoke and doesn't want to inhale any second hand smoke in her own house

Onemyownhere · 13/06/2023 22:34

Redebs · 13/06/2023 22:32

Smoking a joint is more harmful to your body than a cigarette

No it isn't, but I was on about the smell though, it's only because it is illegal here in UK

Redebs · 13/06/2023 22:32

Onemyownhere · 13/06/2023 21:52

Cigarettes are worse imo only difference is in the UK weed is illegal

Smoking a joint is more harmful to your body than a cigarette

TheLizardQueen · 13/06/2023 22:29

Oh ffs it’s just a bit weed, there are far worse things in the world

holaholiday · 13/06/2023 22:22

OP @Frania your local police force should have an online reporting option but you can also report it anonymously on the Crimestoppers number 0800 555 111.

Comedycook · 13/06/2023 22:22

Op...do you have DC? I'd be worried about them and their clothes (if you dry outside) smelling of weed and a teacher at school noticing.

Lucyccfc68 · 13/06/2023 22:18

SavageTomato · 13/06/2023 21:00

You're something else. You'd seriously grass him up for doing precisely nothing to you? Apart from a bit of a smell. Boo fucking hoo.

Seriously, don’t be a knob. Weed fucking stinks and is so chavvy and anti social.

Circethemagician · 13/06/2023 22:13

I hate the smell of weed when my neighbour smokes it. It lingers for ages. We’ve got an air purifier for the living room - but that doesn’t really help with the garden.

I am not sure what you can do but maybe try ‘I just wondered if your son would mind smoking a bit further down the garden as the smell does waft over a bit’

and yes I think we can easily guess the pot-heads on here 😂 they always descend on any thread criticising weed smoking….

Mydpisgrumpierthanyours · 13/06/2023 21:57

After living next door to coke heads the stoners are a dream neighbour. Only drama we get now is if the pizza delivery driver gets the wrong house

JassyRadlett · 13/06/2023 21:55

Onemyownhere · 13/06/2023 21:52

Cigarettes are worse imo only difference is in the UK weed is illegal

Yep and as such using it funds some pretty appalling things.

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