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Schools responsibility to more able children

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Rainyrunway · 05/06/2023 13:06

I have twin DC aged 8. Both are working above the expected level across the board academically according to their teachers. What can I reasonably expect the school to do to accommodate this?
1 isn't too bothered, but the other absolutely hates school because they find it boring. Says the work is constantly repeated and they spend ages going over the same stuff.
This is absolutely not meant as a stealth brag, but I just want them to get back to enjoying school, without a fight for them to go in every day.
I always explain to DC that just because they find maths (for example) easy that doesn't mean everyone else does. In the same way as some kids are amazing at gymnastics while my DC can barely to a forward roll. They do understand this and don't show off as far as I can tell.
But I want them to enjoy school. I want to have a chat with the teacher but I don't want to be unreasonable, as I know she has a lot to deal with and kids with much bigger problems. So how can I address it? I know the school have additional work that can be done at home but this doesn't solve the issue really. It's while they're in the classroom that they're not being challenged at all.
I'm worried that not only are they not fulfilling their potential (either child) at least one is likely to completely switch off if the problem isn't addressed as they no longer enjoy going in at all. We have had school refusals and tummy aches and the like, and I think it's all related.

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Pidgythe2nd · 08/07/2023 06:06

In the schools I’m involved in all
of the focus (and money) is on closing the gap between the bottom 20%.
Apparently the greater depth pupils are catered for by the high quality teaching for all. My experience is that it depends a lot on the teacher. My children are not ‘exceptional’ but usually top 1 or 2 in the class but often have to go through simple maths concepts over and over so that everyone understands. It’s slow and they get fed up. But the good teachers then give appropriate challenge work and they do a couple of the easier questions to check they truly have understood.

Therr are numerous interventions, catch up sessions and tutoring sessions provided for lower ability. Nothing in school for higher ability. frustrating to say the least.

We do what we can at home but with working, various clubs etc, and often a refusal ag home, I’m sure they could achieve a lot more if pushed.

But, with limited resources, teachers already stretched and a what seems to be an increasing number of children with complex needs, I don’t blame the school. I don’t know what the answer is (except remove and educate privately which isn’t an option, or perhaps a new government!!)

ginandpimmsandcoffee · 27/06/2023 17:04
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IJustHadToLookHavingReadTheBook · 06/06/2023 14:29

My eldest finds this- she's also eight. I also was a bit like this at school, at least until I got to secondary and things got a bit more challenging and interesting. I encourage her to find joy where she can in what they do and to do her own reading about areas she finds interesting. All you can do really I think.

YSWIM · 06/06/2023 07:20

CurlewKate · 06/06/2023 06:11

@YSWIM "Why don't primary schools stream kids according to their levels, particularly in maths, but possible in English too?"

If you mean setting, then I think most schools do. If you mean streaming, then it's ineffective and divisive.

Sorry, I meant setting. In DC's primary they do maths together and take lowest performing kids out of assemblies to do catch up, so they get the most help. Unfortunately others all do the same stuff.

Oh yes and they do get to read books when finished with work, but that's a lot of reading in a day.

Redlocks28 · 06/06/2023 07:08

for bigger schools like 2 and 3 form entries you could easily split them into top, middle and bottom (obviously you wouldn't call them that)

I have been teaching long enough that I’ve worked in a school that did this. Believe me, no matter what you call the classes, the kids know. It had far-reaching consequences socially and was shocking for some pupils’ self esteem.

It was scrapped when people decided it was ever so important for teachers to have performance-related pay, as doing it by streamed classes was unfair and divisive. SMT talked about rotating it so that you had a different stream each year, but it would have affected people’s threshold applications too much. Nowadays, people just don’t stay in teaching long enough for a rotation to be workable.

CurlewKate · 06/06/2023 06:11

@YSWIM "Why don't primary schools stream kids according to their levels, particularly in maths, but possible in English too?"

If you mean setting, then I think most schools do. If you mean streaming, then it's ineffective and divisive.

Purplegherkins · 06/06/2023 06:07

YANBU and I think this is on the school. Can you ask to meet with the teacher/head? My nephew is in a small class in a state school but is very bright indeed - some of the work he gets is the same as his peers but he is often provided more challenging work on the side also. For example he is not required to do spelling any more and is instead set different challenges in that time that are geared towards him. Your kids’ school should be able to provide this too. There are some kids who require special attention due to learning difficulties, and others who require special attention due to particularly speedy progress.

Oblomov23 · 06/06/2023 06:05

What do an indie / grammar or academic school that pp's listed do differently? My ds1 was at a good local school with many many gifted children in the top sets. These type of children who get 99% in practically every maths exam they do, all the way through schooling. Many get all A's at GCSE, 3 A* Alevel's and the top Uni for their chosen subject.

Are you on the gifted threads? What else are they suggesting you do?

Oblomov23 · 06/06/2023 05:50

I seriously don't know what you are expecting. It's sad but it is the way Quino explains, focusing on repeat, mastery, making sure the SEN keep up.
And it will be this way for the 10 years for your child. They can't learn the stuff from the year ahead, so they are just going to have to deal with it. Sad, but what is the alternative. Even in a private school, you still do GCSE's and then A'levels at a set time. Other than getting 3 x A* and getting into Oxbridge, what are you hoping they achieve?

Hankunamatata · 05/06/2023 23:58

Have a look online. Bbc bitesize isn't bad - my kids are using it for Hugh school topics. Friend uses white rose maths. Another pays kumon

Muddygreenfingers · 05/06/2023 23:46

I'd love a smaller class size. I haven't had less than 30 in a class for years.

Our year 6 class is only 15 yet I've got two year groups together of 30 children.

That's village schools for you 🥴

GreenNoel94 · 05/06/2023 23:36

My ds is autistic so he has help in school to understand instructions and with his speech delay and social skills but he is miles ahead in maths and reading, he’s only 5 and knows his times tables. He will tell me which numbers fit into what and how many times and I have to check with a calculator 😂 and he was reading before he even started school. The school help where he is behind and needs support but unfortunately there’s no push to advance the things he’s ahead with so we do it at home and the same goes for my eldest.
It’s obviously worth going to the school with your concerns first but if you feel like they aren’t being challenged enough still you can do it at home. There’s so much information online on pretty much every subject even YouTube videos could help further their knowledge on topics they’re interested in if you can’t do it yourself and there’s plenty of apps that you can use to print work sheets off or maybe gets some tips from some home educating mums. I think schools ideally want most children to reach certain set targets by certain times but unfortunately don’t have the time, resources or funding to push the ones that are already excelling.

chelseabunny · 05/06/2023 23:35

Placemarking

ContinuousProcrastination · 05/06/2023 23:27

Would you like to find me more hours in the day, more energy and more support for me to actually achieve that?

@Muddygreenfingers I'd like the government to realise its impossible for all children to reach the same level unless that level is set too low for all but those of lowest academic ability.

I'd like teachers to be able/allowed to divide what little attention, TA time, intervention timd they can spare evenly across the class.

My 6 year old never gets to read with the teacher or TA. About once a term. The kids struggling read 2 or 3 times a week. This means a) my kid misses the only 1 on 1 time a kid ever gets with the teacher, that only opportunity for the teacher to see how they tick a bit. b) the teacher never actually assesses my kids reading, so they are regularly left on books that aren't suitable.

It's not fair. I know nothing is fair but I can't explain to my 6 year old why he gets less of his teacher's attention than his peers.

Macaroni46 · 05/06/2023 23:20

Ofsted not ofstead!

Macaroni46 · 05/06/2023 23:19

YSWIM · 05/06/2023 22:31

Why don't primary schools stream kids according to their levels, particularly in maths, but possible in English too? Might not be so easy if one form entry but for bigger schools like 2 and 3 form entries you could easily split them into top, middle and bottom (obviously you wouldn't call them that)

Because basically ofstead don't like it!

YSWIM · 05/06/2023 22:43

TeenLifeMum · 05/06/2023 22:38

@YSWIM because at that age it changes a lot. I say this as the mum of the twins due in October but born 30 August so very much the youngest in the year. They needed to be immersed in learning opportunities and by year 6 they were achieving great results. If they’d been streamed they wouldn’t have had the same opportunities because teachers didn’t see their potential as they were on the trajectory set out early on and their teachers always just accepted that was their aim and nothing more. Dtd1 is now predicted 8s and 9s at gcse and dtd 2 7s and 8s. Primary predicted they’d scrape their SATs - they actually achieved much higher.

Must have been tough for you all but that is lovely to hear. Our primary do adaptive assessments at least once a half term, so they could easily change sets as and when. That way the lowest performing kids can really have the much needed help and the higher performing ones be stretched. Guess it's not so cost effective for the schools though as they care about the overall performance to raise rather than really challenging those who need it. "They will do well in SATs whether or not they get extra challenge.

TeenLifeMum · 05/06/2023 22:38

@YSWIM because at that age it changes a lot. I say this as the mum of the twins due in October but born 30 August so very much the youngest in the year. They needed to be immersed in learning opportunities and by year 6 they were achieving great results. If they’d been streamed they wouldn’t have had the same opportunities because teachers didn’t see their potential as they were on the trajectory set out early on and their teachers always just accepted that was their aim and nothing more. Dtd1 is now predicted 8s and 9s at gcse and dtd 2 7s and 8s. Primary predicted they’d scrape their SATs - they actually achieved much higher.

TeenLifeMum · 05/06/2023 22:33

Majority of dc in my dc class at primary were working “above expectations” with about 1/4 Working at “greater depth”. My twins were predicted “expected” in their SATs and surprised the teachers by getting “greater depth”.

school will be stretching them if it’s been identified but you can’t fully teach attitude to learning; it needs to be ingrained at home. Even if it’s “boring”.

YSWIM · 05/06/2023 22:31

Why don't primary schools stream kids according to their levels, particularly in maths, but possible in English too? Might not be so easy if one form entry but for bigger schools like 2 and 3 form entries you could easily split them into top, middle and bottom (obviously you wouldn't call them that)

Muddygreenfingers · 05/06/2023 22:27

ContinuousProcrastination · 05/06/2023 21:09

if a parent came in to complain their child felt bored at the top, I'd happily provide more extension tasks, but at the expense of less support for the lowest. I can't do it all.

Hypothetical question. If that shifted the balance of your attention from 80% less able/ 20% more, to 70/30, would that be unfair?

This is what parents of more able children find hard, their children almost continually get far less of the teacher's attention, throughout education.

I mean honestly, I don't just focus on the lowest.
I do try my absolute best to challenge my higher children. I'd say I achieve that probably 60-70% of the time. It's not good enough really, I know that.
Some lessons I focus more on getting their level right.
Other lessons I focus on the lowest.
I do try to balance it.

I have one child who is exceptional and could easily access high school maths.
I give him SATs arithmetic books and puzzles to do if it's a lesson I know he can do.

It's not easy though.

Muddygreenfingers · 05/06/2023 22:18

ContinuousProcrastination · 05/06/2023 21:06

Muddygreenfingers

Op's kids deserve to have their needs met as much as any other child. They deserve an enjoyable, engaging education thar gives them the opportunity to achieve their potential. They are worth the teacher's time and energy as much as any other child.

Right.
So in that case, because every single child in my class deserves to have their needs met, I absolutely have to do this for every child.

In an ideal world.
Would you like to find me more hours in the day, more energy and more support for me to actually achieve that?

Toxicityofourcity · 05/06/2023 22:18

Ilovetea42 · 05/06/2023 22:13

I was always very good at English and reading etc and finished well before the rest of the class so my teacher would have given me extra worksheets to fill in or other small tasks to do to fill the time. She also got different books etc in for me to read in those spare moments so I didn't get bored and gave me responsibilities within the classroom when I'd finished early provided my work was okay. I now run an education centre for kids with widely ranging abilities ( most aren't in school for reasons that are nothing to do with academic abilities ) it's absolutely doable it just requires an individualised approach and some back up planning on the part of the teacher. I'd ask to chat with the teacher and see what you can come up with together. If it's compromising your child's willingness to attend school etc then it needs to be addressed.

Totally agree with this, I know a bit of an individualised approach can add to the already stretched workload of teachers but small things like this really make the difference. My DC was the designated photocopier! Also watered plants and tidied nature tables. Was sent to other classrooms with notes to other teachers... one teacher admitted that sometimes the note might just say 'Just need to entertain Toxcity's DC for 10mins'! 🤣 They were the best group of teachers you could ask for.

ChatWTF · 05/06/2023 22:13

At my DC state primary school, they seem to be coping with the diversity and ability in the class. Having just gone through SATs, they were very keen on stretching children who should be near or easily achieving greater depth - it’s all good stats for the school and progress scores. It’s going to really vary by teacher/class but I don’t think it’s the case schools don’t routinely stretch children and are only focused on those struggling. It’s something OFSTED also pick up on.

Toxicityofourcity · 05/06/2023 22:13

Oooh, and books, lots of extra books that they can bring to school. My DC used to bring sudoku and puzzle books and sketch books etc. too that he could pull out when they were done with the regular class work. He still does this as a teen in school now.

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