To not work during 8 weeks off?

Hope she enjoys her time off and grabs the opportunity while she can. Good luck to her.

She will be a long time working. Let her have a break.

Good for her. As long as she can make it work financially somehow / her boyfriend pays a bit more during those 8 weeks then it's no-one else's business.

I took 3 months off between jobs in 2019. Next time I'm changing job one of my priorities would be to negotiate a delayed starting date so I can do the same again.

Lucky her, getting to have a lovely relaxed summer with a good job lined up afterwards. She deserves the rest, the time to do home projects, and is probably unlikely to have 8 consecutive weeks off again for a very long time.
Some people don't understand life balance; the grandparents sound like that. She can just tell them that yes she does actually have a job, it starts on x date and in the meantime she's focusing on the domestic. 8 weeks isn't even a very long time to be supported both by a partner and a parent. Again, lucky her!

Agreed. And I fear they may also be the GPs who then make her life more difficult by telling her off for working ‘unpaid overtime’. Some of my peers lost the plot with their families over that, others (DH) simply lied about their hours to get relatives off their backs.

I think the grandparents need a reality check. Your daughter will have some long slog ahead of her with exhaustive hours. These are different times and a serious career will be draining. This is not 9 to 5 territory. I'd be having serious words with them to back off and not spoil this for her.

She's 'completely broke', she's skint, poor, penniless, potless. Hence the following mention of her boyfriend supporting her for the 8 weeks. And I daresay mentioning it to her mum doesn't mean she stops people in the street to tell them.

And absolutely, she should enjoy the break

She shouldn't need to pay any NI: if she's starting a well paid job in 8 weeks, she should manage to pay the minimum contribution within the 7-8 months remaining of the tax year, because the amount of NI is a function of salary. And if by any chance, she doesn't, she can always top it up retrospectively.

I started work in October after I'd graduated (and only having worked 6 weeks in the summer in a low paid hospitality job) and my insurance record for that year is complete

Tell her to enjoy the break!
I’d love 8 weeks off!

but either sign on or pay the voluntary NI contribution.

She has a job coming up. If she didn’t then it would be different.

If she gets bored etc she could always volunteer instead during those 8 weeks.

Sounds like she needs to take the break. One thing you cannot get back is time….

This is exactly what someone I know told her in laws after their DD was being harassed like this - same situation, job in place. She and DH had explained the situation politely but GPS kept going - until my friend lost it with them.

Definitely take the time off before starting a job like that! Our graduates seem to be starting work earlier and earlier every year. We had one start last Monday, literally straight out of the finals exam hall and into corporate life, i appreciate money might be a struggle but I don’t think that’s healthy without a break.

Depressing how many “this is the last chance she’ll have” comments there are. Perhaps
I’m quite lazy but I’ve given myself plenty of chunky sabbaticals over the years.

She should stop updating the grandparents on her plans. Let them twist.

Completely agree with you, sounds like a very well deserved break which will do her good

Jesus Christ she's got the opportunity to have some mental downtime that the majority of us would absolutely jump at, of course yanbu!

For what it's worth, if I recruited someone today they would not start work for at LEAST 4 weeks due to rtw checks etc, her looking for a job is absolutely a massive waste of her time imo.

Tell your parents to mind their own business and leave her alone.

Absolutely not a problem- well done her! And sounds like she had a very supportive partner too. My DH has a super stressful and high pressures job, he really regrets not taking a week or two before starting as 6 years in and he's still to take a week off without working at home!

The few weeks I had between qualifying as a Midwife and then starting work (about 6 weeks) was amazing. I already had a couple of part time jobs which I kept for a while so had to work at them, but the mental break of not needing to be anywhere or to work was such a relief for a while

She needs the break.

Either: A - you tell the grandparents to STFU and mind their own business, or B - tell them she's got a little job in the supermarket down the road to tide her over.

I agree with those who think the OP means her daughter is broken mentally, and I agree with this as I am the same having just finished an intense undergraduate course that required placement for 8 months of the last 12. I did this alongside having a tiny baby and a terminally ill sibling. I have a job lined up and am just waiting for my checks to be done. Damn straight I’ve done nothing but look after my child for the past few weeks since I handed in my last assignment. If I didn’t have a child, I would have literally slept for a month and then had a wee holiday to myself before starting my job.

Jobs aren’t as easy to come by as they used to be and lots of organisations require extensive checks before they’ll start you. I started this process in April and I’m still waiting on multiple things to be done before I can actually start. My friend is applying for a job and they’re asking really intrusive questions about everything including past relationships and credit history.

I’m sure your daughter has worked extremely hard and gained a job relevant to her degree, why the hell should she bust a gut in (most likely) a min wage job just to fill the gap to appease her grandparents? I’d be telling them to butt out as well, their opinions are neither wanted nor required.

Congratulations to your daughter 🥳

I agree with every word of it ^

It may be one of the few times she has 'time out'. She should enjoy it, there is nothing wrong with taking a break, there will be a lifetime of the daily grind.

It really isn't any adult's business how another adult spends her time, unless the latter is expecting the former to support her, either personally or via taxes.

She is absolutely NBU, it sounds like she will be fine to do this financially and she will likely not get another chance.
I studied midwifery in my late twenties after having my kids and took 6 weeks off between the course ending and starting my job. My husband supported me to do so having seen how hard I'd worked during the degree. Most of my course-mates did the same, there was only a very small minority of people who started working as a maternity assistant until their PIN came through (about 2 weeks) and then straight into being a midwife. Some people didn't start working until the next January, having finished the course in September. And good for them, they've caught up now.

I qualified in September 2019 so was extremely grateful to have had that time off once covid hit...!

She should enjoy her time off and tell her grandparents to F right off. The job will be super intense and no need to sign on now unless literally not enough money to eat.