Fatty McFat Face - help

Get some of those loose fitting cotton jumpsuits from amazon, and some long floaty dresses and some chub rub/cycling shorts underneath

Noom, my fitness pal, any calorie counting style diet will be best for maintaining weight loss

Honestly I was like you but there ARE clothes out there now that fit. I'd check out YouTube for inspiration. I don't know her and am not promoting her but check out "I'm just me Marleen" on YouTube. She has saved me. I have dresses nowI have all sorts . Your best friend is chub rub shorts. They have changed my life and I'm not joking lol. U can wear them under dresses and be comfy all day long. Layers are your friend. Shein has been my savior. Take your measurements and order some dresses off shein. Don't worry what size they are. Get some chib rub shorts on Amazon or even primark. I wear a light shirt over a dress if I'm conscious of my arms. It doesn't need to close wear it like a jacket. Check out Marleen though she honestly changed my life and my wardrobe ha ha.

dd, not dad. Christ.

Ps, laddered tights cut into cycling shorts, are great under dresses. My dad wears them to school. Feels better than just underwear.

Fast 800 is great for2 weeks to give you a kick start and to get you used to being conscious of your calories and weighing/measuring food. I have never found it sustainable long term because I start feeling deprived and then I fall of the wagon.

Do a TDEE calculator online, that will tell you how many calories your body needs to exist, take 500 off that and use it as your daily allowance. Mine is 1700 a day and I'm losing about 2lbs a week eating that.

Increase your activity by doing brisk walks or vigorous gardening or whatever gets you moving and raises your heart rate about 3 times a week for 30 mins.

Reduce carbs because they decimate your calorie allowance and don't leave you feeling full. Eating protein and fat will fill you up more and be lower calorie.

Keep low calorie, easy to grab foods in the kitchen. Boiled eggs ready to go in the fridge, beef jerky, portion of homemade bolognaise (5% fat pork mince, loads of mushrooms, carrots, tomatoes or whatever other veg to bulk it out) in the freezer. That way you won't default to a bag of crisps or chocolate bar for convenience.

Snag tights shorts. Get that, and some clothes you’re comfortable in, then you might feel like moving around more. Jeans are so uncomfortable.

maybe just be nice to yourself and think practically- get come tracksuit bottoms and go for a walk. Primark do thin ones for summer.

I agree you need to be kinder to yourself, not make jokes at your own expense and allow yourself some nice clothes that are comfortable and fit well. It's going to be easier to make some lifestyle changes if you are not feeling unhappy. Not saying you have to be super happy all the time, but not having too many things that get you down. Being nicer to yourself and making some changes to improve your situation not just try to improve yourself. Are you getting some time to relax and do some fun and interesting things you enjoy? As a mum sometimes all your time and energy is given to others and you end up exhausted and eating some high energy snack you can just grab. Or it could be that you are stuck at home with the kids feeling a bit lonely and comfort eating. It's going to be a lot easier to form good habits if you first find some ways to make life a bit nicer for yourself.

Slimpod and chub rub shorts from https://www.thebigbloomerscompany.co.uk/ or snag is what you need. Then you can frock your way through summer.

I also recommend intermittent fasting. Look it up and try a window that suits your daily routine the most.

Combine that with the diet you were eating when you felt great.

Buy your self a portion of cake at the end of each week if you think you can have that in moderation. If you feel you cant just have a small amount, dont allow yourself to buy it at all.

Good luck op. You're in control of this, you can do it.

Agree with PP. I wear cycle shorts under dresses. I prefer maxi as they seem to make me look slimmer, but wear them under knee length dresses too. I think this is pretty mainstream.

I also wear knee length denim or canvas shorts and capri trousers. Lots of wide leg linen trousers about.

Not sure about dieting. I am doing 16/8 IF at the moment as I am a bit tight in some of my size 14 clothes and don’t want to shell out for a bigger wardrobe!

A PP mentioned Ozempic. It might be worth thinking about that? Good luck!

Now is the time to do something about it. Buy clothes that fit now, even if it's just a couple of dresses and anti rub shorts.
You need to change your mindset, I became lazy and complacent and put on weight. Do changes by lifestyle, more walking, more fruit and veg ( less biscuits) but the biggest Change had to be mindset.
Slimming world etc everyone seems to put back on more than they lose. Healthy food options planned in advance, and except use even when you don't fell like it. Also try the miracle morning as I've found that helped too. And most of all Don't put yourself down.

I agree, be nice about yourself! Sort your clothes out and maybe you'll be in a better headspace to work on your diet later.

Fasting and slimming world at the same Time will really help you

I think before you tackle diet you should be kinder to yourself. “Fatty mc fat face” and “short fat mummy” aren't going to make you feel good or motivated. You wouldn’t say those those things to a friend so don't say them about yourself.

Diets I’m not much help with so I’ll leave that to someone else.

As for summer clothing, can you wear midi or maxi dresses with cycling shorts underneath? Snag do them in all sizes and colours. They seem to be fairly mainstream now and I have friends from size 10 who wear them. M&S also do them that also include light tummy control. How about leggings with tunic dresses. Or knee length denim shorts.

The easiest thing is to not overwhelm yourself and just have one meal a day and that's it be it mcdonalds or be it chicken and salad, so fast most of the day just drink sugar free pop, water, bovril, black tea or coffee or if you really must a bit of skimmed milk and wait until your meal, initially you will eat like 2000 calories in a meal but after a while your stomach will shrink. You can give your kids lunch and breakfast as normal and have dinner with the family, you could sit at breakfast with a hot drink and at lunch with a cold drink.

You need to get new clothes in natural fabrics. get 4 outfits and wear them on rotation.

I'm also 5ft 3. I'm currently about 14 and a half stones. Mostly size 16 but sometimes 18. Really struggle to lose more than a few lb!

I feel most comfortable in dresses with a pair of cycling shorts underneath to stop the chub rub- might be worth a try? Try a few styles and see what you like best? There's nothing worse than being uncomfortable in this heat!

I hope it's allowed, but someone like Emily Innes can really help you with style and confidence, check her instagram account. She is just as helpful with slim and trim ladies as she is with the more curvy (cough cough) middle aged mums or their mothers

https://www.stylemehappy.co.uk/about-me

Linen loose trousers , marks and Spencers. Cotton t shirts and sandals.

Slimming World works for me, I do it on line. I've lost 3 stone but I'm still hot today because it IS hot!

Ok. So, seconding Snag Tights shorts. Also men's roll-on deodorant between your thighs.

Long term - the hard part is to accept that food will have to be fuel rather than what you've come to think of as "a treat" for a long time. Months. It took me 6 months to lose a stone last year by just eating healthily.

I recommend some sort of plan (like Slim Fast with plenty of veg) to wean yourself off the cake for 3/4 weeks and hopefully make your appetite abate. No longer though.

You can find loads on vinted. I don't know your exact shape or colouring, or your style, but there's plenty of dresses that would keep you at least comfortable, not revealing, and hiding the rub shorts.

https://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/limited-collection-curve-black-floral-print-midaxi-smock-dress-p

https://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/sqaure-neck-print-maxi-p

Holy hell don't do this! Buy some chub rub pants and wear what you want, a dress, skirt, shorter shorts but deffo not knee length. It's not flattering for a short frame. People can guess what your body looks like anyway so no point trying to hide it!

In terms of clothing, you can wear cycling shorts or Snag 'chub rub' shorts under a skirt or dress

In terms of your weight it seems like you know what works and what doesn't so the block is within your own brain / mind. I wonder if something like hypnotherapy might help?
Please be kind to yourself and your body which has grown and birthed children - pretty amazing! Talk kindly to yourself like you would to a friend.

Best of luck x

I'm a size 20 and 5,4. I have lots of dresses and cub rub shorts. No way on earth I'm not dressing nicely or feeling boiling just because I'm fat.

100% intermittent fasting.
I have listened on audible to Gin Stephens book - Delay, don't Deny and it has changed my life. I started the day I listened to it, had no weird foods to buy, I just eat what I want in a window of time. I listen to her podcast too and it keeps me inspired and motivated.

Good luck xx

Buy some rub shorts or cycling shorts
then start wearing dresses. Midi/ maxi floaty are more comfortable than shorts in the heat. Your body won't look any different or fatter to onlookers than in a pair of jeans, I promise!

https://snagtights.com/collections/chub-rub-shorts

You need a lot of changes in your life, but being comfortable would be a first and easy quick step to start with. Losing weight consistently TAKES TIME. It's the first and hard lesson. Whatever you do, you need to start feeling good right now.

If you can afford it...highly recommend a stylist to guide you to make the most of your body NOW, it can be done online and it's cheaper than a face-to-face appointment.

Buy the dress, wear the damn shorts NOW and start planning your health journey of course.