Does My Best Friend Hate Me?

I would reduce/limit contact but it might be more helpful to be honest. She doesn't sound like a good person though

My best friend from childhood had a habit of making little digs repeatedly and when I eventually snapped would go all wide eyed and teary and I'd end up the bad guy. I eventually recognised what was happening and put some space between us. We were inseparable as children and very close into our thirties. We now meet once or twice a year usually due to mutual friends having events. Although we met last month at a hen weekend and she pulled the same shit. I ignored her and was prepared at that point to cut he off completely but she actually apologised and acknowledged what she did wrong which was a first.

Don't reply and see if you miss her or if you enjoy the break/peace
She sounds like the type to walk all over people and life's to short to put up with it. If you make friends and she has another outburst then simply say 'can't be arsed with this again' and skip off

I always think silence speaks volumes. I’d really distance myself for now if I was you. Then once you have had time to calm down and think about what you want to say, then ask to meet. It’s not on tbh. I’d be really annoyed.

She’s not a friend, let alone a best friend.
Real friends don’t make you feel bad about yourself or bully you. Life’s too short to put up with this stuff.

She sounds like an utter cunt. Dump and get nicer non toxic friends!

Sometimes people see too much of each other and turn into whiney old married couple... maybe take a break.

Your best friend isn’t my mother, is she? Basically you’ve just described my mother. I no longer have a relationship with my mother, out of necessity for my own emotional well-being. Maybe you need to consider doing similar with your friend, who doesn’t sound like any sort of friend at all BTW.

Oh my god, you could be me!

After a period of quietness between us where I was contemplating our friendship (she's not been an actual good friend to me, despite us being "best friends") she sent me a message asking if I was ok
I replied saying yes I'm fine, no falling out, but I felt we needed a little space from each other due to xyz but there were no hard feelings and maybe we just needed some quiet time.
She immediately sent me an enormously long message detailing all my many faults and turning everything I said about xyz into being my fault.
I just replied "okay". And blocked her.

She's still blocked now, 3 months later. We've seen each other a couple of times due to a mutual friend group. It's been politely conversational, but that's it.

Do I miss her? No. Therefore, did she actually add anything to my life? No. Do I regret the blocking? No.

How old are you out of interest? I think I may be getting too old to have the patience to deal with narcissistic "friends"

I had a friend like that.

She’s no longer a friend and my life is far far happier without her in it!

She's not your best friend. She's using you as an emotional punchbag when she feels angry and frustrated about other things. Find some new friends who treat you with kindness and respect.

This happened to me.
When friend was annoyed she would use me as her whipping boy.
The last time was shortly after my DM passed away.
I cut her out of my life. Don't have many friends but still feel better.

Yes this has happened to me twice. First my sister, it went on for years. I pulled back significantly for a few years which seems to have reset things, although sadly we are nowhere near as close anymore. Other time was a long term friend who I just phased out of my life as gently as possible.

Life is too short to be gaslit and abused. You deserve better OP.

Does she have a reason to be envious of you? Sometimes people behave like this when they are envious (they may not be even consciously aware of it) and find anything to attack you with to justify their secret envy.

She doesn't hate you but sounds like she now has a habit of using you as a outlet for her frustration and anger, which is not acceptable.

Is this person making your life better by being in it? I suspect not. Might be best to let this one wither on the vine.

That's not a friend. A REAL friend wouldn't speak to you like that.

She's your 'best friend'? I'd hate to meet your enemies. She sounds vile, either ghost her now or wait for the next time and tell her to fuck off then ghost her. I'd rather be completely friendless and alone if someone like that was my only choice of friend.

Why do you consider her a friend? She sounds horrible. Does her presence in your life add to it at all?

She's not really your friend if this is how she regularly treats you.

Gosh if that’s your best friend hate to see the rest .

I would also either ignore .

or explain no . I have had enough of your judgments of me . I think we should go out separate ways

or after the other night I have nothing left to say to you

Life’s too short op. Get rid.