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Fatty McFat Face - help

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Usertumster · 10/06/2023 11:23

AIBU to think I can turn my weight around?

I’m 5’3 and 18 stones. I know.

I have two pairs of jeans that I wear on rotation. Both now have “chub rub” holes at the top. I have 3 long sleeved tops that I wear on rotation.

I'm pretty much a size 20/22.

I’ve lost weight and put weight back on. Before children I was a trim size 10. I weigh so much more now than I did when 40 weeks pregnant!

Today is the first day when I’ve felt overwhelmed with the heat.

People say “gosh, aren’t you hot in jeans!” “Put some shorts on!” etc etc etc. 99% of the time they mean well but it’s SO depressing - I don’t have shorts and they would look so awful that I wouldn’t wear them. Ditto skirts (they really looks bad) but also the chub rub would mean I couldn’t walk for more than a few minutes without a lot of pain.

Im so over it all. And yet apparently not enough to lose weight.

So yeah. Help? And if you have a fat friend in jeans, don’t ask why they’re not in shorts. Please.

I have done Fast 800 before which worked. It’s just sticking to it that’s tough. I don’t have a partner and no one to cook for me. DC too young to cook and obvs I need to cook normal meals for them (they’re healthy weight and sporty).

Im better if I’m on a plan that I know what I’m having every day. Fast 800 ended up with me eating a mainly vegan diet and I felt amazing. Why do I go back to cake….

Thanks for reading this far.

Practical stories of help/people who have lost this amount of weight are welcome. So are tips for dressing a short fat mummy in the summer. Links would help too!

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RoonilWazlib21 · 10/06/2023 11:33

Snag tights chub rub shorts - game changer.

Mumof1andacat · 10/06/2023 11:33

I'm short and fat! I'm 5ft and about 14 stone. I'm using nutra check to track my calories so hopefully next summer it will be different. Until then I'm wearing wide (ish) leg linen type trousers some solid colours or patterns (matalan have lots) and tshirt style tops (peacocks is good for that) nice sandles/flip flops with jewellery and a nice cross body bag. I generally dress like this when slimmer too. I was a size 12 for many years.My legs only come out on very special occasions!

JudgeRudy · 10/06/2023 11:32

Speak with your GP about Ozempic.

Whaleandsnail6 · 10/06/2023 11:29

How about some dresses with shorts under? You could get some floaty dresses in any length you are comfortable with and I saw a company advertising on Facebook (although google would also help) for shorts to wear under dresses to prevent the rubbing.

AtlasPine · 10/06/2023 11:29

It’s such an ongoing struggle which so many of us fight. And so much more complex than eat less move more, the dictum which left us feeling crap about our lovely selves.

I know you don’t want to hear this but get onto Vinted and find some light summer clothes you’ll feel ok in - soft linen or cotton trousers and loose cotton shirts. Be comfortable as a priority and don’t go down the self disparaging route.

something2say · 10/06/2023 11:28

Ah bless you.

I'd try fasting, in your position. Simply dont eat ANYTHING for windows of time.

And also, harness the wild horses of your mind. Know that you are in control. While you are in the act of sabotaging yourself, acknowledge that you're in control.

You can have it if you want it. That's a fact.

LuvSmallDogs · 10/06/2023 11:28

Having children in itself doesn't make you long term overweight. If I were you, I'd try to think back to what your lifestyle was like as a size 10 vs now. Something has to have changed quite drastically when it comes to diet and activity levels.

Iwantmyoldnameback · 10/06/2023 11:27

I think if you can wear jeans you can wear knee length shorts.

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