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£20 a night?

255 replies

Silverbook · 04/06/2023 08:10

How much would you pay for a school pupil to stay in your house while you were away on holiday? Main responsibility is to feed the cat. What’s reasonable?
We were thinking £15-20 but it’s divided the room with half thinking that’s too much and the other thinking not enough.
I’m reaching out the the MN wisdom and the decision here will be final.

OP posts:
xoomer · 04/06/2023 09:09

XelaM · 04/06/2023 08:39

15 is not too young to stay home alone! Mumsnet is crazy. No wonder so many teens suffer with anxiety over every little thing if their parents don't leave them home alone at 15. That's ridiculous. My 13-year-old loves having the house to herself and can cook, walk the dog, get herself on places on public transport etc.

Did you read the post?

Would you let your daughter stay at someone's house alone for 10 days?

Cook for herself every day?

Be responsible for pets and a house?

determinedtomakethiswork · 04/06/2023 09:08

There is no way I would let a 15-year-old stay in my house.

XelaM · 04/06/2023 09:07

So on another thread the vast majority of posters were trying to convince OP that it's totally normal for a 15-year-old to drink alcohol and fantasise about or have kinky sex, but on this thread everyone is saying that a 15-year-old can't stay home alone?!? 😂 So not too young for kinky sex and alcohol but too young to stay home and feed a cat? Totally bonkers.

I don't know what teens Mumsnetters have, but the ones I know are all normal and wouldn't have wild sex parties in someone else's house and would be very capable to stay home and feed a cat.

MrsLiam · 04/06/2023 09:05

I wouldn't have left my own 15 year old at home alone overnight, let alone someone else's for 10 nights.

I personally was first left for a fortnight at age 17 and I shudder to think what we got up to. I did a good clean up job though, and to this day, parents don't know!

Sisisimone · 04/06/2023 09:05

This can't be real surely 😂. A 15 Yr old will have all of their mates over, and god knows who else when word gets round. Who knows what you would come home to. Just pay for a proper cat sitter/cattery. Is it worth the risk just to scrimp on a few quid for a reliable service?

Triflenot · 04/06/2023 09:04

£20 is fine. But I’d want the 15 year old to have adult back up. I’m guessing this is a relative?

xoomer · 04/06/2023 09:03

MajesticWhine · 04/06/2023 08:28

I think £20 sounds about right. Provided there are no other responsibilities- only feeding the cat.

What? Did you not read the thread?

How much extra should he get for remembering to shut the doors and windows, turning the oven off, not flooding the house?

WesterosGreen · 04/06/2023 09:01

I'd pay them £20 NOT to come and stay in my house! This is an insane idea, they are a child.

Just get a cat feeding service!

Nordicrain · 04/06/2023 08:59

A 15 year old alone in a house with no adults at all for 10 days! That sounds like a terrible idea. Just get a cat sitter to come in and feed the cat once a day.

Zonder · 04/06/2023 08:58

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 04/06/2023 08:29

I wouldn’t let a 15 year old stay in my house for 10 days while we were away…

This. And I wouldn't let my 15 year old go and do it for someone else.

I would however suggest they pop in a couple of times a day.

Bayleaf25 · 04/06/2023 08:58

DD gets paid £10 a day just to pop in and feed friends cats / check on them/ give them some attention. She’d expect more if she was asked to house sit too though (not sure why it’s necessary though???).

frustratednomad · 04/06/2023 08:53

My granddaughter and her boyfriend are staying in our house for a week while we are away, they are looking after our 3 cats. We are supplying all food, drinks, wifi, netflix, amazon etc, I was thinking £200 between them, they are both in their 20's. Does this seem fair?

UnshakenNeedsStirring · 04/06/2023 08:52

Jeez! 15 is too young to stay alone for 10 days ffs. Get a cat sitter to come and feed the cat twice a day and pay them the going rate. Its no that expensive, Here is London its15quid an hour to pop over and spend an hour with the cat.

Flakey99 · 04/06/2023 08:51

I wouldn’t have a 15yr old staying in the house alone for 10 days just to feed the cat. A teen won’t want to be alone in the house for that long so I’d be worried about their friends turning up and things getting out of hand.

As a comparison, I paid my friend’s son (15yrs) £150 to pop over and feed the cats and chickens and clean out the chicken coop daily for 10 days last summer. They’re farmers so he’s used to looking after animals and is very responsible. He even cut the grass and watered the tomatoes in the poly tunnel although we hadn’t asked him to do that, so that was a lovely bonus.

rainbowstardrops · 04/06/2023 08:49

I'm with the majority here and think that 15 is way too young to leave in your house for 10 days!!! Why can't they just pop in morning and late afternoon to feed the cats?

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 04/06/2023 08:46

Put the cat in a Cattery or pay a professional house sitter.

User1328745 · 04/06/2023 08:43

Pythonesque · 04/06/2023 08:42

I'm assuming that this 15 yr old lives nearby so will have parents loosely available / be able to pop home and back again as appropriate. I think £20/night sounds very reasonable.

Yes, I'm assuming this as well, not that it's just some random.

lemonyellows · 04/06/2023 08:43

Why do they need to stay there? That would give me nightmares. Surely they just need to pop in to put new food and water down.

Pythonesque · 04/06/2023 08:42

I'm assuming that this 15 yr old lives nearby so will have parents loosely available / be able to pop home and back again as appropriate. I think £20/night sounds very reasonable.

Therandomtrekker · 04/06/2023 08:42

There are organisations such as trusted house sitters where people stay in your house for free and look after your pets in return for the ‘free holiday’ lodging.
At 15 a weekend maybe okay but 10 days is a long time, do they need to stay or could they just pop in to feed / play with the cat in which case £20 is fine.

XelaM · 04/06/2023 08:39

15 is not too young to stay home alone! Mumsnet is crazy. No wonder so many teens suffer with anxiety over every little thing if their parents don't leave them home alone at 15. That's ridiculous. My 13-year-old loves having the house to herself and can cook, walk the dog, get herself on places on public transport etc.

ReachForTheMars · 04/06/2023 08:39

Presumably not your own child. I wouldnt have a 15 year old stay overnight. They will be bored after a few nights.

You need to get a paid pet sitter, its just part of the cost of having pets in afraid.

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 04/06/2023 08:39

15 is to young for ten days. Really irresponsible of you op. Your house will be trashed, or they won't cope.

TinySaltLick · 04/06/2023 08:36

Surely a better option is a local cat sitter to visit twice a day, especially given you'd have to buy food for the entire duration

Doggymummar · 04/06/2023 08:35

Are you mad? Your house will be trashed or burnt down. Out the vat in a cattery for peace of mind.