Fatty McFat Face - help

Eat less. Move more. It really is that simple.

I say that as someone who struggles with weight.

Haven’t RTFT, sorry. I think if you change your diet instead of just dieting to lose weight it will help. One of my relatives has never gained weight. She’s mid-forties and has always eaten lots of vegetables, chicken, beef, fish and salad. No processed food and not much carbs. Her sons, 3, are the same.

I’m trying to change my diet but after growing up eating lots of bread and potatoes because that filling it’s not easy.

I've been in your position before. Feb last year I was 20st 12lbs size 24/26 and now I'm 11st 11lbs and a Size 14/16. I did it by following Slimming World as I found dieting the 'traditional' way didn't work for me. Hope that helps

Treat yourself to some cheap cotton cycle shorts or chub rub shorts from the big bloomer co- they’re amazing, I’ve worn mine 9 months pregnant and every size between a 16 and 10, they truly are a one size fit.
Next do fairly good value cotton midi/maxi dresses in petite- buy a few, some comfy leather sandals and start being nicer to yourself. None of us are perfect, we all have our vices and foibles. Find an exercise class you like- mini trampolining, box, spin, step, or challenge yourself to couch to 5k.
You can do it- you’ve got it in you. Just don’t go mad and change everything all at once- keep a bit of what you love within a diet that overall creates a calorie deficit. Good luck!

Second, third, forth cycling shorts under some cheap dresses - Shein are your friend here! You don’t want to spend a lot while you lose weight but they 100% fill a void and you will feel SO much better.

I’m 5”5 and was nearly 15st 12lb at my heaviest in Jan. I’m now 13st 6lb and this is how I’ve done it. Most of the weight has come off since April as I did an intensive 7 day bootcamp. I know this may not be possible but if you want details PM me!

• Intermittent fasting - 16/8 mostly but less if I can
• Calorie counting on MFP
• Running, appreciate may be hard at first but you can take your DC on their bike/scooter and go for a walk/run. Couch to 5k could be a real winner for you!
• 10000+ steps per day, every day.
• I also go to gym classes 3-4 times a week but appreciate this may be difficult

You really have to change your mindset, you go to bed hating yourself, telling yourself you will change then wake up in the morning and as soon as you get hungry, you mess it up. Trust me, I’ve been there. But once you stop the cycle you can get off.

You can also try weight loss jabs / tablets but tbh they didn’t change my mindset so didn’t work for me. I also tried weight loss hypnosis but that didn’t work. The bootcamp and sharp increase in exercise / lower calories helped, I NEEDED a shock to the system.

Also, follow team RH on tik tok - they are great! You could try joining (I did for a year but wasn’t in the right mindset)

Even if you intend to lose weight I would still start by getting some clothes that fit and suit you now, that'll really help your confidence as well as being much more comfortable for summer.

My friend is a similar size and has a lovely summer wardrobe, she wears colourful floaty cotton dresses with Snag chub rub shorts under. She gets a lot from Joe Browns. There's a good Facebook group for preloved Joe Browns and plenty comes up on Vinted too.

https://www.simplybe.co.uk/shop/c/joe-browns/f/Categories--Dresses/Sizes--22

Laura Adlington from GBBakeOff has an inspiring Instagram account with plus size clothing choices.

Chub rub shorts (from Snag) or legging type shorts are essential under summer dresses to prevent painful thighs and will transform your comfort.

I'd wear knee length shorts or leggings.

Cold shoulder t-shirts/tops/dresses are great to keep you cool whilst covering flabby bingo wings.

One life, one body just put those shorts on! I’ve got the same stats as you and I just get on with it. Seriously people will get over it! Or try some mid calf skirt with snag chub rub shorts. I also like wearing shapeless stretchy cotton dresses like you see older women in southern Europe wear. My figure is much the same as theirs 😂

Be nicer to yourself. Calling yourself names isn't right. You deserve to feel good about yourself at any size and trying to give your self esteem a little boost will make you feel good and probably more motivated to make lifestyle changes than when you feel shite.

Get some cheap ish summer dressers. Get some cycle shorts. Matalan do some that are amazing and don't dig in or create rolls, and your thighs just stay cool and slide straight past each other. No friction whatsoever 😂 even when I am a size 10 my thighs rub together so I've always worn them. I'm currently a size 16 /18 after having a baby (and I'm pregnant again) and I have struggled with my New body and not feeling confident but I tell myself I deserve to enjoy life, enjoy each day and enjoy the summer NOW , not when I'm a size 10 again (that day may never come so am I just gonna spend the rest of my life miserable?)

Ditch the jeans and long sleeve tops in this heat and get some nice summery floaty dresses. Jeans and long sleeve don't make you, or me, look thinner. People can still see you are fat whatever you wear. so you're either fat in a pretty weather appropriate dress, or you're fat in an outfit that makes you stand out even more in a crowd of people all wearing summer clothes. There's nothing wrong with fat bodies. Plz don't be ashamed. You deserve to have skin out just as much as a slim person.

First things first, get yourself out to the shops and buy yourself some lovely clothes! Your self esteem sounds at rock bottom and until you start treating yourself with love and kindness no diet or eating plan is ever going to work.

I think when you get to that weight it's hard to break the cycle especially with young children and no help. I was a similar weight with three young children. I got weightloss surgery, lost all the weight and got it reversed. I'm now able to maintain a healthy weight because my addiction to food is gone.

Just because you’re fat doesn’t mean you have to torture yourself in uncomfortable worn out clothes. Buy a dress. A maxi dress if you feel uncomfortable. Buy some new jeans and a linen shirt. You deserve to look nice.

I'm 5'3" and a size 22/24. I'm glad you've ordered some chin rub shorts. They're a game changer. I've got a few dresses from New Look. They do a decent 'Curve' range and aren't expensive. There's no way I could wear shorts either with my short fat legs

I'm older than you and slightly bigger at a 22/24. I'm also short. I tend to wear shirt dresses or tea dresses which all come to just above ankle length on me at 5'2".

I feel comfortable and look good in them. I don't wear anything knee length or above because I don't feel comfortable and I'm certainly not wearing jeans this weather.

Like you I need to lose weight, but right now I'm not in the place mentally....and that is the most important thing for starting the huge change in lifestyle that this will mean. Im also in chronic pain with an injury and even moving at the moment is difficult.

OP whether or not you lose weight is immaterial really. Right now you have a body to clothe and it is a fab body because it keeps you alive every day. Enjoy it and enjoy trying out new clothes that you like...not what hides you. To be brutally honest, you are fat. Everyone looking at you can see you are fat. Wearing uncomfortable clothes is not going to hide the fat and life is too short to get hung up on what people see when they look at you...hint: they aren't really looking at you because they are too full of their own anxieties and hang ups to care what you look like.

If you wanna lose weight do it in a healthy, controlled way. Fad diets, restricting food and labeling food as good or bad is part of diet culture and is not helping. It's going to take long(er) but far more likely to be sustainable in the long run.

But in meantime try to change your outlook. So many of us (me included) were brought up in a society that is/was obsessed with the number on the scales or the size on our clothes label. I am obese and should lose weight for health reasons, but all the yo-yo dieting (I started with diets at the age of 14) has meant two things: a. My metabolism is shot and b. My motivation is non existent (kind of "what's the point, I've lsot it before and then put it all back on and then some" attitude). I've spent years hating my body, the way I look. I have stopped everyone from taking pictures of me or wore only black/jeans (even at weights I would kill to be at now). About a year ago I decided to change my attitude. I wear what I want and feel comfortable in. I found a couple of brands that clothes fit me and make me feel fabulous (Fatface, White Stuff, Popsy to name a few). I discovered Snag tights/chub rub shorts and never looked back. I replaced all my social media "influencers" with people who look like me and live happy, fullfilling lives. I follow a few accounts that show how to pose for pictures etc. But mostly I follow the advice of "confidence doesn't come in a day, start living your life and taking the pictures and it will come gradually" and this is exactly what I did on holiday a few weeks ago. I allowed my boyfriend to take pictures. I looked at them with kind eyes and rather than focus on the triple chin or the blemishes/wrinkles whatever I focused on my happy smile, my tan, the way the dress accentuated my curves etc. Am I 100% there? Absolutely no. Do I still need to lose weight? Absolutely yes. Do I still look myself in the mirror and wanna cry and say hurtful, horrible things to myself? F' no! And that is half the battle!

Big hugs from a fellow big girl!

Chafing shorts under skirts/dresses.

Oh love, you need to be nicer to yourself.

I’m short and fat, I wear dresses, I look bloody awesome.

No one can see the size label in your clothes. They won’t be any more surprised by your weight in a dress than they would be if you’re wearing jeans and a tshirt.

In fact, if you think jeans and a tshirt makes you blend in…it has the opposite effect when everyone else is in a cool dress or shorts in hot weather.

On the losing weight, a pp had some fab advice - if you’ve been a size 10 then think about how you behaved when you were that size, what did you eat, what exercise did you do?

Can't you wear a long loose skirt?, the long/looseness of it will hide what you want hiding while still looking flattering and stylish, and also it will be much cooler for you that jeans..

I’ve started fasting but used to get terrible headaches so I’ve tried reversing the times. I now eat in a 6-8 hour morning-mid afternoon window. So in reality missing an evening meal plus all the snacks I used to do then.

It’s only been a week or so but I feel great. Stomach fat is going down and I feel energised. The horrible acid indigestion I had at night has gone. I’m starting to crave less crap.

Maybe give that a whirl? I really hate dieting but this one doesn’t feel like deprivation. Also I’ve been depressed for a couple of years and now seeing a bit of light which helps with the motivation. Maybe look at what is driving the habits.

Hi!
the loose boho ,wide leg trousers are brilliant,buy some ankle length ones or mid calf if you are worried they will be too long,and in cotton or linen.you'll look cool and collected and fashionable,pair with a loose shirt ,but of jewellery and you're ready to wow....or just go out and not melt.good luck.🌻

I would never comment on what someone is wearing.

However, I am size 24, I am wearing shorts today. I also wear anti chub rub knickers (with legs) from snag and big bloomer company so I can also wear lovely dresses which are very cooling. If you go to a site that caters for bigger sizes anything is possible!

I'm short and fat, I wear dresses from George at Asda with chub rub shorts. I'm aware they're not exactly flattering but being hot with a bright red face is an even worse look on me.

These ones are lovely and cool.

https://direct.asda.com/george/women/dresses/black-t-shirt-mini-dress/G007525689,default,pd.html

https://direct.asda.com/george/women/dresses/khaki-basic-midi-t-shirt-dress/G007525629,default,pd.html?shareProduct=true

I'm 5ft 1, the black one comes to below my knee and the khaki to my ankle

I'm size 20, got the XL and find it generous for both

Haven't rtft but I was a similar weight and height last year and I did slimming world and lost 3st in about 4 months. I am still obviously overweight but feel so much better - would have kept going but I am now pregnant so just trying to maintain as much as I can until baby comes, then I'd like to get back on it. I know SW has mixed reviews but it really worked for me and I was rarely hungry. Good luck!

I also wear the snag chub rub shorts.
I lost weight in 2018, put it all back on over lockdowns . Just started to lose it again for health reasons. I tend to lose a pound a week using my fitbit and my fitness pal. We can do this !