Cry it out method... do people still do this?

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gonewithtthewind · 12/06/2023 09:08

I'm NOT a cry it out parent, if whoever does it with their child wants to, that's fine... not my lane. But why when you don't use the Cry it out method do people have something to say?

I still contact nap, I love it and my baby will go down in her cot. I don't co-sleep.

When it gets the witching hour she can be difficult to put in her cot, but I just assumed that was to do with the witching.

I've posted about my MIL before. And she tells me to just leave her to cry and she will go to sleep, she says my SIL does it with her two children and it works so I should do the same! I feel like I'm doing everything wrong, it's so awful. I don't know if I'm just being unreasonable or what, I've cut contact for now but it's not my family so it can be tough.

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PrincessPalatine · 12/06/2023 09:20

When my first child was a month old, the health visitor told me that 'no baby ever died of crying'. That child is now a successful and deeply compassionate specialist nurse,

Miabella89 · 12/06/2023 09:20

I tried this method but it never worked for my son. I gave up after two weeks, I felt terrible when I heard him cry.

EsmeSusanOgg · 12/06/2023 09:20

It does not work for all babies and children. It is one of those annoying issues where people are determined to give you advice/ say what you are doing is wrong, despite the fact you know your child best.

DontBePassiveAggresive · 12/06/2023 09:20

I think crying out is horrible. But I did sleep train. They are different.

Papernotplastic · 12/06/2023 09:18

People have always had a range of approaches. I’m in my 40s and my mother never used cry it out. Don’t start doubting what you’re doing when it’s working for you and your baby.

orangie · 12/06/2023 09:17

I sometimes wish I could do some sort of sleep training because my 2 year old still wakes throughout the night wanting milk; she is breastfed.

I haven't had one nights 'full' sleep in the two years. I am drained. Just lucky I'm a sahm otherwise I'd be dead 😀 I think she wakes 2-3 hourly.

I am hanging on to the hope that one day she will sleep through and also won't be in our bed forever...

howsaboutit · 12/06/2023 09:14

I’ve never done any kind of sleep training and my now two year old goes to sleep in his bed by himself and sleeps through 7-7. He also settles himself for his naps.
We co-slept and did contact naps until he was ready to sleep alone. It can and does happen naturally and when they’re developmentally ready without “training” them and absolutely without doing cry-it-out.

towriteyoumustlive · 12/06/2023 09:11

I tried it with all three of mine.

I didn't just leave them to cry. I went back in every 5 mins to do verbal reassurance and tell them it was sleep time. The two boys were self settling within 6 days. My daughter however did not crack and it wasn't going to work.

Its definitely worth trying and saved my sanity.

My brother and his wife STILL have to sit with their kids who are now 7 and 9 until they fall asleep as they've never been taught to settle themselves. This can take anything up to 11pm each night so they don't get much time to themselves.

Each to their own.

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