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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 18:38

My husband gets hit on a lot! I can totally see why. He’s a cool dude. But he wears a really visible wedding ring and we’re very happily married. AIBU to think all is not fair in love and war? We live in different countries and he tells me about some of the madder incidences. Just this week a woman asked him if he was married and he said yes, so she asked if she could be his cleaner or gardener! AIBU to think it’s shabby of some women not to give AF that he’s someone’s husband just because I’m not by his side 24/7?

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TeaDrinkerAnonymous · 11/06/2023 19:56

Any man that makes a point of telling their wives/gf that mny other women are often hitting on them are usually doing so to get some sort of rise out of it. You say you're not the jealous type etc, and I'm not saying you are but here you are having a moan about it so it is obviously playing on your mind. You have to ask yourself why someone who loves you is saying stuff that may hurt you.

hattyhathat · 11/06/2023 19:56

Come on! This guy didn't ask to be put on the Internet like this. Play fair.

Cas112 · 11/06/2023 19:55

LifeIsPainHighness · 11/06/2023 19:46

Well beauty is in the eye of the beholder but I wouldn’t look once never mind twice

😂😂😂😂

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:55

@Eternallyoptimistic20 He’s taking them for me. One was him going for a drink with a friend last night. One was him leaving for work during the week. We don’t live in the same country. We work really hard at being connected….I send him photos all day too

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Mojitosaremyfavourite · 11/06/2023 19:54

Each to their own and as long as he makes you happy that is the main thing .

Not one to judge but he reminds me of one of the bee Jees.

Eternallyoptimistic20 · 11/06/2023 19:54

Who is he taking those selfie pictures for ? Seems odd a man of 65 doing this to be honest .

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:54

@Whatkindofuckeryisthis I 💯 know that he has zero reason to lie to me. He tells me about things like this in the same way he tells me what he’s having for dinner …

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gettingoldisshit · 11/06/2023 19:52

Some women have no shame 🤷‍♀️. My ex used to get hit on all the time by other women. He was good looking and very outgoing ( they didn't know he was a total narc and very very abusive), they would do it in front of me while acting like I wasn't even there!

Mistressofpemberly · 11/06/2023 19:52

TomatoSandwiches · 11/06/2023 18:51

We need a picture to judge.

😂😂

Whatkindofuckeryisthis · 11/06/2023 19:52

Yeah I think maybe he’s telling porky pies to make you feel really lucky to have him!!

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 11/06/2023 19:51

Yes. I do think he is lying to you. He does not get hit on all the time I can assure you of that.

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:50

@DannyLaRuesBestFrock Wow. So you think he’s lying to me? He knows I feel lucky to be married to him. He doesn’t need to do anything to add to that …

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Whataretalkingabout · 11/06/2023 19:49

You need a new bullshit detector OP. I wouldn't believe a word he tells you.

Just what do you think he is he trying to accomplish by telling you such nonsense? Wise up.

pipermaru1 · 11/06/2023 19:49

He's lying.... he's not getting hit on daily cos he's not hot.

hattyhathat · 11/06/2023 19:48

Pics 😂 he won’t actually care! He’s all other the internet because of our business. that's not really how consent works

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 11/06/2023 19:48

I think it's bollocks to be honest.

He's telling you these fibs as he wants you to think you're a lucky duck to be with such a handsome man as himself.

He looks like he fancies himself far more than any imaginary woman could 🤣

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:48

@LifeIsPainHighness it certainly is 😊

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LifeIsPainHighness · 11/06/2023 19:46

Well beauty is in the eye of the beholder but I wouldn’t look once never mind twice

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:45

@IWasFunBeforeMum cool name btw 😂 it doesn’t feel weird that he’s telling me at all. It feels like everything else we tell each other about our days. I have no issue with him at all…my question was absolutely why do some women feel okay about hitting on a married man?

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TheSnowyOwl · 11/06/2023 19:43

I think that seems surprisingly persistent of some women.

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:43

@hattyhathat 😂 that’s a really good question but he’s not telling me for that reason. We’re both cool with our living arrangements. We’ll spend the summer together and we see each other a lot. Video call every day/night. We’re super connected. We literally tell each other everything.

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hattyhathat · 11/06/2023 19:40

Are you sure they aren't asking if they can work for him coz they think he won't try and hit on them?

Why is he telling you this? Is it all lies to make you move in with him?

IWasFunBeforeMum · 11/06/2023 19:39

Hmm weird he's telling you... Double bluff perhaps when you don't live in the same country.

MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:38

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