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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 18:38

My husband gets hit on a lot! I can totally see why. He’s a cool dude. But he wears a really visible wedding ring and we’re very happily married. AIBU to think all is not fair in love and war? We live in different countries and he tells me about some of the madder incidences. Just this week a woman asked him if he was married and he said yes, so she asked if she could be his cleaner or gardener! AIBU to think it’s shabby of some women not to give AF that he’s someone’s husband just because I’m not by his side 24/7?

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Maireas · 12/06/2023 20:28

I think I know him - is he a carpet fitter in a certain town in North Yorkshire? He said he was retiring?
I didn't hit on him. Nein Danke.

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MrsPetty · 12/06/2023 11:49

@jc12689 I didn’t at any point say it was on a ‘daily basis’.

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MrsPetty · 12/06/2023 09:30

Thanks for the comments. To be clear. My DH is not lying, he’s not deluded, I’m not in need of a reality check. I never said he was God’s gift, he doesn’t need to make me jealous, he is a decent, honest person. @Outofthepark living in different countries may be ‘weird’ for you but as I already said we’re very happily married - probably much more so than a lot of people who live under the same roof 24/7. This wasn’t an ‘am I being unreasonable to think my husband is a game playing, liar?’ This was a ‘am I being unreasonable to think it’s shabby for women to hit on a man who they KNOW is married’?

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Fairyliz · 12/06/2023 07:17

Unless he is George Clooney he is lying to you, either that or he is incredibly old fashioned and believes if a woman talks to him she is hitting on him.
If he is 65 but you have children you can’t leave I am assuming you are a lot younger? I think he is worried you might stray in his absence.

Thepeopleversuswork · 12/06/2023 07:16

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 11/06/2023 19:48

I think it's bollocks to be honest.

He's telling you these fibs as he wants you to think you're a lucky duck to be with such a handsome man as himself.

He looks like he fancies himself far more than any imaginary woman could 🤣

Agree with this. You have to ask yourself why he wants you to know this.

Outofthepark · 12/06/2023 07:13

MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:50

@DannyLaRuesBestFrock Wow. So you think he’s lying to me? He knows I feel lucky to be married to him. He doesn’t need to do anything to add to that …

Sounds like game playing to me which is weird at 65. I wouldn't tell my husband stuff like that if we were living in different countries. Living in different countries is a weird idea in itself when you are married. I bet you know that deep down too, else you wouldn't have started a thread about it!

shellcool · 12/06/2023 07:10

Are these women being paid by him?

jc12689 · 12/06/2023 06:37

How old are all these woman that are hitting on him on a daily basis?

BodegaSushi · 11/06/2023 20:09

I'm not judging the photos (while they're still up) because that's horrible.

Maybe he's a chatty friendly person and that makes people drawn to him, and maybe he flirts a bit too so they flirt back?

How often is he out and about to be in those situations anyway?

Growlybear83 · 11/06/2023 20:09

MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 19:55

@Eternallyoptimistic20 He’s taking them for me. One was him going for a drink with a friend last night. One was him leaving for work during the week. We don’t live in the same country. We work really hard at being connected….I send him photos all day too

Why on earth would you send each other photos all day? Do you have memory problems ?

Unicorn2022 · 11/06/2023 20:09

People on this thread are so rude. Everyone has their own tastes and if the OP finds him extremely attractive then other people will too, and it's very likely that a man living on his own with his own business in the UK will regularly get hit on. He looks good for 65.

NeverThatSerious · 11/06/2023 20:09

Also, and I am in no way commenting on how your husband looks as passing judgment feels very wrong, he’s lying about being hit on all the time unless he’s encouraging attention. No one gets hit on all the time and particularly not in outlandish and mentionable ways. What’s he up to, I wonder? My suspicion is that he wants to keep you on your toes, feeling very grateful to have made.

If this is even real.. of course.

ArcticBells · 11/06/2023 20:09

In his dreams Confused

Lemonpepper · 11/06/2023 20:08

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BodegaSushi · 11/06/2023 20:06

Ah I can see the update Grin

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 11/06/2023 20:05

The women are not being inappropriate, because this is not happening OP. Sorry to burst your bubble, but your husband is not getting hot on regularly.

What you need to figure out it what he is telling you this for.

BodegaSushi · 11/06/2023 20:05

TomatoSandwiches · 11/06/2023 18:51

We need a picture to judge.

Agreed 😂

Keen to see the 'Mumsnet Irresistible Husband' that many go on about

NeverThatSerious · 11/06/2023 20:04

How utterly bizarre to post his photos on a public forum. Unless you checked first, that’s very inappropriate.

FrostyFifi · 11/06/2023 20:03

I don't think he's getting hit on judging my those pictures OP.

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MrsPetty · 11/06/2023 20:02

@gettingoldisshit This! Thank you. This is not my DH lying to me. He has absolutely no reason to. And just because commenters wouldn’t look at him twice, I know he is NOT making up stories to somehow make me feel lucky to have him. I’m sorry your ex was a narc 😕 I had one of them. This DH is genuinely decent … I just find some women’s behaviour really inappropriate.

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Caramelandsalt · 11/06/2023 20:01

I have reported this thread . If a man had posted pictures of his wife without consent there would be a pile on . This is not ok op .

evrey · 11/06/2023 20:00

Eternallyoptimistic20 · 11/06/2023 19:54

Who is he taking those selfie pictures for ? Seems odd a man of 65 doing this to be honest .

Why wouldnt he take selfies to send to his wife especially if they are in a long distance relationship?

Eternallyoptimistic20 · 11/06/2023 20:00

I feel sorry for him to be honest , I would hate my photo being judged on the internet . I am sure he wouldn’t be cool with your post !

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Ah yeh. I took the bait.

Poor form, op

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 11/06/2023 19:57

Lol he definitely isn't being hit on. He's trying to make you jelly

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